#LGBTQIA+ #Homophobia #CocktailCulture
🍸 My ex-girlfriend thought my Gin & Tonic was “too gay” 🌈
Back in 2016, I found myself dating a stunning girl who, unfortunately, had some problematic views. We were at a trendy restaurant bar, sipping on cocktails, when the incident happened.
### The “Too Gay” Drink
I ordered a classic Gin & Tonic, nothing out of the ordinary. However, the bartender decided to go all out with the presentation, adding a floating flower and pink peppercorns. My date, let’s call her Amy, raised an eyebrow and remarked, “Are you really gonna drink that? It looks very gay for a man.”
### Standing Up to Homophobia
As an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, I was taken aback by Amy’s comment. Instead of brushing it off, I decided to show her that there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a “fancy” drink.
1. **The Rainbow Screwdriver**
– While Amy was away, I asked the bartender to jazz up a simple Screwdriver. He took it to the next level, garnishing it with extravagant decorations. Amy’s reaction? Displeased, to say the least.
2. **Umbrella Mania**
– Not one to back down, I took matters into my own hands. I ordered a bunch of mini cocktail umbrellas and made it a habit to sneak them into my drinks whenever we went out.
– From shots of Jagermeister to bottles of beer, every beverage became a canvas for my mini umbrella art. Amy couldn’t hide her embarrassment as I proudly sipped on my umbrella-adorned drinks.
### Lessons Learned
Despite her initial ignorance, I eventually realized that Amy’s attitudes were indicative of deeper issues. A few months later, I ended the relationship, realizing that our values were fundamentally misaligned. Fast forward to January, and I bumped into her only to discover that she had taken a drastic turn towards religious conservatism.
### Embracing Inclusivity
In a world where toxic masculinity often dictates what is considered “acceptable” for men, it’s important to challenge these stereotypes. Whether it’s enjoying a colorful cocktail or proudly supporting LGBTQIA+ rights, embracing diversity and inclusivity enriches our lives.
### The Power of Self-Expression
By refusing to conform to outdated norms and standing up against homophobia, we can create a more accepting and diverse society. So, next time someone questions your choice of drink, remember that it’s not about what’s in the glass but rather the values and principles that define you.
In conclusion, my “too gay” Gin & Tonic became a symbol of defiance against bigotry, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Cheers to authenticity and embracing who you are, umbrellas and all! 🌈🍹
I was once told by a girl I worked with, that G&T was her “thigh spreader”. The whole table just lost it.
I’ve said this more than once: As man, everything I do is by default manly. I don’t care if it’s chopping wood in a pink tutu. I’m too old and cranky to give a shit about what constitutes manliness. Especially from a woman. What the fuck would she know about it?
I would’ve married you on the spot when I saw the umbrellas
You did.
When my boyfriend and I started going out, we went to a bar that had cocktails as well as the usual range of drinks, and he was trying to find something he might like but struggling as he didn’t have knowledge of alcohol and what he might like. He ordered something plain I can’t remember and I had a pink gin and lemonade.
He wasn’t enjoying his, so I offered for him to try mine and he really liked it. Asked him why not have one himself and he said no, as he worried it would be too feminine and he would get looks. I went to the bar and ordered a drink he had been considering trying as well as another pink gin and lemonade then plonked them down between us saying we could share.
Nowadays he just orders what he likes without worrying as much, and we love the pink gin in wagamamas with the rose petals because it makes us feel fancy.
Over the years I have been trying to boost his confidence and get him to try things he wants to, and I even bought him a women’s pyjama top simply because he fell in love with how soft it was! When we went to see Rocky Horror, he even let me do some makeup on him just for fun.
Surprisingly, he is not gay! I can confirm this. But what he IS is more confident and happy. I hope you also find someone who wants you to be confident and happy.
One of my buddies is ex military. 6ft 3ish 230lbs of muscle and beard. The most intimidating man I have seen.
He orders fruity drinks. He don’t give a flying fuck what anyone thinks and nobody ever says anything.
Homophobe becomes religious. Shocking.
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My husband’s friend make fun of him for ordering “gay” cosmos. As they drink their same shitty watery light beer they’ve been drinking since middle school. Very, very…..hetero 😂🙄🙄
Who can drink gin and tonic? The gays? Because in the 1990 I was told it wasnt lady like to drink Gin& Tonic!
this [Song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yalxams45y8) is what i go by
Just out of curiosity, what was her drink of choice?
I used to drink Black Russians and had the same issues in a social/ business setting. I was being teased by a couple of guys about it so I asked them if they knew what was in it and if they would like to match me drink for drink. I even offered to put them in an Uber at the end of the night.
G&T glows under blacklight. So that’s pretty cool.
Did she ever taste a gin&tonic? Or did she know the origin? Very prejudice thoughts of her to judge the „gayness“ of a drink because of it looks. But then… that’s 100% what we would’ve expected anyway.
Still, I would think that is one of the drinks, the broad mass would always connect to „true manhood“. Kinda funny that she acted like this. You definitely dodged a bullet there
Oh the bullet you dodged lol.
I didn’t know genders gate-kept drinks. That’s new to me.
I would say wait till she finds out the history of beer, but I don’t think that’s gonna really do anything for her. Keep ordering whatever you like, what’s the point of drinking something if it isn’t to your tastes?
My wife drinks bourbon straight and I like fruity drinks. No one has ever accused either of us of drinking gay.
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Wait, no someone did say “Is that a gay drink?” to me once.
“I hope so, since we are in a gay bar to see our friend perform.”
55 year old, bearded blue collar dude here. Gin & Tonic is my go to drink. Its so fucking good. Is it gay ? Well, let me piss unicorns and shit rainbows, keep them G&Ts coming
As a straight guy that exclusively drinks ‘feminine’ looking cocktails, this brought me so much joy. For the majority of people the taste of alcohol is disgusting, why wouldn’t I have a drink that actually tastes nice as opposed to something that tastes like diluted paint stripper or stale bread (no judgements that’s genuinely what it tastes like for me)
I’m a bearded guy that’s slightly above average height and powerlifting so I’m often the biggest guy there. My wife teases me that I enjoy drink frilly frozen drinks and my buddies do the same when I get a marg when they are all drinking IPAs. I love beer and bourbon but I don’t have to limit myself to them only.
Something I say a lot is “The manliest thing you can drink is whatever the fuck you want to drink.” Choosing your beverage based on what others will think of you is stupid.
My very straight partner, who is bearded, tattooed, guitar-playing, rap and metal-loving man, enjoys a g+t and I, a reasonably ‘girly’ girl, enjoy a pint. Drinks don’t have a gender so I think you definitely dodged a bullet!
That’s muh boy!
That kind of returns some faith in straight people in me
Gin & Tonic in the summer months is the best.
Tom Collins in the summer months is the absolute best.
This is the way.
Oh, what a *lovely* (if petty) revenge!
Yeah the fact that your ex is gatekeeping beverages is enough to make her an ex.
“With a fucking peacock and half a rainforest,” now that is My Kind of Bartender. Go big or go home.
And, yes, you dodged a bullet there.
Jesus what a stupid thing to worry about. I am a shaggy, bearded cunt. And I went out with my wife to a
Mexican restaurant on Thursday. We shared a jug of frozen margarita. Delicious. We go on bar dates to cool bars we like the look of (normally she’s seen it online) and we get fancy cocktails. Sometimes they are whisky sours and other times they are insane pink flower cocktails. Your girlfriend is sexist. God forbid you wear a pink shirt.
A gin and tonic can get you fucked up
You come across as a great guy. I hope you meet the woman you deserve