#JobOffer #DeclineJobOffer #Etiquette #CareerAdvice
Hey everyone! 🌟 So, I recently found myself in a bit of a pickle and could really use some advice. I had accepted a job offer at a mental health clinic, but then my current bosses surprised me by offering to match the salary and benefits. I love my current job and was only leaving for financial reasons, so I decided to stay.
But now I’m faced with the awkward task of declining the job offer I had already accepted, and I’m not quite sure how to go about it without burning any bridges. 😬 Here are a few ways I’m considering handling the situation – what do you think?
– Be Honest: Explain the situation to the new employer and express your gratitude for the opportunity.
– Apologize: Offer a sincere apology for any inconvenience caused by your sudden change of plans.
– Stay Professional: Keep the conversation professional and maintain a positive tone throughout.
Have you ever been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? I would love to hear your tips and experiences! 🤔💼 #CareerDilemma #HelpNeeded
You’re going to come off as an ass. It’s unavoidable. It’s not your fault though, you have to do what is best for you.
Just try and be direct and professional. Apologize, but not too much some. “Unfortunately, I will no longer be able to accept the position offered to me. I understand that this is on short notice, however my circumstances have changed and I’ll no longer be able to fill the role. I wish you and your organization the best of luck and regret the short notice”.
I hope your employer is not like this, but once some companies bring you back with more money, they then feel as though they own the employee. I’ve seen it where a person doesn’t get any bonuses or raises for a while after something like this as ‘it was all given to them to make them stay.’
Unhealthy companies/managers will also constantly worry about you leaving or threatening to after this, as it has essentially worked in your favor this time. This shouldn’t be an issue on healthy teams with proper communication- you were very clearly not just threatening or doing anything to hurt your current employer, so if they get mad then that’s on them for an unhealthy culture.
In terms of declining, just be straightforward and direct- this happens more often than you’d think. Rip that band-aid off, and good luck with everything!
Accepting a counter offer to stay rarely works out well. Most people that do it are gone in a year.
It’s all about maximizing your interests. If it doesn’t cause you any further damage, I wouldn’t care about how it makes you look.
I’ve never seen anyone last 4-6 months after accepting an offer to stay.
Staying back would be the worst decision of your life. You would essentially become your bosses btch.
Staying is mistake too often they get you to stay while they work to replace you. I would start the new job.
You don’t do it without coming off negatively, just do it.
Due to circumstances out of your control you’re no longer to accept the position and be prepared for whatever happens. It’s honest without getting into it.
Best of luck
You should do what’s best for you but they will be upset. Why did your current job wait so long to give the counter offer? Something is off.
If the current company wanted to pay you, they could have done it already. Staying may mean an increase now, but nothing in the future. Take that new job!
I’ve gone through this a few times. Best advice is to contact the other employer and ask if there’s a way to push back your first day of work. You can give something like my current employer wants me to train my replacement before i go and out of respect i would like to do so. If they agree then great. This will give your current employer the time to see if they actually do match your offered pay. Alot of bosses will claim they will pay you more just to keep you and then once the other offer for you to leave them is gone and no longer an option they will make an excuse for why they couldn’t up your pay afterall but give you the whole I’m sorry speech and be glad that you atleast still have a job you love. Blah blah blah.
Start the new job, your old job is gonna give you hell
Your current boss will keep you now, but fire you later if anything goes sideways. I’d say move on with the new offer but you do what you want to do. Counter offer is just a way of telling people “we want you now but not for long.”. When you already decided to move on, just move on.
Accepting a counter offer is the biggest mistake I ever made. Strongly advise against it!
There’s no clean way to do that, they are going to be pissed no matter how to do it and it’s guaranteed you’ll burn that bridge… with both that company and that hiring manager wherever they end up in the future. That may or may not matter depending on how small that professional community is in your area. If your heart is set on staying at your old place, just be as direct as possible.
Their professionals. Keep it simple and to the point. Better a gun shot to the head than five to the chest.
If its for financial reasons, id still take the new job. If the first job had to be forced to pay you, you think there is much room to move up there?
Move on to bigger things.
Apologise to the employer tat you realised tat job position dont align with your career goals n thus decline the job offer … thank employer for providing the opportunity
Move on. Period. Your old company had to see you leave BEFORE they decided to offer better compensation? What does that say to you?…. Enjoy your new life and great benefits.
Statistics show that most people who stay for a counter offer leave anyway within 6 months.
Take the new job because after the flattery fades, you will find other reasons why you wanted to leave, even if you invent them. It’s also possible your old employer will start behaving badly out of resentment.
Don’t burn the bridge with the new place. Moving jobs will offer more than money, you’ll get to do how things are done in other places and long term it will help your career making a switch.
Honestly I would probably just go ahead and leave I mean it took you having to go find another job for them to give you a raise. That in a nutshell shows how much they really care about you and your performance. So I wouldn’t back out because if you do it’s going to look bad and you already know there not going to increase your pay with you threatening to leave again I would give your new employer a chance
Just be honest. Maybe you’ll get a counter offer even higher? But they’ll respect straightforward honesty the most.
Hey I am planning on working in mental health. May I ask what you do for work?
Go to the new job. I’ve seen this play out a million times.
Don’t stay. They only giving you a raise because you were going to leave. You will most likely return to a hostile working environment
Put it in writing and email them immediately. You are not officially on the clock, therefore you do not work for them.
At this point you must realize that you have foregone any form of etiquette. It might seem formal, but the fact is that you are turning you back on an offer made in good faith. Just be honest and accept that you have chosen to breach your agreement.
But, before you do this, really stop and think about your current situation. Your employer waited until the absolutely last possible moment to place you in this position. That is also a breach of normal etiquette. If this is what it took to have them meet your needs, what does that say for they capability / willingness for future pay raises or promotions? And what are your current coworkers going to think or say when they learn you are doing demonstrably better than they are because you threatened to leave? Will your relationships be the same?
It’s been my experience that very few people who “threaten to leave” but then stay for more money last more than 6-12 months. The attitudes of management and coworkers just don’t make it easy.
Honestly, this happens all the time. You’d be surprised at the number of people who accept a position, complete all the paperwork and then never show on the first day and never say anything.
You may appear as a bit of an ass, but I would approach the decline with some grace and an apology. Something like: “Due to a change in circumstance, I will no longer be accepting this position. My apologies for the timing. I wish you luck in finding a suitable candidate for the position” blah blah. Don’t be surprised if they don’t respond. I also wouldn’t count on applying for jobs there in the future.