HusbandHealth #JobStress #CareerSafety
Understanding the Concern: Is My Husband’s Job Killing Him? 🏥💼
It’s heartbreaking and terrifying to think that your husband’s stress from his current job could be taking a serious toll on his health. 🥺💔 Let’s dive deeper into the situation, addressing key concerns and offering actionable advice.
Signs of Stress: Why His Complaints Aren’t Just Small Talk 🚩
Your husband mentioning chest pains, even humorously, is a significant red flag. Here are key signs to watch out for:
- Persistent Chest Pains: Never ignore chest pains. Always consider seeking medical attention.
- Mental Health Struggles: Depression, anxiety, and irritability, especially related to work, are alarming.
- Lack of Motivation and Energy: Constant burnout can lead to severe exhaustion and decreased productivity.
Job Market Blues: Why Finding a New Job Seems Impossible 🌐🔍
The job market can be tough right now. Here are some factors contributing to the difficulty in landing new opportunities:
- Economic Downturns: Economic challenges can lead to fewer job openings.
- High Competition: More individuals are seeking employment, increasing competition.
- Industry-Specific Issues: Some sectors may be experiencing higher job scarcity than others.
Steps to Alleviate His Stress: Immediate Actions to Take 🛑💡
While looking for new job opportunities, consider these immediate steps to manage his stress:
- Medical Check-Up: Schedule a doctor’s appointment to rule out any serious conditions.
- Open Communication: Encourage open conversations about his feelings and work stressors.
- Healthy Lifestyle Changes: Promote regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep.
- Stress-Management Techniques: Encourage meditation, yoga, or hobbies that help relieve stress.
Job Search Tips: How to Improve Callback and Interview Rates 📈💬
Here’s how you can enhance the job search process:
- Optimize Resumes and Cover Letters: Tailor them to specific job descriptions.
- Leverage Networking: Attend industry events, join professional groups, and utilize LinkedIn.
- Consider Different Roles: Be open to roles outside his specific industry or skill set.
- Professional Help: Seek help from career counselors or job placement agencies.
Long-term Solutions: Ensuring Career Longevity and Health 🌟🏃♂️
For a sustainable balance between career and health:
- Prioritize Mental Health: Regular therapy or counseling sessions can be beneficial.
- Work-Life Balance: Set boundaries to ensure personal time and reduce burnout.
- Continuous Learning: Encourage skill development to increase job marketability.
- Explore Remote Work: Flexibility can significantly reduce job-related stress.
Conclusion: Taking Action and Seeking Support 🚀🤝
Your husband’s well-being is paramount. Immediate medical attention, active job searching, and stress management are vital steps. By addressing these concerns head-on, you can help pave the way for a healthier, happier future for both of you. Stay resilient, keep communicating, and seek support when needed.
MentalHealth #JobHunt #WorkLifeBalance #HealthyLifestyle #StressRelief
Taking actionable steps today can prevent tomorrow’s regrets. Reach out, stay informed, and prioritize health over everything else. 💪❤️
Jesus. First thing’s first, get your husband to the doc and get an EKG and referral to a cardiologist if possible. Rule out the bad stuff.
Heads up, even if it turns out to be “just stress” and nothing comes up with an EKG, stress of that magnitude is still incredibly dangerous. I wish I had better advice for you but the least you guys can do for yourselves is to be as proactive as possible
This happened to me last year and ended up being diagnosed with a lifelong serious medical condition and just had to leave my highly stressful corporate job. I now work in a different industry for a lot less money but less stress.
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Make an appointment for him ASAP.
Then you guys need to sit down and talk. Maybe you need a coping strategy, or maybe therapy for him could be necessary. No job is worth your life.
Also, he may be eligible for FMLA.
Health always first, reach out for support.
I was so stressed in my previous job that I had so many chronic conditions and lost like 15kg in 1 year. I could barely stay alive properly during the time.
I quit my job without next one lining up and it was only possible because my family supported me during the time.
I work 15 years for a terrible job and ended up having four heart attacks, with no blockage… They still haven’t decided how I even had them other than I had high blood pressure and lots of stress and anxiety
It’s that bad.
A few years ago, I just got a Fitbit and saw my heart rate jump whenever I was being reprimanded / threatened by managers. Luckily, I put up a fight as my stress relief and eventually left for a better job.
There was a guy at that job who I worked with and actually gave me some very important advice for my career. He jumped into new roles, college and taking on more work. He gained weight, didn’t take care of himself and died in his 30’s. About a year after that, another co-worker with a stressful position there also died in his 30’s. My old co-worker in my department recently got a promotion. He’s too stressed and busy to grab lunch with me. He’s already prone to migraines and health issues.
My current job is much better. I only get stress due to my own expectations for myself. Everyone thinks I do a great job. I was talking to someone today about how I was blocked from a promotion at my old job. He said maybe it was for the best. I’d say it definitely was. The job was the same one the co-worker I first mentioned had.
I had a colleague that had a stroke due to stress. Another had a heart attack at 43. Take this seriously.
My best friend and best man at my wedding dropped dead of a heart attack. Get your husband to the doctor today. Make him do it!
That’s bad. Time to see a doctor or a therapist before the chest pains turn from being funny to life threatening.
Also I can tell you he’s likely not going to be a great interviewer because of the stress.
Fuck job hunting, GO TO A&E/ER!!
I worked at a job where people stayed 30 or 40 years. They usually died or got sick right after they retire. The body sometimes views chronic stress as adrenaline. A sudden change may not be good since he seems stressed all the time. I know it sounds odd but people can lift cars and when the adrenaline or fight or flight leaves they often pass out.
