I understand that stopping the pill without discussing it with your boyfriend has upset him. It’s important to communicate openly and honestly in a relationship. 🗣️
To comfort him in the meantime and address his concerns about sexual satisfaction, you can have a calm and sincere conversation with him. Apologize for not discussing your decision beforehand and reassure him that it wasn’t about wanting to exclude him from sexual pleasure. 🙏
Explain your reasons for stopping the pill, such as wanting to see how your body feels off of it and if it has improved your irregular periods. Let him know that you plan on going back on the pill in four weeks when your period starts again. ⏳
Listen to his concerns and feelings about the situation without being defensive. Validate his emotions and assure him that you understand how your previous comment sounded hurtful. Offer reassurance that your intention is not to avoid intimacy with him. 💑
In the meantime, explore other forms of contraception that may help put both of you at ease during this period. Discuss the options together and find a solution that works for both of you. It’s important to prioritize both your emotional well-being and sexual satisfaction. 😊
Remember, open communication and understanding are key to addressing any concerns in a relationship. It may take time for him to process his feelings, so be patient and give him space if needed. 🌟
You know the pill isn’t 100% effective right? So even on the pill, if he’s cumming in you, you can still get pregnant.
Your body, your choice. He can cum inside you, in a condom.
He sounds like a selfish jerk, move on.
He’s going to have to learn to cope, because if this is making him spiral he’s in for a tough life. Ngl he sounds pretty whiny and entitled. You’re free to do what you want with your birth control and maybe you should have mentioned it to him, but ultimately it is your choice.
If it were me id reach out and let him know that giving you the silent treatment isn’t going to resolve anything and that if he is upset he needs to use his words.
He should get over it because ultimately it’s your body and you can do whatever you want with it. This kind of things can happen from time to time and a dude who can’t stand his partner being off the pills for a month here and there will have a tough life.
What a selfish and disgusting thing to say. Taking away the ultimate pleasure in the bedroom?!
It’s not just your responsibility. He could use a condom or get a vasectomy.
You are not taking anything away from him.
Childish boy
It is your body and therefore 100% your decision.
Please inform your bf about the existence of condoms.
thanks guys for the replies i must talk to him properly about this thanks again
You dump him, why should you use hormones that have nasty side effects while he doesnt take any responsibility for his fertility
Even on the pill you need to double up, loads and loads of women get pregnant despite using BCP
Dont let him treat you like a cum hole
He’s selfish and gross, but just a heads up, the pill isn’t effective immediately.
Next time you speak to your doctor about birth control, ask about different options, how effective they are, how soon they’re effective, what interferes with efficacy… really do a deep dive. There are so many options to explore, and some don’t require a pill every day. I was on Depo shots for years and it worked great for me. One shot every 3 months and it was effective the second it was injected. That’s what worked for me, but there are a bunch of non-pill options to explore. Just my two cents
Fuck that guy. And he’s clearly never had to do cleanup after.
Should you have told him that you were planning to go off the pill? Yes! But not because of his infantile and irresponsible need to ejaculate inside of you (what a moronic and childish position he has), but because that was a good opportunity to make a backup plan for protection.
Never, EVER, apologize for wanting to explore how your body is working for you and how best to take care of it (and for many people going off BC is part of that process).
Honestly, I’d recommend you exploring what you need from sex in a relationship and what boundaries you’re comfortable with because from this post, it sounds like you just submit to whatever he says and then he manipulates you into apologizing and doing what he wants.
So many red flags…
OP, that guy acts like he owns you. He doesn’t. His ultimate pleasure is completely irrelevant. You are not a sex doll with selfcleaning function.
The was no reason to be upset. You are not on pills now. A good guy would answer something like “Allright, I will buy condoms then.”
I never understood why people think birth control is an end all for pregnancy and get shocked when they get pregnant. Birth control simply lowers the chance significantly of getting pregnant, it doesn’t eliminate it. I got an iud inserted and I’m still too nervous to consider going condomless even after 2 years. I’m mentioning this because I think people should be willing to use condoms more often even after going condomless for a while. Plus, this guy is 20 years old. I bet neither of you are ready for children. He’s acting immature for what cumming inside risks, he needs to wrap it
Tell him to get a vasectomy. The problem is permanently solved.
Please refrain from sex until you’re back on the pill. Don’t let him pressure you with his bad attitude. You probably should have mentioned it to him but I still say your body your choice. Also consider a second form of contraception as well until you’re ready for kids. Pregnant with my second birth control baby so I warn everyone I see on BC that it’s not 100%!!
That’s his ultimate pleasure? Not being with you? Being intimate with you and feeling mutual pleasure? Making you come and feeling you come from him? Arousing each other and the afterglow?
No, shooting his load into you that is his ultimate pleasure?
Ughh he is so childish.
What an asshole.
