Hey everyone! 👋 Have you ever experienced unwanted touching at work? It can be incredibly unsettling and leave you feeling powerless. I recently came across a situation where a young woman felt uncomfortable with the behavior of an older male boss in her workplace.
Here are some key points to consider and possibly help guide her on the right path:
– Unwanted touching in the workplace is NEVER okay, regardless of the perpetrator’s age or intent.
– It’s important to speak up and assert your boundaries, even if it feels daunting.
– Reporting incidents of harassment to HR or a higher authority is a valid and necessary step to take.
– Seeking support from loved ones or professional resources can help you navigate through these challenging situations.
Remember, your body belongs to YOU and no one else. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and seek the help you deserve. Let’s empower each other to create safe and respectful work environments! 💪🌟#Empowerment #SpeakUp
I don’t want to advise this – I am just asking:
Does it make sense to prepare some hidden video/audio recording device to catch him in the act?
I don’t want this to become hearsay – I want this guy to have ZERO outs in a court situation.
Tell the wife what her husband has been doing so hopefully, she’ll put a stop to it immediately and throw the whole husband away and then find another job ASAP. Also, ignore your mom’s comments because she’s not right in the head and has internalized misogyny.
You are being sexually assaulted (and sexually harassed) by your boss. Your mother is in denial. Please keep yourself safe–your body is yours, it does not exist for the pleasure of men.
I’m with your boyfriend. Document whatever you can. I agree with others that local groups that help abused women are a good place to start to find resources to press charges.
If you still must go to work, I’d suggest you start refusing hugs if you can, and shout loudly if he again touches your ass. See if you can use a door stop or something else to keep the bathroom door closed, or go use the bathroom somewhere else. I would not trust this man not to assault you further in private.
I’m sorry that happened to you.
In my youth, probably around 21 I had to retrieve some office supplies in the basement of a real estate office and some maintenance worker tried touching me inappropriately and when I reported it to some older office personnel they downplayed it.
To this day when I drive by that location I just mentioned the other day to my friend what happened to me. I am now 68.
Do Not let that pervert get near you.
I thnk you can file an EEOC claim against him or get an attorney and sue him.
That is sexual harassment which does not belong in the work place. Sorry you have to go through this bs!
Im sorry to hear that you’re objectified like this, im sorry that us males are shitty.
Report it to the EEOC and your states labor bureau
Please contact the EEOC if you are in the US. Your mom needs therapy, because she is either an enabler or a victim of SA whose accepted she has no bodily autonomy.
Kudos to the boyfriend.
THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT
Sexual harassment and I find that when young girls work with older men, this always seems to happen. He’s clearly taking advantage but I think you need to set boundaries. Let him know that he’s making you uncomfortable.
Talk to police and an employment lawyer asap.
So 1. Start recording these types of behaviors (journals/videos) for evidence. 2. Get a lawyer and obtain enough evidence to sue/prosecute. 3. Start looking for a new job.
From a leadership perspective, I have NEVER engaged in ANY of that behavior and wouldn’t let anyone on my teams or any other leaders behave in that way. It is never allowed. Full stop.
none of this is acceptable. this is illegal. nobody should be touching you or making comments like this ever. this guy should be jumped. you’re worth more than 18 and nobody should be subjected to sexual harassment. sorry you don’t have a good father or brother etc to turn to about this but if you did I’m sure they’d beat the shit out of this guy. it is not “normal” for older men to behave this way. you cannot allow this shit to continue in your life.
wtf is wrong with people. Absolutely report this. I’m sorry you are having to deal with this OP. Don’t ever let anyone in the workplace talk about smacking your ass. Or talking about it in general.
You’ve already got great input but yes, this is 100% not normal or okay behavior.
Yea its called “Favors for Favors” and you have 2 choices, work hard and get nowhere fast… or give this dude a little tail and enjoy the benefits lol!
The sooner you figure out that’s how the world works, the better off you will be!
What kind of promotions are available if there are only 5 employees
Girllll get OUT!!! If you had mentioned a different industry, I would say that you should move this through HR. Unfortunately in construction, this is the culture. If he’s so open about it, he has excuses and yes-men ready to back up his story. He can also make your life miserable under the excuse of “safety” real quick.
I experienced the same thing, all my friends experienced the same thing, and I have not heard one story of true accountability.
I moved into executive leadership at the most progressive construction company I have ever worked for, but I’m still getting accusations that I slept my way there.
My advice – he will escalate. Line up a different job, or just quit If you can. Don’t be worried about your 2 weeks, he won’t be a good reference anyway. And don’t mention the sexual harassment when you leave, just say you’re taking your career in a different direction or going to school or something. Keep your distance from him, don’t even smile when he talks to you. If you have the strength, make him uncomfortable if he asks for another hug with a confident “no, thank you” or physically swerving the hug, ESPECIALLY if it’s in front of others. Take all his power away and move on. But warning – he will probably take notice and make your life awful until you leave. I’m sure the wife knows of similar situations, but probably doesn’t believe it. Or she owns less than 50%, and he’s probably just as much of a bully at home.
My work often asks me to film videos, encouraging young women to take jobs on site. They were shocked when I told them no, because the sites are not safe for women.
Gather evidence then call an attorney. It’ll be life changing money for what you had to deal with
This is sexual harassment and your mom needs some serious help for normalizing it.
Asking for hugs at workplace is weird enough, long hugs and then uttering such words just gives him one way ticket to jail. Report him to the police.
I’m very sorry for what happened and for your mom’s reaction. This is in no way harmless. Before taking action, try looking for organisations in your area that help SA victims. They usually have access to lawyers and you won’t have to figure the whole thing out alone, and they also tend to have therapists. Or if you’re determined to seek out a lawyer on your own, look for one that specialises in such cases.
Also I recommend to take self-defence classes, because they help to fight the freeze responce, help to deal with anger and make you feel more capable to protect yourself.
Your body absolutely belongs to you as well as your life, claim your power back.
Need to report
Definetley wrong tell your boyfriend everything all the time even if it’s small so you have a detailed account of daily occurrences or previously occurred if you decide to work there. If he’ll keep doing it until he’ll do something serious. And a small knit business they’ll stick together scenario report it. Speak to any male role model you have. Contact special victim unit. Also let your boyfriend take lead. As his anger might help the police move and do something. But the violence or hurting will affect you both in the long run more and the other person normally is portrayed as the victim.
This is 100% sexual harassment. It is not normal and it is not legal. Please, report and call a lawyer. And please, please get a therapist. No one has a right to your body but you. If you just leave without reporting it, he will do this to another person and it will probably escalate to assault. Please don’t let this happen to someone else.
Just quit and report them.
You can use something to record conversations for additional proof.
Report it to the police and get a lawyer, sue that mother fucker.
No1 deserves that and you’ve been through too much already, I’m sorry m8.. if I was your friend as a bloke I’d go have more than words with him.
I advise therapy too, best thing for the soul – even if it’s not a therapist – talk to someone.
That is 100% not normal. that kind of behaviour is unacceptable regardless of field age or gender. I would start looking at other jobs ASAP and nope tf out of there.