NewJob #Struggling #NeedAdvice
Hey there, fellow Redditors! 🌟 I recently started a new job in a challenging field, and things aren’t going too well in the social department. I’m feeling the pressure to improve fast, or risk losing my job. 😓 Here’s a little summary of my situation:
- I’m 45f, with plenty of experience in my field
- I’m being closely monitored at work, and it’s making me anxious
- I’ve received feedback on areas where I can improve, but still feeling uncertain
I really need some advice on how to turn this around and prove myself. Here are a few strategies I’m considering:
- Seek Mentorship: Reach out to a trusted colleague for guidance and support.
- Focus on Improvement: Take proactive steps to address feedback and show progress.
- Build Positive Relationships: Engage with coworkers, show initiative, and be open to feedback.
What do you think, Reddit community? How can I make a positive change and salvage my job? I appreciate any insights or tips you can provide! 🙏 #HelpNeeded #CareerAdvice
Patience
I don’t understand what kind of business has the resources to assign someone to monitor another employee. Is this a small business? Is there a specific job description for your role, and do you meet the qualifications?
Typically, if an employee is underperforming, they undergo a review and possibly a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP). Is that what you’re experiencing?
I know some workplaces have cliques and mean-spirited individuals. In such cases, the best approach is to excel at your job so no one has any reason to target you.
Did something start on the wrong foot? Has anything specific been said? I’m not sure there is enough information here to understand your situation.
I think you should talk to someone who’s above all these people who are making these calls (maybe someone you’ve never even interacted with) and tell them what you told us. You sound like a very nice reasonable person who’s aware of her weak areas and is doing her best. Your outlook alone makes you seem like a very valuable employee to me.
Be a person who breaks long blocks of text into paragraphs. That will be a good starting point.
This place is horrible. It’s not you. If you didn’t have the correct skill set or experience, that’s on them for hiring you. What kind of place hires someone to do something that is new for them and is then angry they have a learning curve??? And someone watches you all day?! Completely weird.
Just focus on doing better and making improvements each day. You could ask for suggestions as well. On the side, I’d still try looking g for a new job. I completely understand you may have limited options but check with former co-workers as well. It sounds like people normally love working with you.
Best of luck and just know this isn’t your fault.
I would’ve left once they hinted at something akin to having to make drastic changes to maintain your role and then decided to assign you a babysitter. Your manager should’ve spoken to you during a 1-on-1 and asked you as to why you may be struggling with x, but exceeding at y. I will also add that you jumped to conclusions thinking “no one likes me.” Literally nothing you stated sounds like it’s a personal thing, and rather a lack of ability in your given role.
I’m not sure as to why you can’t quit but not every company is going to work. I sympathize with your situation, but all you can do is try at this point. Should you end up being let go, then it what it is, but at least you can say you didn’t give up.
I’m wishing for the best for you!
This company is a joke! Micromanaging at its worst. They’re treating you like a child, not a skilled professional. It’s clear they value control over employee development. You deserve better!
If you really need this job, do exactly as they say and don’t talk back. Listen, take notes and ASSUME everyone will stab you in the back and is reporting back to the manager and HR.
After a few weeks, either you will come up to speed enough and you will be taken off continuous monitoring or they will let you go (this can happen at anytime).
How has the paragraph comment only come up like once.
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I would worry less about people liking you, and worry more about doing a good job and meeting their expectations.
Given the fact you’ve been there for 3 months, and they have decided to place a “babysitter” with you all day, along with saying drastic changes need to happen or you’ll be let go tells me they either are awful at training and management, or you are not catching onto the work. I have no idea which it is, but given the fact that you’re saying that 3-4 weeks ago, so 2 months in, you’ve “turned a corner and become more efficient” makes me wonder if it’s you not just catching onto the work.
So start listening to their feedback. Ask questions. Write down notes, or re-write them if that helps you. Start figuring out ways to be better at the job. Once you improve, people will most likely warm up. I’ve been in office settings where the worker is just not getting it, and everyone just keeps a distance social wise because it’s awkward.
For me, I never cared if anyone liked me. I would be my genuine self and work hard and whatever happened, happened
Main thing is that I had my family and friend life and never wanted work to be a friend zone
PS – I did have many that liked and respected me and that’s just a bonus
Make your money and say f them. Don’t worry about others
Babe, I know it feels impossible but you have to start applying and get out of there as soon as you can. You don’t want to spend 40 hours a week in the company of people who doubt your worth.
Find a new job if they are too cutthroat and advanced
I worked in car sales for a short time to do a marketing thesis on the launch of the Corsa . Had to do some car sales . I was told , you get shown once no questions after . So I ended up setting a 2 cv on fire with jump cables…. And a few other things – But I wasn’t sacked lol .is it a sales job , money oriented , catering , medicine ? Try to overcome the anxiety of the situation and see what Happens .
Ok. Can you honestly say you are performing well? If so, I doubt they are trying to get rid of you. But it is reasonable to make sure you are coming up to speed. Just do your best and don’t panic.
Are you deluded? This has nothing to do with people liking it not liking you it’s to do with you seemingly not capable of doing the job. Work is for work not friends & your references to previous people loving to work with you & asking you to help their families is bizarre.
I read your post twice and noted your 19 years of experience in the same line of business. It seems like you were hired under a 3-6 month trial period based on your previous experience. However, based on your post, you come across as more of a liability. For the sake of the patients and the hospital, please consider quitting. You seem unstable, incompetent, and dangerous to patients. Please stop pursuing work in the medical field. This is concerning.
Don’t forget that you’re in your field because of your passion for it, not necessarily the coworkers. In other words, fuck em