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Hey everyone! 🌟 So, I’ve been in my HR Coordinator role for a few years now and I recently found out that my manager mentioned performance concerns about me to the Executive Team when I resigned, even though my performance review was positive. 🤔 It kind of feels like a betrayal, especially since she hasn’t been the best manager overall.
Here’s what’s on my mind:
– Should I bring this up with my manager, even though she doesn’t know that I know?
– Is it worth addressing the issue with the Executive Team, considering I only have three weeks left?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how to handle this situation professionally and effectively. Any advice or similar experiences you can share? Let’s discuss! 💬✨
Possible solution:
– Consider scheduling a meeting with your manager to calmly address the situation and express your concerns.
– Document your achievements and positive feedback from past reviews to clarify any misunderstandings about your performance.
– If you feel comfortable, provide constructive feedback to your manager about areas where she could improve her management style for the benefit of future employees.
I totally get how you feel, but I would not bring it up to anyone at work and move on. You’re leaving and I feel like they won’t take it too well or be on your side given that you are leaving. It may not be fair, but I just don’t think you’ll get a good outcome and it could cause stress and burn bridges
That’s my take / advice
Sucks but let it go, their opinions/feelings are irrelevant now. You’re moving on to greener pastures
I had a manager like this once early in my career. She became a friend and then proceeded to poorly manage me. Then when she felt threatened by me, started to professionally gaslight me. It was even worse when I turned in my resignation.
This was in 2013. Fast forward to today, I now own and run an HR consultancy and outsourcing firm with 10 employees and we’re about to double in size due to a couple of huge clients coming in. We stay in touch because of social media and she likes to try and take credit for where I am in my career and life.
The only “credit” she gets is giving me the push to get out from under her thumb and grow. I did everything else without her.
My advice from being on the other side of this, learn from her about all the things you don’t want to be or do as you grow in your career. It’s a valuable lesson that has taught me how to be a good senior HR executive, business owner, partner to clients, mentor, and leader.
Wishing you nothing but the best!
She is showing you who she is.. you have to show her who you are – the bigger person. In your long career ahead, you will see this happen over and over. Know your worth be confident that you worked hard and with integrity and keep progressing in life. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone ever. Learn to see through these and stay indifferent.
Your bosses and colleagues are not your friends and I feel workplaces have become even more brutal and unforgiving after the pandemic (budget pressures, shareholder appeasement, lay-offs, automation etc etc)
Congratulations on finding a new role in this tough market.. and ace it!!
If you’ve already resigned, just move on.
Move forward and don’t dwell on this…