How to Handle Emotions After Bleeding Through Period in Front of Boyfriend?
Have you ever had a moment when your period caught you off guard, leading to an embarrassing situation with your significant other? It happens to the best of us! Here are some tips to navigate through this potentially awkward moment and prevent it from affecting your relationship negatively:
## Acknowledge Your Feelings
It’s completely normal to feel embarrassed or nervous after something like this happens. Take a moment to acknowledge your emotions and understand that it’s okay to feel this way.
## Communicate with Your Boyfriend
Open communication is key in any relationship. Talk to your boyfriend about how you’re feeling and reassure him that it was just a natural occurrence. Chances are, he understands and won’t judge you for it.
## Take Care of Yourself
Remember to prioritize self-care during this time. Take care of your physical and emotional well-being to help you feel more confident and secure in your relationship.
## Seek Professional Help if Needed
If your feelings of anxiety persist or worsen, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with coping mechanisms and support to navigate through this challenging situation.
Remember, everyone experiences embarrassing moments, and it’s important to address them in a healthy and constructive manner. Don’t let one incident affect your overall relationship with your boyfriend. Stay positive, communicate openly, and take care of yourself. #PeriodEmbarrassment #RelationshipAdvice #CommunicationIsKey
You’re taking an awful lot of blame to yourself for something that you didn’t do on purpose, and *wouldn’t* have done on purpose.
Let’s reframe that first.
You always have heavy periods, so you have to change tampons frequently. But having recently had surgery, you were tired and fell asleep, and so you had an accident.
*None of that is your fault.*
Now that that’s out of the way: If your boyfriend is old enough to have a girlfriend, then he’s old enough to know that most young women menstruate. It’s not “disgusting”. It’s natural.
You’re not the one being too dramatic and not understanding enough. He is.
Goodness, accidents happen. It’s a totally natural thing to occur especially since you have heavy cycles. He’s making a big deal out of nothing.
Why didn’t your mom drive you home
This was a pure accident, hopefully your leg heals quickly.
Nothing a little peroxide would not fix in a minute. No reasonable person would be upset. A boy might get upset.
You didn’t do anything wrong and he shouldn’t have gotten upset. That scenario is extremely embarrassing as I’m sure you know and many people’s worst nightmare. Your mom should have been more supportive as well. Extreme embarrassment brings out the worst in most of us. But he’s 18 and incredibly immature right now as are 90% of all 18 year olds. I could see myself reacting in a similar unhealthy way when I was 18 but I would never act that or come close to acting that way at 31 being married almost 10 years.
There will likely be a bunch of people here saying to leave him that it’s the tip of the iceberg and that he’s toxic. But people can change and everyone is immature to some point at that age. I would highly suggest bringing it up to him at a neutral time in a very calm way. See what he thinks after some reflection.
>do know it was very bad that I was not careful enough, and that it is disgusting
No. Who said this to you? Why do you repeat it? It’s not disgusting. It’s at worst, mildly annoying, and anyway, you cleaned it so no biggie. Your body isn’t disgusting. Your boyfriend is being an immature freak.
It’s not irrational to be upset after your boyfriend screams at you. Your emotions are real and it’s okay to feel them. I know you’re young, but pay attention to these feelings. Your gut will tell you where you feel safe, loved, secure, valued. Listen to it.
I feel like I constantly read stuff like this. Either with a period. Peeing, pooping, or vommitting.
Stuff like this happens to everyone at some point. It’s not a big deal it’s just an accident. A good person would recognize it and try to help you deal with the embarrassment. It can be annoying to clean up but it’s not a big deal.
Its as if men dont realize that we dont have any control over it. Its as if its not the same as pissing!
Seriously though girl, it isnt your fault.
The first time i met my boyfriend i accidentally bled all over his bed and i was so embarrassed. Luckily he was super understanding and said its natural. He bleached his bed after i left and never said a peep about it.
This isnt a you problem. He is being ignorant. Unless he wants to put a towel everywhere you sit like your a pregnant dog, hes just going to have to understand its a risk and it happens. Hes acting like you squatted on the spot and bled over everything on purpose. He needs to grow up a bit.
