#GenderEquality #SexToys #DoubleStandards #NormalizeSexToys
In today’s society, there seems to be a double standard when it comes to the ownership and use of sex toys. When a girl or woman keeps or owns a sex toy, it is often considered “okay” or even empowering. However, when a boy or man does the same, he is often labeled as a creep or pervert. But why does this double standard exist? And does it really make that much of a difference in who owns and uses a sex toy?
Let’s delve into this topic and explore the reasons behind this double standard, as well as discuss why it’s important to normalize the use of sex toys for everyone.
##Why the Double Standard?
The double standard regarding the ownership and use of sex toys can be attributed to a number of factors, including societal norms, cultural beliefs, and gender stereotypes. Here are a few reasons why this double standard exists:
###1. Gender Stereotypes
– Society often associates masculinity with dominance and control, while femininity is associated with submission and passivity. This can lead to the perception that men who use sex toys are somehow emasculated, while women who use sex toys are empowered.
– There is a belief that men should be sexually assertive and experienced, while women should be more passive and receptive. This can lead to the misconception that men who use sex toys are lacking in some way, while women who use sex toys are simply exploring their sexuality.
###2. Cultural Beliefs
– Many cultures have traditional views on sexuality that dictate what is considered “normal” or acceptable behavior. These beliefs can contribute to the stigmatization of male sex toy usage, while female sex toy usage is often seen as more socially acceptable.
– Some cultures place a greater emphasis on male sexual prowess and virility, which can lead to a negative perception of men who use sex toys. On the other hand, female sexuality is often seen as more fluid and open to exploration.
###3. Societal Norms
– Society places a higher value on female sexuality and often objectifies women. As a result, women who own and use sex toys are sometimes viewed as more sexually liberated and empowered.
– Men, on the other hand, are often judged harshly for expressing their sexuality in ways that deviate from traditional norms. This can lead to the unfair labeling of men who use sex toys as deviant or abnormal.
##Why Normalizing Sex Toys is Important
While the double standard regarding the ownership and use of sex toys is deeply ingrained in society, it is important to challenge these norms and strive for gender equality in all aspects of sexuality. Here are a few reasons why normalizing sex toys is crucial:
###1. Sexual Health and Wellness
– Sex toys can be a valuable tool for exploring one’s sexuality, enhancing pleasure, and improving sexual health and wellness. By normalizing the use of sex toys for everyone, we can help break down barriers to sexual exploration and promote overall sexual well-being.
– Both men and women can benefit from the use of sex toys, whether they are looking to spice up their sex life, learn more about their bodies, or discover new forms of pleasure. Normalizing sex toys can help ensure that everyone has access to safe and enjoyable sexual experiences.
###2. Gender Equality
– Normalizing the ownership and use of sex toys for all genders can help promote gender equality in the realm of sexuality. By challenging the double standard that exists around sex toys, we can work towards a more inclusive and respectful society where everyone’s sexual choices are respected.
– Men should not be shamed or ridiculed for exploring their sexuality or using sex toys, just as women should not be judged for doing the same. Embracing diversity and acceptance in sexual expression can help us move towards a more equal and understanding society.
###3. Breaking Down Stigmas
– The stigma surrounding sex toys, especially for men, can prevent individuals from fully embracing their sexuality and exploring what brings them pleasure. By normalizing the use of sex toys, we can help break down these stigmas and create a more open and accepting conversation around sexuality.
– Everyone has the right to explore their sexuality in a way that feels safe and fulfilling to them. By challenging the stereotypes and misconceptions that exist around sex toys, we can create a more inclusive and positive environment for sexual expression.
In conclusion, the double standard that exists around the ownership and use of sex toys is a reflection of deeply ingrained gender stereotypes and cultural beliefs. However, it is important to challenge these norms and work towards a more inclusive and accepting society where everyone’s sexual choices are respected. Normalizing the use of sex toys for all genders is crucial for promoting sexual health, wellness, and gender equality. Let’s strive to create a world where everyone feels empowered to explore their sexuality in a way that feels right for them, free from judgment or stigma. 🌈🍆💋
Remember, it’s important to celebrate diversity and promote acceptance in all aspects of sexuality. Let’s work together to break down barriers, challenge stereotypes, and create a more inclusive and understanding world for everyone. #SexToyEquality #SexualEmpowerment #BreakTheStigma
Nothing like that. You are probably in an inconsiderate company. You can have what you want for your sexual satisfaction, as long as it’s not disturbing for others around
Was his sex toy out? Cause if so then yeah that would be weird but I wouldn’t go shaming a guy for that. Masturbation is literally so normal I don’t see why people feel the need to be all weird about it.
“high school”
Teens will freak out over pretty much nothing and have a strong shame culture. Most adults are just trying to mind their own business.
I believe it’s because logistically, women have easier access to sex. When a woman uses a sex toy, the assumption often isn’t “she couldn’t find a man”. The woman is more likely to *choose* to use a sex toy, whereas the man is more likely to *settle for* using a sex toy.
Duality of society.
Dude gets more likely shamed/laughed at for having a fleshlight, women not so much for having a dildo because empowerment and such.
Same goes for a man having many casual sex partners, he is more likely to be celebrated than being called a whore like a women would be.
