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Creating Drama in the Family – A Personal Experience
Have you ever found yourself unknowingly stirring up drama in your entire family? I certainly have! Let me share with you one unforgettable incident that caused a whirlwind of emotions and tension among my loved ones.
The Incident:
One time, during a family gathering, I innocently shared a piece of gossip I had heard from a distant relative. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but little did I know, it would snowball into a huge misunderstanding within the family.
The Fallout:
The information I shared ended up sparking arguments between certain family members, leading to hurt feelings and resentment. I felt incredibly guilty for inadvertently causing discord among the people I care about most.
Resolving the Drama:
To mend the situation, I took responsibility for my actions, sincerely apologized to those affected, and clarified the miscommunication. It took time and effort, but eventually, the tensions eased, and harmony was restored within the family.
Lessons Learned
Through this experience, I learned valuable lessons about the power of words and the importance of being mindful of what I share with others. Here are some key takeaways:
– Think before you speak: Words have the power to shape relationships and impact others’ emotions.
– Avoid gossip and hearsay: Rumors can easily escalate and cause unnecessary drama.
– Communication is key: Clear, open communication is vital in resolving conflicts and preventing misunderstandings.
In conclusion, causing drama within the family, even unintentionally, can have lasting effects on relationships. It’s crucial to approach situations with care, sensitivity, and honesty to maintain harmony and avoid unnecessary turmoil. Remember, words have the power to heal or hurt, so choose them wisely. 💬 #FamilyLove #LessonsLearned
I was probably 6 or so years old when this happened. We were at a large family gathering for thanksgiving and the adults were talking about drinking and driving. Young innocent me had no idea what they were actually talking about and chimed in that my mom drinks and drives all of the time! I didn’t know soda and whatnot didn’t count.
My parents have a ranch and sold some land to a couple of my uncles and they’re all neighbors now. Well one of my uncles called the sheriff on me and my friends for shooting guns on my parents property. Sheriff shows up, sees that we’re being safe and goes over to my uncles property and chews him out for wasting his time. The next day, he comes over and asks if we can bring our tractor and help with his truck that was stuck on mud. I said “call the sheriff”. He blows up the family chat and my mom sees it and starts defending me and saying he can’t talk about me like that. The rest of the family is pretty much divided, with some saying I’m disrespectful and the others say it’s karma for snitching. This went on for awhile and to finish it off, my mom named the group chat the tractor and it’s still that to this day.
Not me, but my wife and her family… her grandmother passed away during a major holiday last year, and they all went to her grandfather’s the weekend of the funeral to comfort him and spend time together. They were grilling and someone brought drinks of all sorts. My brother in law, early 20’s is stupid with his drinking. He starts throwing them back and surprise-surprise, before long he’s buzzed and then some.
His mom asks him if he still has his money (won from the casino night before), and he starts pulling fistfuls of cash out and handing to his girlfriend to prove it. His mom said just be careful and don’t lose it, then Shawn looks to his gf and blurts, “Give me back my money, bitch!”
His gf looks like she’s been slapped and is embarrassed. MiL tells him he needs to behave and he turns around, gets in her face and yells for her to get off his ass. My wife goes inside and tells her dad Shawn needs to cool it some. Turns out father in law (again, just lost his mom) was drunk and went out there and told him off which turned into a swinging match with everyone yelling. Shawn tells his gf “bitch, go to the car.” And she’s bawling. He screams at the whole family, tells them to go f*ck themselves and says he doesn’t want anything to do with them ever again and that’s the last they’ll hear from him and drives off. Drunk.
He calls less than 30 minutes later wanting to know if any of them knew where his wallet was because he wanted stuff for his vape pen.
When I unfriended my step-dad on Facebook and my mother got pissed and it created this whole stupid thing. That fed my decision to delete my profile completely years later. Absolutely hate the notion that you need to be connected to family on socials just because they’re there.
Not me but my dad. My dad was engaged to this lady for 11 years and he broke off the engagement to get married to my mom
My parents have a complicated relationship with my brother. Its actually more parasitic, but we won’t talk about that.
I was hanging out at my cool aunt’s house with my parents, and a few other extended family members. My mom kept talking about all this stuff she scheduled with my sister in law, and how she always cancels or won’t commit to anything. I blurted out “I hate to break it to you but she doesn’t like you that much”.
Aunt says “let me get another drink!”. My mom was not happy, but the passive aggressive hate was sooooooo obvious. Stuff like going out to eat, and having my brother pick out the place which will be super crowded so we have to eat at a separate table on the other side of the restaurant but still pay.
My child died and you would not believe the fact I had to put my own case forward for keeping my own child ashes.