Im willing to bet if you had a cut on your finger and you accidentally bled on the couch he wouldnt have reacted that way. Its because its from our lady parts its considered “gross”
You’ve been with this man for eight months, and something little like this is enough to rattle your relationship? Geez. Sweetie this isn’t a real partnership. Get a man you can talk to; be open with; and yes, have small “accidents” with. I can’t imagine spending eight months with someone and still being so on edge to relax and be myself. You can do better.
Leave that little a-hole. 100%. None of that is your fault and you’re literally bleeding. He should be compassionate and making you feel safe, taken care of and loved. Not acting like a little shit with no empathy or emotional intelligence. You should never be made to feel this way and it breaks my heart that you even felt the need to pose such a lengthy backstory of you didn’t know it would happen and it’s never happened before… yes, when this happens it’s embarrassing, but for someone to make you feel bad about it means they don’t value your emotional state and didn’t care that you already felt like crap about it. There’s no getting around that point and I hope you don’t make excuses for him.
I’m so sorry honey. Leave his immature ass and find yourself someone who will rub your back and play with your hair and bring you heating pads and not make a scene or make you feel bad for accidentally bleeding through a tampon … better yet, find someone who will comfort you through it and love and support and spoil you. They exist. You just have to have boundaries and stick with them. No more of these immature scrubs. Of course it upset you – it would any of us. He’s a dick.
*I know it was awful that I did that,*
No it fucking wasn’t. Why should people be shaming you for a basic human function. You didn’t intentionally bleed on his cushions.
*I do know it was very bad that I was not careful enough, and that it is disgusting.*
Who the hell made you think you should be this ashamed ffs. It’s not ‘disgusting’
Get rid of this silly little boy. Stop apologising and start feeling outraged.
He’s a boy, not a man. None of this is your fault.
Only a little immature boy would get upset and disgusted at you because of this 😬 congrats though! You found out he’s not worth shit now rather than later on.
I did not even read this post as I felt like the title said enough to piss me off. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years now. When we first started dating, I’m talking maybe 6 months in, I had some medical issues that started with me fainting, then led to me throwing up, peeing and shitting myself all at once during a black out. All while my partner held me. Held me. I shit on his lap while he held me through it. When I finally came to, he carried me to the shower and sat behind me on the floor of it while I cried in his arms. When it happened again shortly after, he held my hand in an ambulance and proceeded to not leave my side for 3 days after, until I was okay. The cherry on top of all this, was the fact that I too, was on my period at the same time and could not control how or where I bled.
You deserve so much better my love.
He embarrassed you and yelled at you. Your only mistake was to go visiting him when you were far too tired. You should have been home in bed. Whose idea was it to go to his house AFTER SURGERY?
Don’t let him treat you like this. He’s an ignorant jerk.
You don’t need to stop your emotions, your emotions are perfectly justified.
Your relationship is a delusion. Dump him and tell him to grow up.
I hate it when someone says “you should have known better”, it’s so condescending and rude.
You didn’t do anything disgusting or wrong, you were exhausted and fell asleep, it happens. Plus, you were exhausted, you could have gone home to rest but you chose to go to his parents house FOR HIM.
I would have a really hard time moving past being spoken to like that in this situation.
Dump him. It’s ok to dump a boyfriend when he’s an asshole, the first time he shows himself to be an insensitive prick. You’re 18, learn that early on. Burn it into your brain and carry it with you in every relationship. Leave a man the first time he has you very fucked up and find another one. He wants to date women but is mean about periods…doesn’t sound like someone deserving of a girlfriend to me.
It was an accident, shit happens! This guy is a tool and needs to grow up, and you need someone a lot more understanding and empathetic in your life!
Side note, if you’re comfortable with it, I got a hormonal iud and after a month or so it lightened my periods by a lot! Just in case you’d like an option that might help you.
It’s completely natural and these things happen, that’s just life. It isn’t like clockwork. Periods can be late and early, by weeks sometimes, and NO ONE should be making you feel disgusted by it. If you weren’t having them, then there would be a problem as you wouldn’t be a healthy woman (or pregant).
I think the way people have responded to this is honestly unbelievable. You should be being looked after by these people, it’s hard enough going through the pain, the hormonal changes and other annoying symptoms of a period without people blaming you for the most natural thing in the world that you have no control over.
