#RoommateTroubles #SplittingBills #RelationshipDrama
Hey everyone! So, I’ve been dealing with a tricky situation living with my flatmate. We’ve been sharing a flat in London for almost 2 years now, and things are getting kinda rough. The rent is £1500 a month, and while I’ve been shelling out around £1200-£1300 for rent, council tax, and electricity, my flatmate has only been contributing £300.
I tried to be understanding when she said she wasn’t making much from her jobs and even offered to let her handle cleaning and food expenses instead. But turns out, she barely did any of that, and I ended up doing most of the work while also buying her treats.
To add to the drama, when she finally got a job, she only revealed later that it was part-time and she was making £500, with £300 going towards rent. She even lied about working full-time or having a second job to justify her low contribution.
I’ve been feeling frustrated and stuck, especially when she plays the guilt-trip card and cries every time I bring up the issue. It’s a tough spot to be in, and I’m not sure what to do next. So, why can’t we simply split the bill 50/50? What do you guys think? Let’s chat and figure this out together! 💸🤔 #NeedAdvice #TimeForChange #RoommateWoes
Just break up with her and stick to it?
Make your plan and do it.
It’s this relationship really making your life better? Because the point of a relationship is to improve your life.
Well, what do you want to do here?
If you want to get out of this relationship, then do it. Break up with her. Tell her you want her to move out as soon as you can legally require her to.
If not – ugh. I don’t know how you get over the way she has treated you regarding money, such as the lying and excuses… but I do know it starts with her recognizing she did something wrong and apologizing for it. And even if that had already happened, she also just doesn’t earn enough right now and with her depression issues that might be something you’re kinda stuck with.
I’d lean towards the first option.
Dude, just break up with her and stick to it. She’s going to cry, she’s going to make a scene. You are just going to need to power through it. You will feel better once it’s done. Get rid of the freeloader and move on with your life.
Sane adults who respect one another, split expenses by income percent.
People who do not like each other, shouldn’t live together.
Hope this helps.
Why are you staying in a relationship with someone who lied to you for a year?
Grow a spine and fully break up with her
She’s using you and you’re allowing it.
You shouldn’t stay with someone just because of your age. Be single and find someone who doesn’t lie and is responsible enough to work and contribute
Just grow a backbone and break up.
Stop wasting your time. Seriously.
She’s a selfish loser and can’t afford to live in London.
>she doesn’t even go shower for 2-3 days and i have to wash her in the bathroom and she just slacking in the bedroom all days and go on her laptop/phone.
Bro, no
Half the problem is that this woman sucks, the other half is that she’s holding the door closed for a better woman.
It’s time to set her free. It might even spur her on to improve. It might be the kick in the butt she needs.
This isn’t about money. It rarely is. This is about lying.
She is lying to you on a regular basis. What’s worse? She doesn’t care about it either.
She’s using you.
If you’d rather be used than loved, than go ahead, but do not get her pregnant.
If she’s willing to seek help, and follows through with it, you might give her a bit more time, but with all her bullshit so far, if she blows off one session, I’d be done.
You’ve wasted two years on a lying user, how many more you gonna give her? Not only is she sucking cash out of you, but your literal life.
Go to the bedside table, pull out your self esteem, dust it off, and put some hard boundaries in place, then boot her when she either lies, or tries to manipulate you.
Oh no, he caught me in a lie, he’s mad, I’ll cry and he’ll forget aaaall about it.
She doesn’t make that much money, if you want to stay with here you have to carry her. If you are not willing to do this, you should find someone that can do a better job keeping up.
Make a new plan Stan…..
There’s no point in telling us in the comments what she should be doing. You should be telling HER. For gods sake she is 27. Lip filler is not a necessity, it’s a luxury. That’s a laughable comment. Beware, next she will feel you pulling away and boom, pregnant “accidentally” and she will want to be a stay at home mother with an allowance for her luxuries so she doesn’t have to work. Then you will be stuck. I’m not saying she’s like that but it is a possibility.
You’re 25. You have soooo much time to meet someone who has equal values, not someone you’re parenting. As for the the bereavement, yes that’s sad. Everyone grieves differently but life goes on. I lost 2 people close to me within a 3 month span and yes I was sad and I still do be sad BUT I had to get up and get out and work for myself and my child and partner. She needs to get up and go for you and your relationship. It is NOT fair that you are footing the bills. Give her an ultimatum or just break up with her. She’s crying for herself and how good she has it, not for the relationship. And if she is truly that depressed, let her go to the doctor and sort a plan for her depression. Medication, exercise etc. put your foot down or you’ll end up having mental health issues yourself with the stress.
You either need to leave her or stop complaining and accept that this is your life with her, because she isn’t going to change as long as she has you enabling her jobless, non cooking/cleaning/washing behaviour!
So what if you have to start again, you’re nearly 30 not 60, that’s plenty of time to find a better woman, just make sure she ticks all the boxes, job ✅ mentally stable✅
cooks and cleans the house and herself✅,
good sexlife✅
will go 50/50✅
it’s not asking for too much is it, that’s the bare minimum you’re asking for.
Maybe Give her a couple weeks to find somewhere else but definitely tell her it’s over you gotta go, it’s not working for me, ignore the tears, that’s just manipulation, if she really meant those tears she would do better, but she’s a leech just sucking you dry, financially, physically and emotionally.
Why are you with this lazy, lying woman?
End this relationship now.
Idk why this post is about splitting bills when really it should be about the best way to get this lazy freeloaders mooch out of your life! She lies to you, she doesn’t do anything when she is home most of the time and then she manipulates you everytime you try to end it by crying and making you feel bad. The real question you should ask yourself is if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life? If the answer is no then rip the bandaid off and kick her our! She must have family or friends she can freeload off of instead.
Don’t light yourself on fire to keep another person warm
Why can’t you simply break up?
Dude, this isn’t about what the proper split is. This is about your girlfriend being a lying, manipulative, lazy loser.
Dude. Big boy pants time.
She cries because you fold like a house of cards every time. She knows exactly what she is doing and she is never going to stop mooching off of you
Break up with her and get her out. Stop falling for the manipulative crocodile tears
“Every time I want to break up with her, she cries heavily with real tears, and it makes me feel so friggin’ bad, and then I forgive her and say sorry and move on, and then the issue repeats again.”
You are being manipulated and financially abused/taken advantage of you dude. She’s also been lying and deceiving you on important issues and over a long period of time. Her excuses are BS.
Don’t stay with this person, she isn’t a good partner.
Find yourself a new place to live, then just move out. Talk to your landlord before hand and get yourself removed from the lease. Don’t mention her work or ability/lack to pay the rent herself.
Dude come ON. Break up. Stay broken up. Problem solved.
You guys ever just wonder how pretty the girl has to be to make these guys go through these things and still not break up with her?
Like the answer is obvious but Op is expecting us to say something like “feed her grapes it’ll change her characteristics and she’ll sudden give a crap about you”
So she knows if she cries really hard you’ll never break up with her, right?
She’s using you. End things now.
90% of your future happiness is determined by the partner you choose.
You are not setting yourself up for success
She’s crying cos she doesn’t want to return to the real world.
She is not a partner, but wants to be taken care of. You are clearly a kind person, or the tears would not move you. However for a life partner, you need that. Some one who gets with you and quits her job, and doesn’t contribute is not a life partner. If this is not what you want (I wouldn’t want it), I would tell her it is not working out. Find a partner, not an adult child. There are many of us that are partners.