#JobStruggles #CareerDecisions #WorkplaceAbuse
Have you ever found yourself in a toxic work environment, where you’re being mistreated and disrespected on a daily basis? 🤯 It can be incredibly frustrating and demoralizing, leaving you with the urge to storm out and scream on your way out the door. But what keeps you from doing so, especially if you know you won’t be getting a recommendation?
Here are a few reasons why it might be better to leave quietly:
– Maintaining professionalism: Leaving quietly can help you maintain your professionalism and reputation in the industry.
– Avoiding burning bridges: Storming out in a fit of rage could burn bridges with your former employer and colleagues.
– Protecting your mental health: Exiting peacefully can help you protect your mental health and well-being.
So, what’s the incentive to leave peacefully after being mistreated at a job? 🤔 One solution could be to focus on your future and the opportunities that lie ahead. By exiting gracefully, you can start fresh and move on to a better, more positive work environment that values and respects you.
What do you think? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences below! 💬 #JobStruggles #CareerDecisions #WorkplaceAbuse
The only person you can hurt by not leaving peacefully is yourself. Have some pride.
What will you gain by doing that? It’s not going to change anything about the company. They will only talk about ‘that crazy guy’ who carried on when he left and think they dodged a bullet (maybe literally) with you leaving. Be the professional you want others to treated you as.
I don’t want to give them the narrative they want. Being able to show composure and leave on your own terms shows control and maybe even power. :l
From what I’ve read, anyone hiring or recruiting will think you are the problem if you complain about anything.
Alot of places are known to talk to each other too.
Sometimes you have to pick your battles.
You’ll burn bridges and the world is a much smaller place then you think it is. Remember a good chunk of people don’t want to be there either they are there just because they want to pay rent.
Be the bigger person even if it sucks
It’s mature and professional. You never know who is working there that you may cross paths with again who might remember a juvenile outburst. Finally, don’t give them the satisfaction of seeing your upset – walk out with dignity and move on to something better.
what is the incentive to not act like a nutcase?
Your professional reputation. You also sound young, so you don’t know how much you’re willing to put up with for the sake of meeting your financial needs until you find a new job elsewhere.
I have done both. Walked out very rudely at one job and another job I walked out nice and quiet. It’s up to you,do what you wanna do
Because I’m not a child that throws tantrums?
I’m an adult.
Personal dignity…. Making a scene doesn’t make you look cool, this isn’t a movie, you just look deranged.
I still use my old positions for my resume. This is why I always leave the company on good terms with a 2 weeks notice in case interviewers do actually call to verify. Don’t want to get exposed as the guy that had a meltdown and quit without notice. Also it’s being the bigger person if you have to deal with shitty management.
Your colleagues will talk. In five years they will be distributed thtough your industry and adjacencies. When you are looking for a job 5 years from now, chances are they will be asked. There is nothing to be gained by leaving an impression with them as a high strung, volatile individual with no self-control, and ppotentially much to lose. Why take the chance for a fleeting moment of satisfaction?
Money
I experienced this and can say 2 things
1. As absolutely terrible as that job was, I needed to find another job or be fired for unemployment benefits. I wanted to tell the owner off or on a couple occasions just punch him in the face for his behavior. However enduring his constant shit ensured I had stable income.
2. As much as the loud approach would have been “fun” I doubtfully would get the last laugh. The vision of a powerful tell off and storm out didn’t seem realistic. Realistically I either got escorted out by the owner or the police.
When I finally got an offer from another company it was easy to leave quietly. I sent a carefully worded email saying resignation effective immediately with a few reasons sprinkled in because I wanted to be clear what the problem was.
NEVER BURN A BRIDGE… weather you see it or not. HR is talking to other HR. Employees of company A talk to friends of company b – z and NO ONE talks about the “good” employee…. but boy do they talk about the “problem” ones….. don’t become the narrative….. composure, polite and refrain from actions that would reflect negatively on you.
Lmao, I didn’t!
I got scolded for using a post it note on my first day; then 2 weeks in I had to have a meeting with my manager because they felt I was “relying too heavily on my training notes (that I was feverishly writing down because they have 0 procedures written down, and regularly argued about what the “proper” procedure was during meetings).” And the manager felt this way because I would “spend 4-5 seconds” looking at my notes while processing forms (for a job I had 1 week of training in, and was trained in my second language).
At the 6 week mark, my one coworker who worked in another department started snapping at me whenever I would ask her questions (almost like “you have the audacity to question me!?”).
On my last day, just 2 hours into the work day, she came into my office and started snapping at me, asking me why I sent an email to a vendor, because “it confused them.” I sent said email because the person I was filling in for explicitly told me to send a canned message, *that they themself wrote*, in said situation. And even after explaining that to this woman, she still started screeching at me.
I’d have left quietly, but when I went to turn in my badge and keys, she happened to be in the cfo’s office, and tried to start talking at me; so I snapped back at her: “don’t talk to me. Don’t look at me. Don’t scream at me on the phone.”
Then I slammed my keys and badge on cfo’s desk, told him “I quit. I’m done being mentally abused.”
I recently stormed out to my last job. The immediate cause was wage theft. However, I was already eyeing the door due to how overworked and abused we were. I was open to the people that I interviewed with. I pointed out if I was the problem then the manager will have a hard time explaining why they retained me for just shy of 3 years.