I will say this though, maybe look into those period cups. They last a lot longer than tampons and pads and I’ve deffo found them to be much less messy. Some recommendations are Organicup and Intimina, you can keep them in for up to 12 hours as well.
You should be annoyed at them for reacting like this and not the other way around. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for something like this, if they’re gonna be nasty and gaslight you into thinking you deserve to be treated poorly over a natural bodily function that is actually causing you pain (cramps, mood swings, etc..) then they’re really immature and not worth your time worrying about what they think. Maybe discuss some of these points with them and see if they can open their minds a bit.
I mean, it sounds like your mum was more annoyed about the sheets, so that’s just one of them. It wasn’t your fault. I’m sure she realises this, and was maybe just annoyed about extra washing, but try one of those cups and see if it helps a little.
Shit on his bed and ask him what’s worse
I have gotten blood on the couch once and the bed once at my boyfriend’s place. What does he do? Runs me a shower, takes my clothes and washes them, and cleans the couch covers/ sheets and mattress pad. I change into some of his sweats and we hit up the corner store for some snacks. Watch some movies or take a nap together. Why the fuck is your boyfriend berating you (and then mom getting annoyed with you too?!) NTA.
when my joyfriend bled onto my favorite and hard-to-wash cushion, my first concern was not to make them feel even worse. i did not let them clean it up, i just put the cushion away to soak and then made some cocoa for my joyfriend and cuddled them.
your bf shoulda reassured you 100%. he failed you and i think he sucks, frankly.
Are you fucking kidding me. I’m sorry, I’m going to get mad. Your emotions are not the problem here honey — YOUR BOYFRIEND IS. He treats you like shit, and you go on the internet asking how to fix your reaction to being treated like shit??? No. Leave him girl. He is trash. The fact that you’re here posting it like this means you need some serious therapy to learn how to value yourself. I’m serious, ditch the guy and find a counselor. You deserve better.
Ask his mother if he ever had a wet dream. Ask in front of him. WHY didn’t he stop it? He should KNOW better,and that’s disgusting. /s
The point is,nobody can always control what their body is trying to expel.
You deserve better treatment than this. You’re not disgusting. Accidents happen. I have a feeling, also, if this happened to one of your friends, you would be a lot kinder and more accommodating, especially if they apologized and cleaned it up.
I hope you learn to give yourself grace. I have read through some of your comments and I get the sense that you have been taught that nothing you do is good enough. You’re young. You deserve love. You ARE good enough. I’m sorry this happened to you, I hope soon you will realize that the correct response would have been to comfort you, to let you know it’s not a big deal, to make sure you’re okay since you just had SURGERY!!! and to let you continue to rest.
This internet stranger is sending you love.
There is nothing disgusting about what happened, other than the fact your bf was a dick about it. You can do better than him.
This is none of your fault, at all! He is not mature enough to have a girlfriend. Tell him to date something that doesn’t bleed, like his hand or a flesh light. He needs sex ed and to take classes on periods or female anatomy in general.
You’re okay. Don’t see him until he knows he was being an AH.
Ok it’s not awful this stuff happens. Periods suck like that especially for us girls with heavier periods. The way your mom and boyfriend act about it though is very rude. So please please stop giving yourself crap about this. It was an accident
Dump him. He isn’t ready to be in a relationship with a human woman who exists inside a human body.
Going forward, remember you can’t find one of the good ones if you aren’t willing to leave the bad ones when they reveal themselves.
is not disgusting, is just blood and nature, is not like something rotten or discompose
I had surgery and my husband had to change my diapers full of blood clots and bathe me.
I can’t imagine being with someone so mean and self-centered that isn’t capable of helping their partner when they suffer an accident.
Your body is not disgusting, heavy periods can be uncomfortable and make you sick, the least he could’ve done is comfort you and offer to clean the mess for you. Especially if you had surgery recently.
He’s an ass.
Babe you did nothing wrong, it’s not disgusting and you weren’t being careless. Every single woman I know including myself has bled through clothes, sheets, onto mattresses everything. Your boyfriend is incredibly immature and not a man.
