#Frustrated #Challenges #Growth #ImmigrantSuccess
I hear you, friend. It sounds like you’ve been working hard and trying your best, but things just aren’t falling into place. It can be incredibly frustrating when you see others succeeding seemingly effortlessly.
Here are a few things to consider to possibly help you turn things around:
* Have you considered seeking out a mentor who can provide guidance and support?
* Networking can open up new opportunities and connections that you may not have been aware of before.
* Have you explored different industries or career paths that may better align with your interests and skills?
Remember, everyone’s journey is different and success doesn’t always come easily. Keep pushing forward and don’t be afraid to seek out help and advice. You’re not alone in feeling this way. 💪 #KeepPushing #SuccessIsPossible
i was in the same boat. my parents always told me that if I get good enough grades to get into college and get a bachalors degree then ill be fine and get to be where they are at. at age 23 or 24 both my parents had graduated college and owned a house together and had me. I did everything I was supposed to do and just couldnt get a job anywhere in my degree field. i ended up graduating college and got stuck working at best buy for a while just to make some money and I always felt I was super overqualified to work there. something needed to change so I decided to join the army because I ran out of options and I needed something with good pay and benefits. while I was in the army I developed an interest in law enforcement and perused that when I got out. this had nothing to do with my major in college nor did it require a college degree. I love my new career path and I shouldve just went straight to that after HS. I currently make more than my parents did in their early to late 20s but I still am not as secure as they were. Im 30, still live in an apartment, not yet married, and am reluctant to have kids right now because I don’t think I could support them and give them the life my parents gave me. my parents were considered middle class at the time and seemed to never have money issues. we had a nice house, I also had 2 younger sisters, they were able to afford me playing hockey which is the most expensive sport to put kids through, we went on good vacations with other family friends of ours to places like Disney world like every other year, and were always blessed come christmas. Now me and my fiance struggle to find a good affordable house, we are lucky if we can scrape together a weekend type of vacation. times really are so different now.
Bro no, studying guaratees nothing except you’re on those world top universities. I didn’t went to college, saw it like a waste of time, and 4 years later here I’m earning 3x more than graduates just by quiet quitting, job hopping and starting businesses (selling sh1t and cider). Forget about working for others, you’ll be exploited 24/7.
First make money (by any means, don’t be scrupulous) -> buy time -> study whatever you want whenever you want. That’s the plan.
I saw this coming a number of years ago. So I figured I needed to take steps to avoid it. Unfortunately I wasn’t able to avoid it, but I did manage to get a career that’s fairly safe and keeps my head above water in this crazy world.
Unfortunately, it’s like lifeboats, there are not enough for everyone. I got in one somewhat early but I’m still hanging off the side by a rope (so it’s not a comfortable ride).
Eventually someone is gonna snap and start shooting politicians and rich assholes. More and more people are getting fed up
I guess you’re all from America, I feel bad for you all. As a young kid I used to want to live in America as it was the land of opportunity, I’m now a lot older and glad but sad that I never emigrated, what’s happened to America is scary reading your posts, it’s apparent you get very little help from you’re own Government
I fear Britain is heading down the same road especially cutting ties with Europe and having a blatant corrupt leaders yes we’re all going to be fucked as well, oh I’m from Scotland ruled by English wankers.
Hope all your situations improve, stay positive 💪
This shit.
Stopped getting a further college degree because of 2008.
Don’t even work in my degree field because the pay is garbage.
My grandparents think we don’t work hard because it’s factory work. My step father thinks no one works harder than blue collar, and can’t fathom that my blue collar spouse and white collar me STILL can’t afford a house.
I have no outstanding credit cards, I currently have no outstanding medical bills (but with 2 chronic illnesses, that can always change, it depleted my savings and then some before, it can do it again, and that’s WITH insurance), we save and save and save and every fucking time we have tried for a house, try asked if we can’t just borrow 20k from family or we get outbid (last time it was by 40k, just for the buyer to slap some paint on and put it back on the market for over 100k more) and we’ll oit of our price range. It’s half the size of my grandparents WW2 “starter home” and had zero updates.
What the fuck are we working towards?
What did you get your degree in?
I got a Masters in Biochem. All the jobs in my field pay $12-15 within my area. I got a desk job with the state where my degree doesn’t directly apply, only the skills I gained (deadlines, research, typing documents, etc) and the job pays “well”. My husband and I lived in a trailer on my in-laws’ property for 6 months before we bought our house (1988 home). We paid them rent, but it was just our portion of the utilities.
My husband and I both work, but it’s pretty much paycheck to paycheck. I have an 8 yo Step-son that we have full-time.
Financially speaking, we cannot even afford having more children or even have money in our savings. We have some CC debts that were paying during my job transition.
