Β π#Honeymoon #BossDeniedRequest #WorkLifeBalance π
Hey everyone! π Has anyone ever been in a situation where your boss denied your vacation request, even after careful planning and consideration? My wife and I are currently facing this dilemma and could really use some advice and insight. Here’s the lowdown:
– We postponed our honeymoon for a year to accommodate my wife’s job and only took a week off for our destination wedding.
– My wife requested 2 extra days off for our upcoming honeymoon, but her boss immediately denied it, despite the fact that one of the days would have been unpaid.
– The office manager was rude and condescending, saying my wife was lucky to even get the initial 2 weeks off and that she was too valuable to be away for longer.
– We haven’t taken a vacation since our wedding, and my wife hasn’t received a raise in 2 years, despite being a senior member of the team.
We are feeling frustrated and disheartened by this situation. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach her boss or company to see if they can reconsider? We are open to any advice or strategies that could help us navigate this tricky situation.
As a possible solution, perhaps my wife could offer to work remotely for those extra 2 days or propose a compromise that benefits both parties. It’s worth exploring different avenues and advocating for a fair and reasonable outcome. Your thoughts and insights are greatly appreciated! Let’s brainstorm together and find a positive way forward. π΄βοΈπΌ
Well if your wife really is too valuable to be out for two days, you really should find out *how* valuable
In round dollar figuresΒ
Sounds like your wife has 6 months to land a new job.
Based on what you said they say sheβs valuable but they arenβt treating her that way.
I don’t know what your wife’s job is or what makes her so gd important that they can’t survive two additional days without her, but by that logic – they can in fact survive two more days without her because she’s apparently beyond replacing she’s so valuable. The denying supervisor said that because there’s something else at play here, but it’s a poor reflection on the manager. It makes her look small, controlling, and petty.
There are a few options here but it really depends on how it will impact your wife’s day-to-day going forward. If the thing that’s preventing your wife from taking more time off is a controlling office manager, who has no issue with taking as much time as she pleases – that’s probably something that needs to escalate higher than the office manager. If there’s an HR person, start there. If the office manager and supervisor are under the same policy and not extending the same grace to your wife, that’s something that needs to be looked at by someone higher than them. If there’s no HR person, then the owner or whomever is higher up in the chain. The policy exists to be applied uniformly if it applies to them and your wife or not at all.
That all said, this is likely going to make an enemy of this supervisor going forward and she’ll be less favorable to your wife is in other petty ways. This might backfire on her ultimately if it becomes an obvious case of retaliation. But if not, she can make working there harder and less comfortable in other ways for your wife. If that’s going to cause a lot of stress and heartache for her, considering it may be a while before she finds another job – that’s also something to consider.
I will say above all, if you do decide to take the extra two days – then they can elect to fire your wife and your wife can file for unemployment. Your wife shouldn’t buckle under any pressure to resign. If this truly an unforgivable policy infraction that the denying supervisor believes it to be, then let that supervisor fire her and explain to her superiors why your wife was so valuable that they will now need to take weeks to replace and train your wife’s replacement in the role than just let your wife have 2 extra days.
Words are cheap, if they really value the wife then obviously they give more money. Why chase the carrot on the stick when there’s better places out there
Thereβs only one way to resolve this.
She has 6 months to find a new job.
The only way to resolve this is *cough cough * I got sick on my vacation. Here is a letter from my doctor excusing me. See Doctor virtually. Get a letter, call it a day.
“valuable” means paid double when she leaves and the company is screwed
Take the two days anyway.Β
She has a shitty boss. The most important rule of employment is to frequently interview for new jobs to understand your worth on the market. She is probably not doing that, that’s why she tolerates this behavior from them.
Never let a job dictate the most important moments in your life.
Why would she idealy want to keep this job?
If she’s so valuable, I’m sure she can find another and probably better job. If she has the PTO and they don’t let her use it, start interviewing at other places asap.
If theyβre not giving her raises, then they *donβt* think sheβs βso valuable.β Theyβre just using her.
6 months to find a new job of her dreams. She can do it! Take an extra week there, you two! She sounds amazing and like she deserves the treat. She can start her new job when she gets back. I know it feels awful now but I swear to you Iβm so excited for an update in six months to hear how happy she is and how much more money she will be making. This place sounds extremely toxic. Been there, done that, and peaced out every time. Havenβt regretted those decisions.
The question shouldn’t be, “Is it worth losing my job for two extra days off?” It should be, “Is it worth losing a valued employee for two extra days off?”
Iβm really sorry to hear that your wife got sick while on her honeymoon π
I hope she recovers quickly. Two days specifically
Too bad you both got food poisoning right before leaving to go back home and had to spend two extra days there recovering. π
Iβm not saying that your wifeβs boss / work situation does not suck, but lots of companies put restrictions on how much vacation you can take in any lump sum.
For my company, it is two weeks.
Is there a defined limit at your wifeβs company?
We have a super generous and flexible vacation (5 weeks to start) policy, but two weeks is the max for any situation other than medical, maternity or paternity or bereavement leave.
Call out sick those two days instead.
You wife needs to be seriously looking and consider leaving this job. Thank them for their consideration, make moves to get a new job, you have six months.
Regardless make plans to not be there those two days. Talk your honey moon, maybe she gets sick on her honey moon or maybe she quits two weeks before.
Another option is to say Iβm gonna be out those extra two days in when I get back you can decide what to do