You DO NEED to protect yourself from pregnancy…but his response here is outa line.
Your not a fuckin sex worker. You’re supposed to be his partner. So, you need to have someone whom is going to communicate in a much better way.
Don’t get pregnant from this guy. Or you’re gonna have a really hard start in life.
Good luck.
I would recommend you have a good long talk with your doctor about the different birth control methods, in detail. Learn all your options! The effectiveness, health risks, cost… However, it sounds like they failed to inform you properly, which pisses me off. If your doctor isn’t competent, go to another one.
You should be aware the pill is only reliable when done correctly – and it is still not 100%. If you wish to avoid pregnancy, 2 types at least should be used together. Your bf ejaculating inside you may be a fetish of his. And it’s wildly irresponsible, especially at your age. The pull out method is bogus, but to not even do that… Does he want you to get pregnant??
I’d say if he doesn’t value your health and well-being, he’s not worth associating with anymore. When a man shows such disrespect, he will never change. He does not value you as a person.
Major red flag, the second a man shows that his pleasure comes before your health or preferences in his mind you should leave. That’s the kind of twat that will cheat on his wife because she can’t have dev three days sheet y birth. .
Throw the man out
>i’m taking away the ultimate pleasure for him in the bedroom which tmi is cumming in me,
You really are going to just sit around and take this?
What an entitled little prick. If that’s the only pleasure he doesn’t care about you imo
Also, silent treatment is a major red flag, I can’t stress this enough, is so manipulative and unhealthy. Don’t accept to play this game, because he will use it every time and you will suffer.
I am talking from experience. Don’t let this be how he gets what he wants, not even once. You’re doomed from that moment on.
1) He shouldn’t be cumming in you anyway, imo. You can still get pregnant while on the pill. It’s not 100% even if you take it perfectly, and almost no one takes it perfectly correct. You are asking for a pregnancy, and given the state of women’s health care in most of the world, that is dangerous. Your body, your choice; but I wouldn’t do it at all personally unless I was willing to get pregnant.
2) He is being a whiny child and acting like he is entitled to cum in you. He isn’t. You aren’t even saying no to sex. “And keep him satisfied?” Sex shouldn’t be about keeping your partner satisfied. Sex should be about mutual pleasure and building a connection. The fact that you typed that means you have a very unhealthy idea about sex being about his pleasure and you serving him. About sex being something you do for him. Girl, think about yourself. You aren’t a sex doll. You aren’t a sex slave. You are a person.
I would dump his ass in less than a second. He is and has been showing you the type of person he is. Listen.
Ok I was with him at first with the lack of mentioning it to him but he’s really showing his true colors lol. He cares more about his pleasure than your body feeling it’s best, whether that’s on the pill or off. He also can’t wait 4 week..? Id be questioning this relationship
Time for a new man. Seriously. He does need to know you aren’t on it. He doesn’t get to be mad because you took away his ultimate pleasure. The pill is very hard on women. I often took a break from it as well. My partner would just have to use condoms and spermicide. My comfort matters too. And birth control isn’t 100% your job. He’s acting very immature.
Your bf is selfish and views you as his sex toy, not an equal partner. In general, it’s a bad idea to be in a relationship with men like this. Do what you believe is right for you, but please hear my “elder woman” warning (34). It’s gonna end badly for u.
Just because I haven’t seen it yet while reading comments:
It usually is not recommended to start and stop birth control with such short intervals
To see how your body is without the hormones would probably take a few months
And every restart of a hormonal birth control increases/resets the risk for thrombosis
So please talk to your doctor and inform yourself about proper use of different birth control through trusted sources!
I know you already got good advice.
But I 28f just wanna say:
Lol no. To all of it. He can go fu ck himself. His expectations are stupid.
If my boyfriend acted like this with me, that’d be a fat nope from me. Like… You’re taking drugs that change your body so he can bust a nut in you.
What sacrifices does he make that even compare?
I get that it can be a bummer but that’s life. If he can’t cope with this tiny thing, imagine how poorly he’ll act when something big happens.
Any of the women in my age group would laugh him into oblivion if he tried that.
He sees you as a cum rag. Is that all you aspire to be, a cum rag to an entitled, gross dude?
If he likes the pill that much he can take it :)))
No man on earth has the RIGHT to *expect* to come inside you. It is YOUR body, which means if he wants to have fun with it, he MUST abide by your rules.
To be blunt – you’re 18. You need to be on birth control and have your partner wear condoms when you have sex. You’re too young for a kid. Two methods needed.
Lord. I hope you don’t plan on reproducing with this guy. I think his head would explode when he finds out you can’t have sex for a minimum of 6 weeks after birth.
Guy is a selfish pig.
Wait you want advice on how to make him feel better? It is not hurtful to tell a man you don’t want him to cum in you. He’s manipulative.