We’re not even living outside of our means. It’s literally become impossible to buy just the necessities.
I firmly believe that part of the problem is the expectations we have about life, money, etc. Social media and the so called “influencers” nowadays has normalized the “be rich or you’ll die poor” idea. It is a all or nothing mentality for a lot of folks. Now, I am not implying that trying to get ahead in life is a bad thing, but in my opinion it should not the the ultimate goal. I considered my dad to be successful, but he didn’t have lots of money, however he was smart enough to be able to raise a family of six, including my mom which was a SAHW, on a modest income, and with a Masters Degree from MIT. He never aspired to have the best paying job, or living a dream life. Of course our house was never the biggest, we didn’t have the most expensive vacations, and our cars were always more than 10 years old. However, he made enough efforts to keep us afloat, spend time with us, and overall being a modest financially, but present dad. Things is that, his modest expectations made us happy, and he was as well. Society should take a step back and start having more modest expectations. Nobody needs a 2000sf house in their 20s, and there is no such thing as a starter home. My lifelong house is a modest 1,044 sf feet house I am able to pay on a very modest income. My wife is a sahw as well, and we are happy, having less posesions, living a simpler life.
I totally feel for you. I’m 33, and have worked my ass off since 15 trying to prove my worth and get somewhere in my life. I’ve gotten absolutely nowhere but burnout and working myself sick. My rent is 85% of my income…and I have 10+ years experience in my field of work.
I know it doesn’t make us feel much better to hear it, but you’re not alone in your pain and struggle. We’ve been dealt some of the worst cards imaginable. I have no help and no future, the american dream is not real and I just keep hoping something will change.
Sending love that we all get through this somehow. ❤️
Yep. I have a master’s degree, graduated with high honors, have worked tirelessly my whole life—either padding my CV or scrubbing urinals and waiting tables to pay for food—and I had to give up on my dream of having children. I will never own a home. I work two jobs (so does my wife) to try to pay the bills, and I’m drowning in student loan debt and medical bills. I have a rare chronic illness that has already cost me one medical bankruptcy just seeking diagnosis, and I can’t afford further treatment anymore. I have nothing saved for retirement. I work 17-hour days on 4 hours of sleep and still sometimes have to put food on the credit card. I hate it, and I’m angry as hell.
Your not wrong. I am 32 yrs old. Just like you I did great in college. I graudated and found a great job in the medical field. Now my father did incredibly well for himself when he was younger and retired in his 40s. He and my mother (who dident do nearly as well as him) also built SEVERAL houses from the ground up in the years they spent raising us. I comparatively make as much money as he did when he was my age. Now I support myself but between my rent being insain and my bills also being insain there just isent much money leftover to save. I am not going to be able to afford a home anytime soon let alone BUILD one and god forbid retire before 70 lol. This isent a budgeting problem this is the world for us these days. We do not have the same opportunitys our parents did. It’s just a fact. Most older people just refuse to bealive anything has changed. I don’t have a clue how we are supposed to get ahead it just doesn’t seem possible.
The biggest thing I see is people not taking the second and see what’s in demand. A piece of paper means nothing when 5k people are applying for that job. Plenty of jobs are paying 100k+ and in need of help, learn those. Around here, if your hvac u start at 100k, if I was starting over, that’s what I’d be taking in school. Look what’s paying and in demand before signing up for school for 5 years to make 30k year.
Hey, don’t worry, don’t be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride. ~ Bill Hicks
Here’s my bet. You’ll probably end up in a job that has nothing to do with your degree. You’ll start at the bottom like you didn’t go through college at all. That’s alright. The skills you developed in college, like meeting deadlines, working with people, communication, pushing through the obstacles….those are what will help in the long term. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. …and don’t forget to help your parents when you can.
And the worst of it has happened in the last 20 years. The total amount I paid for my house in 1993 wouldn’t even cover the down payment for that same house today. We got fucked while the rich got richer. And keep getting told by our government we are not struggling, things are better.
I fully relate. Times changed to the worse, it’s not worth even comparing how life used to be 40 years ago when our grandparents were active in the job market. Back then, you didn’t even have to finish school to find a decent job and support your family. Today you have to obtain Bachelor’s, Master’s, 2-3 languages to be competitive and still it’s not enough. Everything runs through nepotism, connections, network, you name it. I don’t even know one young person who is satisfied with their life, with the economy, with the job market, no matter where they live. That’s problematic itself, and sadly we can’t do much to change it. Or rather I don’t know what should be done to change it. Try to stay positive though as much as possible and keep an eye on whatever interests you because you never know when something will come up. And remember, that shit has nothing to do with your value. It’s a plague that has affected our generation, and made it question its self worth.
Good post! I have done the same things as you and feel the same. Graduate students need to organize better and fight for the jobs that they deserve.