#Dating #Attractiveness #Settling #Happiness #Relationships #GenderDynamics #BeautyStandards
Hey there! 💁♀️ Are you wondering about the complex world of attractiveness and relationships? 🤔 Let’s dive into the question you raised – do most women end up settling for less if they find a limited number of men attractive? 🌟
### The Reality of Attractiveness:
When it comes to attractiveness, society often emphasizes certain standards that influence our perceptions. 💃 While there might be a few men that most women find conventionally attractive, it’s essential to remember that beauty is subjective and unique to each person. 🌺
### The Idea of Settling:
#### Limited Options:
In a world where the number of attractive men is limited, some women might feel like they have to settle for less in their relationships. 🚶♂️ This can lead to a sense of dissatisfaction and compromise in their pursuit of happiness. 😔
#### Personal Preferences:
However, it’s crucial to consider that people are drawn to different qualities beyond physical attractiveness. 🧠 Personalities, values, and emotional connections play a significant role in forming lasting, fulfilling relationships. 💞
### Finding True Happiness:
#### Self-Awareness:
Instead of settling based on societal norms, it’s essential for women to reflect on their own desires and needs in a partner. 🤗 By understanding what truly makes them happy, they can make choices that align with their individual preferences. 🌻
#### Communication:
Open and honest communication with partners is key to building a strong and fulfilling relationship. 🗣️ Expressing feelings, preferences, and expectations can help create a supportive and loving connection that goes beyond physical appearance. 💑
### Final Thoughts:
While the concept of attractiveness and settling can be challenging to navigate, it’s essential to focus on what brings true happiness and fulfillment in relationships. 💖 By valuing personal connections, communication, and self-awareness, women can find happiness with partners who appreciate them for who they are. 🌈
So, remember to prioritize your happiness and choose partners who make you feel valued and loved for all that you are! 🌟 #ChooseHappiness #LoveYourself
Hope this helps shed some light on your question! Feel free to reach out if you have more queries or need further insights. 🌺
Does that most women end up settling? Yes.
and aren’t fully Happy ? No. Because that’s not how happiness works.
Physical attraction is necessary imo to start a physical relationship, but it’s not what keeps one going, and also.. as a dude, a slightly above average girl with a personality I really vibe with is WAAAY more attractive to me than a 10/10 movie star looking girl I wouldn’t know how to relate to. I’m sure that’s a similar concept
Attraction isn’t really a binary. Lots of people just develop attraction thru familiarity and over time being around certain people and witnessing certain dynamics they like. The whole concept of dating lots of people let alone dating apps is pretty alien to the ways people more commonly used to develop attraction. Women and a lot of men like stability and understand that if they’re getting on well with someone 3/4 of the time and want the same things in life they’re golden.
Compatible partners are beyond amazing. People either die alone. Or treasure their partner. “Settling” is short term thinking.
This is nonsense. Who are “most women”? We are all different. My friends and I almost never find the same men attractive.
I’m my option, everyone is settling.
I mean men have it the same? At some point you just have to accept your fair “market value” and look for an equal partner.
Most people don’t actually know what they will like until they have it and realise why the hole never got filled with all the stuff they crammed in it before.
Attractive is subjective. I do not know what you look like, but I am sure someone does not want you. And someone does. Gotta find the ones that want to be near you and with you.
Have you heard women play this game?
He’s a solid 6, but he’s playing guitar in the park with his golden retriever- that makes him an 8.
Most women will fall in love with a man’s personality, traits, how good a partner he is, etc- and will see him as a whole person, not parted out by attributes.
This is why dating apps are poison to the whole situation-
Firstly needs to define attractiveness, but just for argument sake let’s say it’s physical.
Women don’t necessarily find the same type of guys attractive. Individual women will have their own preferences. Hence there might be some cross overs, but you will also find different women preferring different subset of guys.
The premise of the argument is that attraction is static and will not change and that’s absolutely incorrect. I’m sure many would have came across cases of people that seem attraction on the surface but the more you get to know them the more unattractive they become. And vice versa. When I first met my husband I considered him acceptable in terms of attractiveness, but as I got to know him better, I am finding him more and more attractive, and that includes physically. Others might see my husband as obese, but I love how soft and cuddly he is to hug (prior to my husband I thought I am attracted to muscular men).
No, because settling down with someone is about a lot more than physical attractiveness. In fact, physical attributes aren’t even that high up the list if you look at studies, at least not compared with stuff like openness, trust, stability, intelligence, emotional connection.
You know, my husband is not conventionally attractive, but I find him incredibly handsome. So maybe women just find someone they like?
