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Hey there,
It sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now. It’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and discouraged, especially with everything going on in your life. Remember, you are not alone in this struggle.
Here are a few possible solutions that might help you navigate through this challenging period:
– Seek professional help: Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with the support and guidance you need during this difficult time.
– Connect with loved ones: Lean on your supportive family members, friends, or your boyfriend for emotional support and encouragement.
– Focus on self-care: Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or practicing mindfulness.
– Explore career opportunities: Keep networking, applying for jobs, and enhancing your skills to increase your chances of landing a job that aligns with your interests and goals.
– Consider setting boundaries with your parents: If possible, communicate your concerns with your parents and establish healthy boundaries to protect your mental well-being.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and take small steps towards healing and growth. You deserve to find happiness and purpose in your life. Stay strong 💪🏼 and keep moving forward. You’ve got this!
Feel free to share your thoughts or additional suggestions in the comments below. Your input and support can make a difference in someone’s life. Let’s lift each other up! 💕 #SupportCommunity
Fuck the boyfriend, go dental
You’re only 24. Your life has just begun. Just try to take it one day at a time and make small progress each day.
I also don’t think moving has to be the end of your relationship. He is likely open to doing what it takes to stay together.
Hey! 17M student here,
glad you shared something like this on here online, well if someone shares something this serious online it must mean that one is going through hell, I understand that and i can bet you are going through worst part of your life ,
and i feel sorry that you literally worked 3 years unpaid for a company which shut down , I would firstly prefer what the others whose offers were revoked, what are they doing? Are they in good condition or bad, try to find that out and if you want to do what they are doing , you can,
and having abusive parents is something I can’t even think of , i feel sorry big sis, but, you have to do something right? You said you have debt, try to fill that economical hole anyhow, try to approach your close friends for this even your boyfriend, if they can do little little help , you can pay them back right?
And being demotivated is part of something big, and trust me , don’t take mental toll much, cuz mental health = physical health, do you wanna die from that?
And sorry for being this interrogate but you said your boyfriend is beautiful (handsome) but is he nature wise good? I mean today’s boys are worst of all time tbh so decide that
And big girl , you are literally 24!!! Girl you are mature and thought of even having a suicide is immature, do you understand what am i saying? Take that thought outta your mind , got it?
Please don’t your this lil bro down all right? 🫠
I hope you best sis
I just said what i can think, it may sound normie but i said and suggested what i think I should
Edit:- btw why is your profile NSFW huh? 🤔🧐
Do not break up with your boyfriend for the sake of a job if you love him. That will make everything worse and if you act on priorities that skewed, you will deserve what you get in my opinion.
Do not kill yourself. Almost everyone who tries regrets their decision and changes their mind, and many of those people have worse lives than you, which tells you something about just how valuable your life really is.
Things will get better if you take steps in the right direction. Get help if you can, and do not give up. Treat yourself as you would someone you were responsible for helping.
Bro, this is just normal life shit. Ending it is an extreme over reaction. I was homeless 5 years ago and now I have everything I ever wanted – the tides turn eventually.
I’m 51. You have something so valuable that it’s priceless. Your age. I would give anything to be a felon,homeless and just released from prison to be 24 again.
I’m not much on motivational texts but if you need to message me,feel free.
Suicide is the most selfish thing a human can do. Literally THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO.
Things will improve if you never give up… trust me.
I can’t exactly give advice because I’m 22 myself and still jobless after uni. About the parents, about the only thing I can think of is finding some way not to take what they say to heart. It’s hard, but I at least think socializing is important for your health, and it can even help you find jobs. If at all possible, ask your friends for help. Networking, job-hunting, resume reviews, where to apply, and so on. I don’t know if telling your parents something like that would help, but it’s probably better than nothing.
I think with the boyfriend situation, you are seeing a false binary. It’s a thinking trap I’ve been through a lot, too, and I feel like it’s really worsened my life. Try to think of solutions beyond “breaking up” and “moving together.” Long-distance relationships are pretty solid now that video calls are so high quality, and even that probably isn’t the only option. Try to discuss possibilities with him & your friends.
Similar binary thinking with not being able to afford to see friends. It’s not the same as going out irl, but if you’re pressed for time you can switch to asynchronous talks like texting or emails. Or even texting emails, so instead of a text conversation it’s more like longer responses to everything. I made a great friend just through emailing, it’s a really nice way to stay close because you can read things over on your own time and respond to many things in as much depth as you want.