I showed up to my Baptist grandmother’s funeral in a top that showed I had tattoos.
I genuinely forgot how much drama that would cause.
We were staying with my cousins in another state. 4 of us kids were sharing a bed. Pretty standard.
Well I wet the bed.
I didn’t say anything. They assumed my little sister wet the bed. But she blamed it on my cousin. So my Mom and my Aunt got in a huge fight over it. Like literally screaming.
Both my sister and cousin had to wear a pull up for the rest of the week as a result. Because the adults couldn’t agree who wet the bed and neither of the younger kids admitted to it.
It’s never an accident with me.
I was diagnosed with CPTSD about four years ago, I have been going to therapy for about fourteen years now for anxiety and depression. I am the only one in my family, besides my father who has now passed away, to consistently and routinely go to therapy and work on my trauma. I brought up the diagnosis to my mother, who in turn responded “join the club.”
So I responded with a long message regarding the years of neglect and abuse that she had put me through, requesting that she herself find help. She responded by shutting off my bank accounts(she had been financially abusive as well my entire life, needing to be attached to my account to ensure I was “making good choices”.) Making me scramble to move my entire savings and open a new account. She sent the message around to my aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins and siblings so they understood the “nasty” things I had been saying about her. Only my sister stood up for me, saying that these events absolutely happened and that the entire family played a part in my abuse.
So, by healing my trauma I have caused a large rift throughout the entire family. Even my great grandmother in Africa is reaching out to find “solutions” for the family. Going no contact, has lead to my entire family analyzing their relationships and it is falling apart. There are divorces, cousins who have gone no contact, cousins running away, uncles being arrested, just a whole mess of people who set each other on fire to keep themselves warm. I just heal and grow. My partner and I are currently working on our house together, I have never felt more at home than with him.
When I was 8 my mom asked about how her new dress looked, I didn’t bother even looking I instinctively said it looked good , she cried to my dad that I did not respect her, later on my dad told just look next time and unless she is going to embarrass herself tell her it looks good
My sister got my 6 year old a present she didn’t really like. A doll from a movie she only watched once, and she doesn’t even play with dolls. She said thank you anyway but my sister could tell she was kind of upset and kept pushing and prodding my daughter. Then it turned into I don’t how to parent because my daughter wasn’t happy.
She tried to turn everyone against me and I just wanted to get my over tired and over stimulated kids home. It turned into a week long argument.
I don’t go to family functions anymore.
Apparently I have with my cousin I don’t speak to anymore. Most of the family has chosen to continue talking to her and not me and that’s just fine but the few people I still speak to say she brings me up at every occasion and says she has no idea why I don’t want to talk to her anymore. Family member says nobody bites because we all know why. The reason is because I refused to travel to a family reunion in April 2020 with my medically fragile 3 year old. She made a public Facebook post and called me out by name for being stupid and not understanding that Covid is just a cold. This was on top of some other stuff but I was just done dealing with her at that point and not talking to her has brought me enough peace that I don’t feel like doing it anymore.
I tried to kill myself. Caused a lot of drama. Oops
I decided to be brave and tell my immediate family about my childhood s/a, which led to extended family being told, which I didnt mind, thought it would make everybody rally around me to help, but nooooo, they decided to be super selfish and make it about them and how it looked to other people what a family member had done and what id been through, pretty much divided up my family and now I don’t talk to either of them or their wives and can’t stand the mere thought of them🤷🏼♀️. My secret that I kept so long to prevent anything happening, exploded my entire family apart, the sole reason I kept it to myself ended up happening regardless
I was having breakfast in my grandparents house and my whole family was there and I was 13 and I spoke while my uncle mentioned about moving places because of his job and was worried about how his kids will do if he does…..My dad moves around a lot because of his job and being a kid who had moved 7 schools and different places just said that “moving is hard but once the kids learn the language they will fit right in and suggested that they watch cartoons in the language they wanna learn”
My aunt apparently didn’t like how I spoke and yelled at me saying she won’t let her kids go around learning different languages because it’s difficult and how her life was hard when she had to learn another language. ( a kid made fun of my aunt because she didn’t pronounce a word properly)
Another aunt said that kids should learn languages because it helps in communication and it’s a new thing to learn “besides its not the kid’s fault that you couldn’t pronounce one word” My other aunt said jokingly
My aunt blew up yelling and screaming… My cousins never moved my uncle moved to different places because of his job , now he has a different job and doesn’t required to move
Sometimes I wonder what if I never spoke that day or many times I wonder what I spoke wrong
I moved 4 hours away lol. Still in the same state, just on the other side. You would think I killed someone the way they all acted and have treated me since.