Not at all, women care more about personality than looks. Maybe what is attractive to me isn’t attractive to others. There are men who are undeniable very attractive but that doesn’t mean you will be happy with them. I have gone out with guys who have beautiful faces, nice bodies etc and they haven’t clicked with them because of their personality. Personality is more important than anything else. Some women settle because they are looking for the perfect guy( that doesn’t exist ) and realize they are too old and just marry the next guy. I have a friend who has completely different taste to mine what she finds attractive to me is not and viceversa so it depends on each specific person
If most employers find a few number of job candidates to fit their ideal qualifications but those ideal candidates are a limited number, does that mean most employers end up settling and aren’t fully happy?
Does it mean you’ll be a poor employee if you don’t fit all of the qualifications in the job listing, but you can do the work and the employer decides to hire you?
Same goes for men. If I could date women like prime Brooke Shields or prime Adriana Lima, I would, but I don’t have access to that type of women nor am I within the 1% of highly attractive men or the 1% financially wise, so I end up dating average looking women. All average people who are dating average people KNOW that their partner is not the most beautiful person in the world, but they stay because of their personality, love, getting along, and overall happiness and convenience. Unfortunately there’s not enough super attractive men or women for all of us.
Attraction and compatibility go way beyond physical appearance, women are not as visual as men are and as they say « beauty is the eye of the beholder »
Women have WILDLY different tastes. People in general do. When I was in college, my main friend group was composed of 7 women, and throughout the entirety of college, no two of us were ever into the same guy. Ever. You’d think that, situated in a sea of eligible young college men, seven women would have at least some overlap. But we never had any at all. I tend to go for lean foreigners with dark eyes and accents who are near my height. One of my friends likes them enormous (like football player builds – tall and muscular with a fair bit of chub too) with dark hair and light eyes. Our other friend likes all-American blond frat boy types. Our other friend likes kind of androgenous guys (and androgenous women, as it turned out). Our other friend had completely random taste that none of us understood. Our other friend liked what I thought of as used cars salesmen types – slicked back hair, a certain way of dressing, and kind of an oily charm. My roommate only dated guys that looked really old for their ages — half of them had early onset balding and looked very ready to crack a dad joke.
All in all, there was just no commonality at all. And not only were we looking for completely different things physically, we also, all of us, were randomly hugely swayed by an individual guy’s personality. My college boyfriend was extremely, extremely ordinary looking and not my type on paper at all, but my god was I attracted to that man. It was pure personality or pure pheromones or pure something. Who knows. But I never once felt I was settling; I was way way more interested in him than any other guy I met in college.
I don’t know where this assumption came from that all women are competing for the same tiny group of classically handsome male models in a zero sum game where a lot of lose and have to settle for classically ugly uggos or a nunnery, but that is seriously not how it works. Women all actually going after a wide variety of people, and when we find someone we think is cute (no matter if he’s everyone’s type) and that we click with and who is good to us, I promise you that that does not feel like settling. It feels like winning.
It’s doesn’t work like that for either men nor women.
Jesus, this headline was written by a Neanderthal.
Why do people also act like men find every single woman attractive or want to be with every single woman? It’s the same both ways
Looks aren’t everything bud, they’re just a thing that helps get attention in the initial phases of dating
I don’t think either part of this question is true. Yes, people, including women, tend to have a small group of people they find attractive physically. But many people also find people attractive for other qualities, regardless of appearance. And importantly, that group of people is not the same for everyone. So the scarcity mindset doesn’t really make sense if people are looking for partners in a sea of venn diagrams rather than competing for a select group of hot people.
I don’t think your premise is true. If women feel like they have few options I think they are bothered by lack of character more often than by lack of attractiveness. At least that’s what I hear from the women I interact with. If it’s about external stuff it’s most often about not taking care of yourself or not knowing how to dress and not unchangeable stuff like your bone structure or whatever
Oh god, the incel culture is leaking out again.
There are so many different reasons we find men attractive or not. Like an average looking guy with some beard stubble doing the dishes without being asked is way hotter than Chris Evans just existing.
Attractiveness is relative, and it changes a lot as one ages (example: some people are attracted to feet, some to intelligent people). Besides, although it is something important, it is not priority compared to all other qualities one should be looking for in a partner.
Keep in mind that this idea of women only being attracted to a very limited number of men is a “manosphere” concept — it’s men explaining why they can’t succeed in dating etc to other men and often reasoning that they can’t improve because women blah-blah-blah, which is convenient because it requires no effort on their part.
I’ve never met a woman with sky high standards of attraction, most women just want a kind, compassionate, competent man.
You think women would choose fat, balding, lazy morons who dress like they never seen a mirror before? Because thats how A LOT of men look over 30.
Its this weird “settling” thing, that you guys came up with, that is confusing you.
If you found your partner in life, those things lose meaning.
But again: you think women would CHOOSE to be with somebody who takes ZERO care of himself, if they looked like this from the beginning?