Honey, you aren’t gross. You are a human being who happens to have heavy periods and who was exhausted due to health issues. It was a mistake, not a personal failure.
I’m sorry that the people in your life have a less than average amount of empathy, but you did nothing wrong here. This was a time in your life when you needed compassion and understanding, and it was withheld.
I’m not saying dump your BF. (But I wouldn’t protest if you did.) He might just be immature and will improve with age. But if he does something similar again, move on. He’s telling you who is. Once can be a mistake or bad judgment. Continued behavior is a reflection of character.
You sound like a lovely thoughtful person, and I hope you will have people with similar qualities in your life.
Bestie, you are freaking out so bad because it was a horrible thing for him to do. I think you should throw the whole man away. But if you don’t do that you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him about how badly this hurt your feelings and how natural periods and bleeding through are. Watch some YouTube videos of the men wearing the period simulators watch some medical videos showing the realities of heavy flows or all the other symptoms periods come with (like fatigue!!! Achy boobs, hurty back, etc.) If he brushes you off then do end the relationship
Life is too short to spend it with any man who gets mad about bodily functions. Period
Long term relationship will need compassion and understanding. You would want to be with someone, who in this situation would be asking you if you are doing ok and/or how can he help. I would say that be glad that this happened. You are better off being with someone who would truly treat you has his companion.
Your boyfriend is such a dumb loser 😂
This sounds like … a **REALLY GOOD TIME TO DUMP HIM**.
Does your boyfriend ever get nosebleeds or cuts that bleed? Tell him that he is disgusting and should know better than to do that.
You didn’t do a thing wrong. You don’t have to be subject to the ignorance of unenlightened people. You sound nice and considerate. Periods are a natural occurance and a part of every human life. How does that guy think he came into the world. Sorry to tell you, there was a vagina and uterus involved.
Honey it’s not your emotions that are affecting this relationship, it’s the way he treated you. He was cruel about a very common and natural thing (that isn’t disgusting btw…it’s just life). You’re allowed to feel that way in response to his rudeness and perhaps you should heed your emotions instead of stopping them.
I almost want to say this is fake, if you’re having to change your tampon every half hour that’s excessively bad bleeding. You should definitely find another doctor and/or OB GYN to figure out what the problem is.
Your mother is incredibly abusive, you keep saying you don’t need therapy, but you live in an abusive situation. Other than humiliating you for having a period (being a woman) does she even provide suggestions and/or menstrual items for you to use?
Obviously drop the bf, that’s not a very long relationship and he is already showing he isn’t mature enough to be in one. Not just because he finds period blood disgusting, but by the way he treated you when you were in a vulnerable position.
Real men try to help their significant others when they bleed through. Real men build up their significant others and are forgiving. Real men don’t make their significant others upset.
You don’t deserve this. I dated a man like that and he only got worse as time went on. My husband now though, will bring me a tampon if he noticed I forgot one on the way to the bathroom and has stain treated underwear for me when he does the laundry. A good guy would NEVER make you feel gross for a natural process you can’t control. You deserve better babe.
Based on your comments it sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with your period because of your mother. You should understand first and foremost that periods cannot be controlled whatsoever, even when they are predictable. Accidents happen. Please stop feeling guilty and putting yourself down.
Second, break up with him. He’s an emotional immature and selfish person. Periods are gross? What is he gonna do when you two get married and someone has a stomach bug? Childbirth?
Do better for yourself by realizing that the people around you are toxic. And grab a man who won’t blame you because you fell asleep and instead help you out.
That’s a biolo function of your body. There is nothing to feel ashamed about. Mistakes happen. Very douchey of your BF to blame you for doing it “on purpose”
Your BF is a boy. Look for a man instead
Don’t ever be with someone who makes you ashamed for things you gave no control over.
Either he comes back grovelling with an explanation of why he was wrong and accepts he was an ignorant 18 year old boy (which is basically like the only time this could be understandable if he accepts he was wrong)
Or you dump him, move on and remember that there are PLENTY of people who aren’t disgusted by biology. Because I feel like that was the bit you didn’t really register in your post. There are many men who will not make you feel bad for being a woman. They’re the ones to keep, not this one.