He needs to see a doc. If doc says he is okay, have him start taking magnesium. Magnesium is very calming to people under chronic stress.
I had an extremely stressful corporate job. Started there in July 2017. Had a heart attack (I drove myself to the ER) on Jan 1, 2017. 4 months after starting. Luckily I only missed 2 weeks of work but it was eye opening. I realized that my bosses expected way too much of me. I dialed it back prioritizing important tasks and said fuck Otto the lower ones, I’ll get around to it. Remained at that job till Nov. 2021. It would have been Aug of 2021 but I had thoughts of ending myself so ai spent 12 weeks in a residential looney bin. Luckily I had 70 sick days accrued (it was actually 35, but the matched). That was a great perk at the time.
That’s why I’m still here.
Yeah take this seriously. Rule out anything bad. Document everything. If he owns a watch that tracks by the day save the data! Most times it’s hard to win a workers comp case for stress cause there’s usually stress at home too, but this may be a winning situation. If he is FMLA eligible, have him take it intermittently (like every Monday maybe) or work with HR for accommodations In conjunction with a doc note. Keep looking for a job, take magnesium, try and do human things like pet a pet, garden, or go extreme and try ketamine therapy like I did when I had panic attacks in 2021. I’ve been through so much trauma and I’m currently having meltdowns at work that I have panic attacks and have fainted multiple times in the less than a year I’ve worked there. No one comes to check on me as I work in the far back away from everyone. So I’m going back to ketamine therapy to help me through this.
Ahh TAKE HIM TO THE DOCS NOW.
even if it turns out to be heartburn better to be Sage the sorry and he can get a script or something otc.
Do you live in a city where he could do gig work like Lyft or Uber driving?
It might be worth it to quit and do gig work while applying to jobs.
I rather make less money than die.
Yes.
Request an Angio CT, it will give answers where ecg or an echo won’t (IF there is something wrong), but without the risk of an angiogram. (Not a doctor just a person who has had much medical rubbish to deal with over the years).
Job stress is awful, I work in a fairly high stress role, at some point you have to let go and care less. Do your job well but try not to get invested in aspects over which you have no control.
Please please please sit down together and come up with a plan to lower his stress. Even if he can’t switch jobs immediately there is many ways to lower his stress. It is very dangerous. I’ve heard of sad stories of men who are stressed about work and end up passing due to a heart attack.
Thing is you don’t even need to be that old. I had a friend of mine in her 20’s-30’s have a heart attack!!!
It’s super serious please seek help and try to lower the family stress.
Hope all goes well.
I had the same problem when I was working at a Fortune 500 company. It was the first time I had chest pains and it was terrifying. Today it is chest pains, a few years later, it will turn into heart attacks. He needs to find another job immediately. It is no joke.
Tell him to learn how to say, “Fuck this job!” Never give your all to a company. The company only uses people until they no longer need them.
Find a job with less stress and instill stress management as a lifestyle.
He needs to slow down and reset his nervous system, this could be due to reasons like panic attacks or a medical issue.
Seek a medical professionals opinion.
My heart rate steadily increases the closer I get to my office, even when I’m off and just driving by on the way to somewhere else. I really do think the market is just that bad right now. Bad enough I shelled out for a professional resume to be made for me
In February of 2020, I started teaching at a new school. It was a different methodology, so I had to learn a different way of teaching (classical education model). Six weeks later — pandemic time and we were all distance learning. Then the George Floyd murder and the riot/looting/protesting (this is in Minneapolis). I slowly started breaking down and the school put more and more pressure on me for achievement. I’m diabetic and had my A1C more or less under control (about an 8 — not fantastic, but I felt okay). By September 2020, my A1C could no longer be measured by my endocrinologist, it was so high. Higher than 14, higher than when I was first diagnosed. I wasn’t eating worse or moving less (more, actually, because I was also working another job).
The school put more and more absolutely ridiculous, unachievable goals in place for me and I began to lose it. I cried in meetings, I had panic attacks daily, no amount of insulin was enough. I started planning my suicide.
And then I got put on a performance improvement plan and given three days to fix everything. I even worked with my dad (a fantastic project manager) to organize everything and he even said I was set up to fail.
I of course got fired.
I was so relieved.
The school did many more things to me after this that were even worse. Sometimes I still think about suicide because of what they did to me. I’m okay now, but I still remember how an employer almost killed me in multiple ways 🙁
Read the Four Agreements. It’s much easier to change how you (or he) react to others than to change others or circumstances. I simply take nothing anyone does or says personally, I don’t make assumptions, I always do my best (which fluctuates) and I am impeccable with my word. No external factors can impact my physical or mental health. I am in control of all of it. Anyone can shift to this mindset if they’re open. Best to you and your hubs.
Chest pain needs to be evaluated. Odds are it’s just GERD (exacerbated by stress) or tension/inflammation. But PLEASE get him evaluated to rule out any bad stuff (heart, lungs, etc.)
(there’s evidence that) Men literally don’t perceive their anxiety until it bubbles up in physical symptoms (and has gone far beyond an acceptable level). He needs to reduce this or, you’re right, it could literally mean his death.
Work stress can absolutely have long lasting physical ramifications and your husband definitely needs to take care of that. I’m going to assume you are not in a financial position to where he can just up and quit his job. In which case, try to get your husband to get some sort of hobby or stimulation outside of work that can relieve the stress. Like going to the gym and working out does wonders for the mind and body.