I’m 32 with a full time job, paid off car, no debts outside of student loans. I don’t even have a credit card. All my bills are paid on time every time.
But I MOVED. Therefore I am the worst person in the family lol
I was hammered at a family wedding and somehow was the only one who caught my cousins wife drinking sparkling water instead of vodka soda, somehow guessed she was pregnant and told everyone. She was only one month pregnant and had just found out. I was on the apology train the next day for sure
We were all sitting in the hospital room with my grandfather, waiting for him to pass. I looked at the clock on the wall and it showed 230 am so I said “closing time, you don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here” and he takes one more breathe and dies. Somehow I killed him or something.
When my dog fought w my niece’s dog, and the entire family reunion went to hell.
I was barely 19 and barely had a job for a year when my aunt decided to call and text me demanding $2k for a divorce attorney because my uncle apparently cheated on her.
I told her no because I thought it was fucking ridiculous that she’s crying for a divorce now that my uncle is just simply throwing back all the shit she did to him. She cheated on my uncle *multiple* times across their whole marriage. She even slept with a male nurse *while her baby was in NICU.* She has also physically beaten him in the past.
I got a lot of shit from my family over saying no. They were mad because they knew I had that kind of money, but I wouldn’t use it to help, “blood.” My aunt was related to me by blood, but my uncle not. That uncle did more for me than my aunt ever did. Still does.
I reported my brother to Senior Services for hitting my elderly mother.
I was 7 reading through my dad’s text with my mom. They had just divorced. They were arguing and he said, “that’s why ***** isn’t my actual son, you whore” I mentioned it to my parents and hell broke out. My brother still has no idea 🙃 I’m 26 now
My cousin and I were texting about our parents and I had said that it sounds like her mom was being a real bitch about things (they recently moved back to where everyone else lives and she was up-ending xmas dinner traditions, something they never had been apart of). Either my cousin told her mom what I said or her mom looked at her phone and read the messages because a couple of days later, her mom cornered my mom and my mom’s house and asked why she had called her a bitch. Oh the drama.
It was a big “family” visit, back at the family farm in the midwest. Mom & Dad’s farm, with me visiting, and my sister, her husband and their three kids. My sister’s three kids are mostly awesome, but the older brother is an absolute shit to his younger brother, the youngest of the three. He’s being a terrible bully to him. Punching him when he thinks nobody can see him. Spitting on him. Choking him. Making insults and taunting him. Basically ruining the entire visit for his brother. So we’re about 4 days into the 7-day visit, and I mention at the main table (the kids were in the next room) how terrible the older brother has been treating the youngest, and how nobody seems to care, and I can see it’s REALLY starting to bother the youngest.
The “dad” just laughs and says “Boys will be boys. I had it rougher than that, and I turned out fine. Just leave it alone.”
I will fully admit that we ALL had been drinking that day. I replied “Boys will be boys?? That sounds like something a shitty parent would say, to excuse the shitty behavior of his shitty kid.”
The next three days were… interesting.
Drank too much, got thrown in the Psyche ward
.y husband and I moved from CA to MN for better opportunities. His sister accused him of dumping fhe responibility of caring for his parents (who were perfectly healthy at the time) on her. She has always been a bitter, selfish person but this caused the family to gang up against him and they stole his inheritance when his parents did eventually die. It wasn’t much, mostly sentimental things. We’ve been no contact for ages now. Good riddance IMO but I know it hurt my husband.
One time, I accidentally forwarded an email to my entire family that was meant for a friend. The email contained some candid remarks about a family gathering we had just attended, including some not-so-flattering opinions about certain relatives. Needless to say, it caused quite a stir and led to some awkward conversations and hurt feelings within the family. It taught me the importance of double-checking recipients before hitting send on any message.
When my grandmother moved in with my mom about 7 years ago. I showed up to help her pack and move, grandma had boxes with people’s names on them, as she was downsizing and wanted things to go to specific grandkids, children, cousins, etc. we had been going for a few hours and most things where packed in the U-Haul but these boxes of other people.
Well we all left to go get lunch and my uncle and his wife showed up and took all the boxes ment for everyone else. They also got into the U-Haul and took some of my grandmas favorite furniture and memories of my dead grandfather ( like her wedding album) We didn’t know at the time that my uncle stole the stuff, so I did what anyone does and called the police.
My grandma had been burgled and was so upset that she called ALL her kids (4 in total) and let them know what happened. Well she called shitty uncle, right after I had called the police and made a report… He told her it was him and that ‘No he wasn’t giving the stuff back.’ My grandma was beside herself in that moment and got upset with me because my uncle was going to get in trouble AGAIN! Turns out my uncle was a felon for stealing all sorts of stuff in his younger years.