>looks over at collection of absolutely massive bad dragon toys
I think it depends on the toy. Also bathroom is more of a communal space for the house/guests as opposed to a bedroom which is more private. Her friend “found” them, implying they were kept stored away, and kinda feels like her friend was snooping around. With the bathroom situation the “found” kinda sounds like he had just used it and carelessly left it out on the sink or something. Unless he intentionally stores them in the bathroom in a drawer or under the sink I guess?
If we were talking like regular ol’ vibrator vs regular ol’ fleshlight, kept clean, in a special drawer or something, then there isn’t a difference.
Also these are high schoolers. Most adults wouldn’t care. I pet sat for friends and accidentally stumbled upon my friend’s husband’s fleshlight once while looking for dog treats, and I was unfazed.
Back when I had a roommate I was looking for a flashlight when the power was out. If my roommate had been female I don’t think I would have had the same horrifying realization I was not holding a flashlight after trying to turn it on.
Most of them dont seem like full grown at all
This is the flip side of the “body count” issue.
Guys are expected to be actively “getting some”. So if they have lots of conquests that’s ok. If they “settle” for a sex toy there must be something “wrong”.
Meanwhile gals were expected to be passively “saving it”. Historically that meant being completely ” chaste”, meaning no sexual experience at all. Now that means tacitly acknowledging that gals ” have needs” while still somehow staying away from men.
For the same reason women are shamed as sluts and men are honored as studs for sleeping around. Dumb societal standards
He is living alone in an apartment while attending high school?
It is not just teenagers that react that way. When you hear a guy talking about their “fleshlight” or their “vibrator”, you think “eww”. When you hear a women, it is fine indeed.
I can think of 3 different reasons:
1) When a woman uses a vibrator, she decides against the very much easy choice to just have sex with some guy. When a man uses toys, he is perceived as desperate because he can’t get some.
2) Things you shove into your ass or cum into are nastier and harder to clean than a vibrator that was in a vagina.
3) Men don’t want to hear about men’s sexuality. Women don’t feel easy when a man talks about his sexuality. Everyone, men and women alike, loves women’s sexuality.
A guy who is old enough to have his own apartment invited a bunch of high school kids over, and somehow his sex toys are discovered??
I have no idea why they would call him a creep or pervert.
Sexism. It’s everywhere in human culture.
I know! Wtf my photorealistic custom sex doll that looks exactly like my dad at 24 isn’t *that* creepy! Double standard bs!!!!!!!
Simple. A woman having a sex toy and foregoing sex with men is seen as empowered, a man having a sex toy and not scoring a woman is seen as a failure.
Reaching orgasm is easy for men, it’s usually a lot more difficult for women, hence actually needing toys
Where are you hearing that from?
Also, people should keep their sex toys private, and not necessarily tell people they have them, unless it is used in the relationship!
Because women can get laid if they want to.
Most men can’t, so when they get a sex toy they’re seen as losers that have to resort to plastic because they got no hoes.
Here’s the thing, nobody else should know except your partner. WTF does anyone else know what you’re doing to pleasure yourself?
Most women often have an easier time getting laid, thanks to the abundance of options on dating apps. So, when they opt for toys instead, it’s seen as empowering, not desperate or creepy.
On the flip side, most guys struggle to find partners, which is why turning to sex toys can come off as desperate or creepy.
It’s like how guys with high body counts are seen as “chads” for doing something most guys can’t i.e get laid, while women face judgment for doing something that’s not as hard to do.
Just be yourself and make sure to talk with your partner about it. The creeps most Likely have them to but as ashamed and repressed.
Dude…..It’s high school.
Double standards would be my guess.
my personal opinion? woman statistically have a much harder time getting orgasms from sex or masturbating. men don’t.
if a woman has a sex toy, even if she has a boyfriend, you think nothing of it because again, statistically it might make things easier for her. if a guy has a sex toy, single or not, you may wince, because guys have a much easier time orgasming. it makes you think “why does this guy need the extra stimulation? why is his hand/a woman not enough for him, when it’s enough for the rest of men?”
When you’re a grown person you’ll realize no one cares. This is such a highschool issue.
I think that highly depends on your age.
I’m in my late 20s, and this is a non topic. The only time I can remember this being a thing is when we turned 18. Their friends bought the birthday girl a dildo as a “hihihaha.
I guess it also has to do with media and what is normalized to talk about. In TV shows, there is always a scene where the female leads find, buy, or get a sex toy and act all flustered about it. Only to have a scene at the end where they come to terms with them having urges.
That one again is conditioned by women being shamed for feeling sexual urges while men are treated as hupersexual beings. So, it is not seen as necessary to write or do anything for the hetero male sexual liberation.
Then, there is the perceived loss of masculinity. If you as a man have to resort to buying something expensive for your pleasure, it is seen as a failure. Obviously, you guys should be able to go to a bar and just snatch a woman.
So, in short, sexism also hurts you guys!
( a courtesy of my 4 year sociology degree)
Archaic societal standards!
If you want a flesh light, get one. Fuck the haters.
Probably because it’s fairly new, I assume it was the same with women toys before it was mainstream.
Hmm, you’re right, the stigma is stupid and wrong.