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Are you feeling torn between being true to yourself and maintaining a good relationship with your family? As a 17-year-old bisexual girl, you may be facing the challenge of navigating your feelings for girls while also contending with the disapproval of your family towards the LGBTQ community. It’s a tough spot to be in, but know that you are not alone in this struggle.
Acknowledging Your Feelings
First and foremost, it’s important to recognize and accept your feelings for what they are. Denying or suppressing your attraction to girls will only lead to inner turmoil and unhappiness. Embrace your identity and remember that there is nothing wrong with being bisexual.
Seek Support
Consider reaching out to friends, trusted adults, or online communities that provide a safe space for LGBTQ individuals. Talking about your feelings and experiences with others who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly comforting and empowering.
Education and Awareness
Educate yourself about bisexuality, the LGBTQ community, and the struggles faced by individuals like yourself. Understanding your identity and the larger context of LGBTQ issues can help you feel more confident and self-assured in who you are.
Practical Solutions
1. Find online resources and support groups for LGBTQ youth.
2. Consider seeking therapy or counseling to help you navigate your feelings and family dynamics.
3. Connect with other bisexual individuals who can offer guidance and support.
4. Take small steps towards asserting your identity, such as being open about your feelings with friends who are accepting.
5. Remember that your worth does not depend on your family’s acceptance – you are valid and deserving of love and respect.
Remember, your well-being and happiness are paramount. While it may be challenging to navigate the complexities of family dynamics and personal identity, know that there are resources and communities out there that can offer support and guidance. Stay true to yourself and remember that you are not alone in your journey. 💖🏳️🌈
Edge to Patrick Bateman
So in my country we have a saying “heart is not a slave”, you really can’t dictate who you have a crush on and on who you don’t have, if you are bisexual you can’t lie to yourself so hard you will forget it, it’s not how it works.
Sexuality isn’t a choice, you cant just stop being attracted to a specific gender
it’s not really something you can choose, you like who you like and you shouldn’t try to change yourself for what others expect
Start loving dick? Idk
You can’t. You can repress your sexuality, but you cannot control it. I tried it. Didn’t work. But I did hate myself a lot more.
honestly being yourself is more important. if your family can’t love you for who you are is that really a family? they should love you no matter what even if they don’t agree with smth. be yourself and let love decide
It’ll be difficult because you love your family despite their beliefs contradicting yours. However, being family should never excuse suppressing something unchanging like sexuality. If you like girls, so be it. Since you mentioned being bi, i’m sure you’ll at one point find a boy you’re attracted to. Till then, don’t force yourself to be attracted to guys.
Something I literally cried about like 2 days ago I feel ya
It’s simple: Lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie, you can’t change that shit and if they can’t accept it my advice is to wait until you can move out and get on with your life
I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds like a tough situation to be in.
You can’t ungay or unstraight yourself. If we could, I would turn ace in an instant.
You just like girls thats it
As someone who went through exactly what you are but got through, the best advice I can give you is to wait it out. Maybe don’t come out until you leave home for college/getting your own place. You’d be surprised by how many families change when confronted with someone rhey know and love is LGBT.
Also I recommend looking into support groups. So so so sooo many others have gone through this and are much better than me about being comforting
my mom studied on this but people at birth are born gay, it’s something dealing with the brain at birth. you genuinely can’t not like a gender just because you want to, it’s natural
impossible. This is the way you are. Trying to hide it for the rest of your life will eat you from the inside. Once you’re independent from your family it’s best to accept yourself, and if you’ll be dating or marrying a woman in the future you will need to tell your family. If they’re remotely good people they’ll have to accept you eventually.
Just be a girl kisser and a boy kisser
It’s better to be yourself, if your family doesn’t accept you it’s their problem not yours, don’t hide your true self
Just remember that you don’t have a problem, your family does. Maybe just hide it if they are that strict about it and they can’t be changed.