No. Which is why so many guys who look like they they dropped their hotdog in the unemploymend line and kept eating it after scratching of the dirt cant find a woman to talk to them.
“Settling” is the wrong word. What actually happens, if a person doesn’t quickly find a match who fits all the parameters, sooner or later they realize that looks aren’t really very important to a person’s happiness.
Or, if they insist on filtering out perfectly good potential partners based on appearances, they stay single. For a person who’s lonely, THAT’S a recipe for unhappiness.
Well the few number of men is different men for every woman so… Even if they find less people attractive it’s not the same people.
Also physical attractiveness isn’t the main thing that dictates happiness. Sure it plays a part but most women are attracted to their partner way more based on personality.
I considered my current partner pretty average looking when I met them. Now I can’t think of more attractive person because how much my attraction changed to them based on their personality, intelligence ect. Yet I would never pick them as most attractive if I would just saw them at daring app.
Whom women find attractive and whom women love are not necessarily the same. Those not willing to understand that looks don’t mean the world to women will have trouble understanding the world around them
If physical attraction was as important as ppl online would have you believe, the human race would have died out years ago.
Another way of asking this is, what percentage of those “10/10” attractive men (or women) have an attractive personality to keep someone around? Are the people who end up with the cruel/selfish/stupid/boring 10/10s settling, in your eyes?
No. Because what that statement means is that women find a small number of men attractive *upon first look*. That last part is vital. Men are more likely to find more women attractive from the moment they lay eyes on them because male attraction is more easily stimulated by visuals alone – hence why women watch less porn and read more literotica. Women typically need a range of different things to create attraction, one extremely important factor being repeated exposure. Which, granted, maybe, we don’t have the most optimal conditions for with everyone meeting online these days.
not necessarily. first of all, you have to take lesbians, bi women, asexual women, and women who are genuinely just very comfortable by themselves out of the equation which is at least half. then when you’re left with straight women well, each woman finds different kinds of men attractive. some women like living embodiments of the chad wojak, some women like nerds, i like metalheads who look dead in the eyes, everyone has their tastes.
one thing is constant though – no woman likes a red pill incel who calls themselves “alpha” or “sigma”. ever.
Hey, I am in a relationship with someone that would never be considered attractive, when I had first told my friends about my crush on him they all told me “Eww, you can do so much better”.
This is what happened to me, I never considered him attractive, but he treated me like a queen, he would listen to me and give me advice on my problems, he would help me out with my work, he was so nice, and then I started noticing he has a cute smile, then it was nice hair, than it was his face in a whole, then I thought he looked hot, and so on and so fourth.
I don’t think I settled, it happened naturally, could I get a blonde with blue eyes, yes? But this guy would give me the moon if I asked, so why should I? I’ve never experienced love like this before him!
So I don’t think we settle, I have plenty of stunning girlfriends that have ugly boyfriends, but then you look at how they get treated and you know damn well that they’re not in it for the looks!
Would it be really nice to have a smoking hot boyfriend who checked every single green box and made me feel amazing in bed? Yeah, totally. I’d also like a pony and a free vacation to Scotland. Am I unhappy because I don’t have these things? No. I find happiness in my every day and I’m content.
The whole premise of this question is flawed. It sounds like you only think in attractiveness scores and derive a happiness value. That’s not at all how people work or how happiness works.
No the women are more heterogeneous in their tastes than the men. While most women find most men unattractive, they don’t rate men all the same. Put another way, a group of dudes will have highly overlapping ratings of a group of women while a group of women will disagree a lot over ratings of dudes.
As a man, I have the same opinion about the opposite. Checkmate.
Bro as a dude I may need to settle. In my head I want someone perfect. Sucks but I’m slowly letting go. I don’t even want looks. I just want someone kind and who grows the same as me. That’s how my last ended was we just grew into diff people. Life is weird like that. Never considered it before but marriage seems way more weird now that u can live past 40. Old happy marriages are rare. I’ll say it like that
No, women don’t have to be with the most attractive partner they’ve ever met in order to be happy. They consider other things besides looks.
Who says theyre all attracted to the SAME small number of men?
Personal taste exists.
There always has been and always will be a limited number of hot guys, but I think a bigger issue is that more and more men are becoming bitter instead of funny. Being funny goes so far, but whining about women not liking you is an immediate turnoff.
Most women find a very small number of men *physically* attractive. Attraction is about more than just physical appearance, especially for women. Lots of women and somewhat fewer men are quite happily involved with and attracted to people who would do nothing for them if they were looking at a picture. But because they are attracted to the soul inside the meatsuit they end up attracted to a person whose physical appearance is unremarkable for them.
Good lord not more of these “women only want the 10%” threads
An attractive partner does not equal happiness 😅 are you a child?
Nope. Thankfully we are not all attracted to the same people.