I wish I could say something about seeing no end, but that’s somewhat where I am too. All I can do is hope it gets better for us.
Would it be at all possible to live with your grandparents or extended family? Or even stay with them for a week or two. A rest from your parents would probably help you think about things. It’s tough being around people who put you down, and that affects everything else.
Damn, protect the boyfriend. Hope he sees her in a mutual light.
I can relate to everything you’re saying here. I’m in a somewhat similar situation myself. I completely understand your frustrations right now. You’re not in an easy situation.
First and foremost, your parents are a massive part of your problem. Your life is really not so messed up, it’s truly you being stuck with abusive people right now that is causing you to feel this desperate. Know that you won’t be living with them forever. There is a light at the end of your tunnel.
You’re doing everything right. You’re working, you’re submitting applications, and you’re not giving up on yourself. Those are great things and I promise if you keep putting that effort in it WILL pay off. I know when you’re actively being abused it’s hard to trust because of the desperation but it’s the truth.
Hold on to your boyfriend. It would be a big mistake to break up. If you find a new job, go for it. You can do long distance and then figure that out after you’re stable. Maybe he will be able to move with you, maybe it will take him some time. Maybe you two break up if he can’t or doesn’t want to move and one or both of you get tired or the distance.
Keep in touch with your family, your grandparents, and your friends. Make sure they know you’re struggling and don’t be afraid to reach out to them.
Take things one day at a time for now. You’ll get through this. I promise.
Please share what you are sharing in this post with the people who are in your corner – your boyfriend, sister, whomever you can trust. Your safety is more important than anything else, and you do not have to go through this alone.
I do not know your situation, but I relate to your post and found myself in a similar spot once. Feel free to reach out and talk if you need.
Suicide is never the option. Life sucks sometimes, it will get better. It might get worse before it gets better but in the end you will be glad you didn’t end it yourself. Things will get better
Ahhhh, you are just 24. Is moving in with your grandparents an option? Do it then. If not try talking to your boyfriend. If you both could take your relationship to the next level. Do your best to deal with your parents to the best of your abilities. You will find people trying to put you down and make you miserable at every turn of your life. Grow that thick skin and be shameless about it 🙄.
Totally understand you, bring unemployed is the worse feeling ever. Do whatever it takes to get a job, then life will eventually get better
Suicidal thoughts are temporary, as any thoughts are. Following through with them is permanent. Don’t make permanent decisions in a temporary state of mind.
Lol suicidal – I’m a single man with no romance prospects like many other men – think yourself lucky!
I am sorry you are feeling that way, but I do think it will pass if you soldier through it. I think a part-time job doing anything would be good for you – it would get you away from your parents for a few hours, get some money in your pocket that you can start saving, will give you some opportunity to socialize, and will motivate you to fill out more applications in search of a more appropriate full-time job. Just take your post secondary education off of your resume and don’t talk about wanting the job as a placeholder or bridge to something full-time.
Don’t break up with your boyfriend if you leave – why not at least try long distance if things are working well now?
You can get to the other side of this, I think some more structure might be good for you.
seems like moving out of your parents house is priority number one. i don’t know where you live but could you get a minimum wage job and move in with some roommates? even if they are just random people. pausing your dreams for a bit will be better than losing your life.
Sorry things are so rough for you now. I understand when things are not going your way it’s hard to be positive. But you busted your butt in college and finished it. Congratulations.
The job market sucks rn! Give yourself some grace.
Things will get better. Try the federal government the IRS was hiring like crazy and may still be, they can offer relocation incentives as well. Or try your local state jobs. But most importantly don’t give up! I felt down for a while but then finished my phd, and got 4 job offers but it was rough, thousands of job applicants but I did not want to give up. The gov also has the pslf program for your loans. Also the state of the economy sucks. Create a vision board and wake up and apply to everything everyday. Do it super early to beat out the early worms; then all day. Don’t limit yourself to just finance; saw a girl with a finance degree pivot over to healthcare administration.
Avoid debt at all costs
Stay out of your parents way
Do all the chores before they ask.
The women perk, a guy in yr situation has no chance of a partner.