My grandma demanded that I call and tell the police it was an accident, or miss understanding. But I refused, not only did my asshole uncle steal from his own mother, but he broke a window to get into her already sold house, and then damaged the U-Haul to get into that! I paid for the U-Haul and wasn’t going to be stuck with the bill, and my grandma didn’t have the money to pay me… So my asshole uncle was arrested, he was fine in the end, and released the same day. But lord you would have thought he had gone back to prison for 5 years, again with the way he acted after.
It caused a MASSIVE fight in my family with one of my uncles and my aunt to settle on my side. That My stealing uncle needed to be punished for his bad behavior. And my mom siding with my stealing uncle and grandma on team I was just being dramatic.
Thing is my uncle has done this several times to family over the years. And each time my grandma ( and for a long time grandpa) protected him. The ONE time he got in trouble was after he stole from a person that refused to take hush money from my grandparents. My uncle robbed this guys house with 3 other guys, tied the guy up at gunpoint and then drove off…Hence the he went to prison thing. I wasn’t born when it happened and never knew because it was kept on the hush hush. I didn’t know and even if I did I would have still spoken up. I mean what kind of AH steals from their elderly mother!
I was born.
My mother got pregnant after going on a date with my father. Unclear how many dates were involved and how much drinking and how much consent. It was fifty years ago and nobody’s really talking. She was 25 and still living at home, very old fashioned, very Catholic family. She was an only child, born when my grandparents had given up hope and were looking to adopt, so she was everything to them.
My father was an officer in the military and then he was transferred before I was born. My grandmother wanted me to be given for adoption, so that was the plan and he was fine with it. But there was a 6-week waiting period that I was in foster care and my mother changed her mind. In the meantime, my father had met and fallen in love with his future wife. She prevented him from sending support or having any contact with me at all. Mom had to get the army involved to get child support, which was minimal.
Eventually, when I was nine, dad and his wife had some kind of marital crisis and went to marriage counseling where he recognized the right to see me and tell my younger siblings about me. Also his four sisters, etc. So I was introduced to everybody. One of the aunts said “[my sister] will always be the first grandchild as far as I’m concerned.” and that’s a pretty good summary for how the next 40 years went.
So pretty good, right? 50 years of drama just because I exist.
My aunt and my mom had a feud going on (basically cousin got married during covid and didn’t invite everyone (obviously) and my mom was very offended). Anyway, at my grandparents anniversary dinner a year later I was talking to my aunt because she asked me about school. My mom acted like a brat the whole dinner for my grandparents anniversary. Well the next day my mom blew up on me for talking to my aunt when she initiated the conversation. My dad saw the whole thing go down and took my side and everyone else took my side. Honestly, it was nice for people to take my side.
Whenever I’d point out my sister was the golden child and I was the scapegoat my mom would rush to my sister’s defense and insult and berate me nonstop til I took it back.
I was only 8 at the time. My neighbors 16 year old son knocked on our door 3 am to use the phone. The smell of liquor and weed on him was really strong. While he was talking on the phone, he ate our whole bag of M&Ms.
I was also friends with his little sister. I didn’t think anything of it, but I told her that her drunk brother ate all my M&Ms. Their mom over heard it.
An hour later, while we were having peaceful family time on a Sunday night and watching America’s Funniest Home Videos, she knocks on our door and throws the bag of M&Ms she just bought right at my dad. She said that her son would never drink. She brings her son back over and he confessed what I said was true.
Bad thing was that my brother and I were bullied on the school bus, so she had always volunteered to take us to school since her kids also went. This made my parents panic and wonder how they were going to get us to school because they both worked in the morning. Then, it escalated to my parents arguing how each one doesn’t do enough for us kids.
My parents and brother turned against me because I ruined everything by “opening my mouth.” That night traumatized me to the point where I’m on a dangerous level of minding my own business. This included witnessing a break-in, almost a year later, at another neighbors house and not telling anyone. Yep, got yelled for not saying anything about that too.
I was doing something with my nieces and I hurt myself and said “bitch” under my breath. My younger niece told my brother and his wife I called HER a bitch. My brother goes absolutely off and tells my mother and father as well… him and his wife berated me over the phone and everything. It was awful. Things are fine now but honestly it took a couple of years for them to actually believe me. They didnt let me do much with their kids. Always made me wonder if my niece totally lied, and said other things as well, or what happened.. Uhm like no I didn’t call your 7 year old a bitch. Why would I do that?
i told my family i started doing Onlyfans lol