If your family doesn’t love you then they are not worthy of your love either
Honestly it’s not a choice
You shouldn’t be ashamed of who you are attracted to. Your family seem to not understand something as basic as that
There’s no way to ‘stop’, you have to learn that your family’s feelings are bullshit and that liking girls as a girl is not a bad thing.
Work to love yourself and if your family was proper, they’d love you for who you are. I am in the exact same situation, closeted gay 18m) for 4 years and my fam is heavy religious so I dont get to come out. I tried the whole, “I’m not gay I just need to not think about it” but it just builds resentment towards yourself. Be willing to remove the toxicity (your family) from your life if it’s going to hurt your very being. Best of luck to you on your journey 🫶🏼
You really can’t stop likening anyone (at least for a long time). I am in a situation very similar to you with my family really disliking lgbtq people and the best thing is to keep your head down until you go to college or are financially stable. Please remeber your not obligated to tell anyone your sexuality especially if it will have not great consequences!! My best advice for you is try to find some lgbtq friends in school! My friends are my lifeline and honestly I couldn’t live in the closet if I didn’t have them. Please take care of yourself staying hidden and safe is very important but also can be pretty bad for mental health. I wish you the best of luck
you can’t stop loving who you love. it sounds like you might have to internalized homophobia if you feel the needs to change your sexuality in some way, (not saying you do or anything but maybe?). i know it’s hard but let’s be rational, you know that you can’t help who you love. especially since you’re lgbtq and support it… it’s hard but you got this. you don’t have to tell them anything or bring them around anyone you don’t want.
Don’t. If you know and try to repress it you’ll just make yourself worse. Get a bank account, save up money to become financially independent. I’m in a similar spot too where I’m still not out as trans but I still want a relationship with my family. Most often, if they love you, they’ll eventually accept you, because the road to acceptance is often a long one. Just make sure you’re financially independent just in case things go south.
You can’t stop liking girls, it’s just the way you are, and, obviously, that’s completely ok!! I know it’s tough, but you will find a way to come out eventually. Whether they accept you or not, that’s up to them. I know it’s tough, as a trans bisexual girl with not supportive parents, I really do.
You can’t change who you like. The way your family is even though you want to have a good relationship with them, I’d recommend having distance but living on your own, call every so often then any time you visit, only bring yourself if you have a partner in the future and they’re a woman. They’ll either understand your situation or not, either way it won’t be healthy in some way. I don’t know what I’m rambling on about to be honest but, hope you get some sort of message out of this comment.
you can’t make yourself straight or gay. the only thing you can do is accept it, and the same goes for your family. i had a shaky relationship with my grandpa when i came out as bi (rest of the family didn’t have issues with it, even my 90 year old great grandma), but when i made it clear that i will never talk to any family member who doesn’t accept me, he informed himself about it and figured i am pretty decent after all. now it’s water under the bridge
if you want my advice, get out as soon as you can. it’s dangerous to live in a homophobic family as an lgbtq+ person, even if you try to stop. if they find out, nothing good will happen.
Most, if not all of what I’m going to say has probably been said, but follow YOU not what others want from you, if you don’t, you will live in misery.
Real. I’m also a bisexual, but I feel like I’m starting to like girls more. I might be lesbian but I already came out as a bisexual. And I have a little sister, so she thinks I like guys. I can’t talk about my girl crushes because of her. So I have to keep it to myself. But honestly I’m getting tired of that. But I’m scared to come out as a lesbian because my parents keep saying stuff about god creating men for women and the devil butting in, creating confusion among us. But I know I’m not confused.
It’s not a choice, just don’t tell your parents
>How do I stop
Honestly, you don’t. Wait until you can move out before telling your family, so you’re safe.
I know you said you still want to have a good relationship with your family, and you might, with time.
You’re definitely in a rough position, and I’m really sorry. Wish you nothing but the best. 💜
Become a man and start liking girls as a man