“Should I Invite My Girlfriend to My Best Friend’s Wedding? My girlfriend (24F) is upset that she wasn’t invited to my best friend’s wedding. What’s the best way to handle this situation to make everyone happy? #relationshipadvice #weddingetiquette #girlfrienddrama”
How to Handle the Situation:
– Communicate openly with both your girlfriend and best friend
– Understand your girlfriend’s feelings and address them
– Consider the reasons why your girlfriend may not have been invited
– Find a compromise that suits all parties involved
Conclusion:
By addressing the issue with communication, understanding, and empathy, you can navigate this tricky situation gracefully and ensure a positive outcome for all. #communicationiskey #empathyinrelationships
Whoa. Girlfriend has some serious main character energy.
They can’t afford her at the wedding. If they allow you to pay to include her, that wouldn’t be fair to the other people with +1’s who CAN’T afford to pay extra for their inclusion.
But your girlfriend, who is obviously a bit vain, thinks it’s because SHE’S TOO PRETTY!? And if she can’t be included then you have to cut off your best friend!?
My guy, I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
Weddings turn everyone into assholes.
Your GF needs to take a step back and get a reality check. If NO ONE is bringing a +1, then that is what the requirement. It has nothing to do with your precious snowflake of a GF.
I think her not being invited is hurting her ego and some true colors are showing on her end.
Sure it sucks not to be invited but the bride and groom decided what goes and hey, they can’t afford it…
Her giving you an ultimatum is insane and her bringing up stealing the show is also insane.
You shouldn’t lose your bestie cause her ego is hurt.
Respect the couple’s wish
Ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who would want you to end a friendship with your best friend due to them not being invited to their wedding and would want you to be petty and not invite said best friend to your wedding.
Haven’t you pointed out there are no plus ones?
They aren’t making an exception for her, she’s asking them to make an exception for her.
Does she have a raging ego or something or is she just not seeing this for what it is?
Your girlfriend is not that hot, I’m sorry but no one is. The day isn’t about her and no one cares about a guest more than the bride. She sounds….insufferable. Please don’t drop your best friend for someone like this.
So, does she genuinely believe that the couple havent allowed anyone a +1, excluding a lot of other people as well, just because the bride to be is scared your gf will be so attractive that she would steal the show? If this is how she usually behave around other people, I wouldnt have invited her either, mainly because she sounds quite insecure and rude, which is rarely a kind combo to the people who wont let them be the main character in their lives.
Uhhhh… your gf is being pretty fucking demanding here. The credited response to her is: “I am not ending my friendship with my best friend bc they don’t have the money for guests to bring a +1. This is not personal to you, nobody dislikes you or is afraid you will steal the show, again, it is just that guests are NOT receiving invites with a +1. Finally, there is no way my BF isn’t getting an invite to my wedding, that shit is a non-starter.”
Your girlfriend is outta control. I’d sooner end the relationship than the friendship with the person you are best man for… my gosh, your gf sounds really self centred if no one else is getting a plus one.
You should tell your girlfriend to get the absolute F*** over herself. That’s just disgusting main character syndrome and she needs to realize the world doesn’t revolve around her
Your girlfriend sounds incredibly immature. If the bride and groom decide no plus ones because of costs, then that is the hard rule. For your GF to say the bride doesn’t want the show stolen by your GF shows an incredibly lack of maturity and major insecurity. Also, her wanting you to end the friendship, again, so immature.
Keep your best friend, dump the girl. Don’t marry this girl either. She is a dead weight around your neck and I don’t care how good the sex is.
Your GF sounds like an.. interesting.. partner and a generally self-centered person. Best of luck. Do remind her that it’s not her wedding.
Nah, your gf is outta line. It’s THEIR day. They can invite or not invite anyone THEY want. She should get over herself.
😬 if this is how she acts I can see why she wasn’t invited
Agree GF needs to get a grip. Thinking she isn’t invited b/c she is better looking and will upstage the bride is pretty darn conceited and egotistical. If the bridal party must limit guests due to $, then it’s a real can of worms determining who brings a +1 and who doesn’t. For all you know, your request might cause issues within the B or G’s families if some of them were also limited. It usually really not a big deal. Gf needs to grow up. Not everything is about her.
Reading that you’ve been dating for 4 years, I’m guessing this is the same girlfriend you talk about in one of your old posts. The one who has BPD but won’t seek therapy. Based on some of the things you’ve described there that she does (and how your gf seems to think she’s not invited because she’ll upstage the bride), maybe your best friend and his fiancee have valid reasons to not want her there.
I am going to disagree with most people here…..It just sucks when newlyweds to be do not allow for their friends to bring a plus one. Especially if they have been dating for a long period of time. It is just extremely poor mannered and rude and shows they have no consideration for their guests comfort at all.
While there is not much you can do about it, don’t expect you girlfriend to ever cosy up to them. And quite frankly I put that on the bride and groom to be!
It’s not her wedding to decide the guest list. If everyone’s not allowed to bring +1s, then you’re not being treated any differently from anyone else. Period. She can’t just decide that she’s coming whether everyone likes it or not. Even if that other best man being able to bring his +1 is because they’re engaged, are you ready to marry this girl?
This is your chance to see how your spouse respects your friends and family, as well as boundaries that are set. She is showing you exactly who she is when she doesn’t get her way. Pay attention to it. If she’s been able to attend other parties and events with your bestie and his fiancé, then it really must be that they’re limiting it only to close friends and relatives and no +1s and there’s **nothing wrong with that**.
Please continue to pay attention to her behavior when she doesn’t get something that she wants or is asked to respect a boundary. You are seeing what your life will be like if you continue a relationship with her.
Tell your lady to put her big girl pants on and enjoy her free day. This wedding 100% isn’t about her. The ultimatum is childish at best.
Your girlfriend sounds like a real treat, OP.
It may be personal (based on your girlfriend’s behavior, that would not shock me), it may not be. But no one at this wedding with the exception of one person has a +1. She needs to get over herself, seriously.
Yikes. Imagine being so narcissistic you legitimately think you’re being excluded because of your beauty.
OP normally I tend to say its horrible to not invite +1 for MOH/BM, especially when they are in a yearlong relationship BUT honestly you both think its about her outshining the bride? Because „she is so attractive“? Absolutely no idea why they maybe don’t like her….because hey, we all know, optically beautiful people are automatically the better humans. What is wrong with her? Its the day and celebration of your best friend and his fiancés love! You should support them. How do you think your friendship will survive her behavior and you enabling her?
And ouch, I am waiting to your following post in a few years „my fiancée goes full bridezilla and even she gots just the best engagement ring (she told me which one to buy) and I have took a loan of 100k for payments to venue , catering and this stuff and she is still unhappy that the bridesmaids are not paying 1000 of dollars to her bachelorette party and the dresses she chooses (they are sooo beautiful in a perfect babypowderblue and matches the wedding color scheme perfectly) and why nobody of my friends are coming ?“ (and your first response to any reply: they are just jealous!!)