I think for me it was knowing that my coworkers who I actually really liked and respected would see this negative side of me (seemingly out of nowhere) bitching about the same shit they’re dealing with. My boss contributed to a lot of the stress, but the job itself ultimately wasn’t for me. All my other coworkers were living the same work life as me and understood. They were just more cut out for it or had no other options at the time unfortunately. If anything I felt and still feel sorry for the ones who haven’t been able to progress or leave. I will admit that I quit on the spot (I had used up all my vacation time to start working at the new job to make sure nothing weird happened). I just told them I had personal issues that would directly prevent me from being able to continue working there anymore. I wrote goodbye cards to the staff so that I could leave on a more positive note and it helped me mentally focus on the good times I had rather than staying mad.
While I’ve had jobs that absolutely deserved some shit talk on the way out. Ultimately it changes nothing.
You leave a job and give some long speech about how terrible it is and it will change nothing. Your coworkers know the place sucks. Management often knows they suck and don’t care or are just completely oblivious. And having some long monologue on the way out does nothing for anyone.
The only way to stick it to an employer is to just quit with no notice and make sure you leave nothing for them.
I also don’t subscribe to the whole don’t burn down your bridges. You leave a job forget it and everyone. And from my point of you the employer burnt the bridge first your just letting it burn 🔥
People talk. It doesn’t matter how bad the situation actually is, you risk looking like the unstable one who threw a tantrum.
It gives you nothing more then a small moment of satisfaction but can bite you in many different ways. It’s not worth it
1. That’s more work than just leaving. Why put more effort into something if I don’t need to?
2. I have dignity
What keeps me?
A job market so terrible, that people are looking for 6-12 months for a job.
So, stay with the terrible company temporarily, keep your “passive candidate” advantage – and look for a better job.
Got the new job? Bail quietly. Hasta la bye bye and enjoy life.
Because you already took all this shit and then you act a fool on your way out and everyone’s just going to laugh and think you a psycho. It does nothing except prove them right that you weren’t fit for whatever promotions you thought you wanted and you just end up looking like a clown on your way out. Think of any scenario where the person losing their shit was seen as the correct one.
Being able to maintain control of your emotions is always seen as strength of character. I’m not saying these perceptions are correct, you can be rightfully angry in many cases, I’m simply stating how most people perceive outbursts of emotions.
It will drive them mad that they have not crushed your spirit.
Leave asap. The longer you stay will just not benefit you, and get any other job.
Like it or not, you find you often run into the same people somewhere else, unless you move like 3000 miles away.
Part of it is giving a bad manager ammo against you. Even if you leave, that manager and your former coworkers will still remember you. You could be Crazy Stacy who stormed out screaming and went viral on TikTok when your coworker tags you in the video. Or you could just be Stephanie-or was it Stacy?- who worked here maybe a year ago and was fine I think. If you really want to flip everyone off, get an amazing new job with a killer compensation package and talk about it in a genuinely excited way (read: not bragging). Then you become Star Stacy and are remembered by your accomplishment of getting an amazing job.
The world is so much smaller than you think it is. There is a nonzero chance that a former coworker ends up at a job that you apply to or are hired to later one. There’s a nonzero chance that your manager knows a manager at a job you want. Don’t build up a bad reputation that will precede you.
Even if you hate your job, leaving in good standing provides a safety net if your next endeavor falls through. It’s easy to say “fuck this place, I’m never coming back” until you’re 3 months into unemployment, your savings are running low, and your options are work at the grocery store for a significant pay cut or come crawling back to your last job.
Also: security clearances. You will have a tough time getting a security clearance if you make a scene storming out. You might never need a clearance but don’t knock yourself out of the running so soon given the great pay and benefits those jobs tend to have. Not disclosing past employers when asked is a guaranteed way to get a clearance rejected, so that’s not an option. Clearance investigations focus on if you’re a stable individual instead of your performance as an employee, so a bad manager shitting on your performance won’t matter nearly as much as citing an outburst.
You’re an adult and everyone else that is still there deals with the same shit as you without throwing a tantrum. Also shows emotional weakness and defeat.
Who cares. Everyone’s full of shit.
I’m southern so the sweeter the words, the more likely it is that I despise you lol.
The ‘kill them with kindness’ approach. Everyone knows you are being passive aggressive but nobody will call you on it.
Jobs don’t really give recommendations anymore. It’s all are they rehireable. Some people will get the nod just to get them out of where they are currently. I have given the nod to terrible employees I wanted to quit
Here’s my advice and I was fired. Being mismanaged and abuse is out of your control. No matter where you end up, you will find people like that. In rare cases there are good managers. The point is enduring as much as you can and it you get fired then it is what it is. A job doesn’t define you. Leave if you truly believe it’s going to cause major mental health problems. People say the job market is awful (it is) but that doesn’t mean you’ll never find a job.
Always remember to not storm out or scream. That to me is like you’re going to their level and you don’t want to be that person. For me I accepted my fate regardless of the matter looking for new and better opportunities. I did not storm out or screamed. I knew what they said about me by accusing x y z about me and spinning narratives that weren’t true but I didn’t want to say anymore.
Realize your worth as a human being. Weigh out your options. Learn from this experience.
A legitimate fear of the rumor mill and nosy future employers, a misunderstanding of how background checks work, and an illegitimate fear that it will go on your Personal Record.
it won’t make you feel any better. Had a few jobs/internships that were absolute fucking turkeys as far as culture. Instead, I celebrated by doing something fun for myself the same day I left. Went on a camping trip with family at the end of one particularly brutal internship and really took the bite out of the person supervising me being an insufferable cunt that day. I didn’t even care at that point and was just kind of happy it was over and I wouldn’t have to deal with it anymore.