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😓 Dealing with a broken heart is never easy, especially when you discover that your fiancé is having an emotional affair. It’s natural to feel a whirlwind of emotions and confusion, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone in this situation. Many people have experienced similar challenges in their relationships and have been able to overcome them with the right approach and support.
In this article, we will explore some practical advice for addressing emotional infidelity in a relationship, as well as take a deeper look at how spirituality and ancient wisdom can guide us through difficult times.
## Understanding Emotional Infidelity
When it comes to relationships, trust and emotional connection are essential components. Discovering that your partner is involved in an emotional affair can be devastating, and it’s important to take the time to process your emotions before taking any drastic actions. Here are some key points to consider:
### Recognizing the Signs
– Emotional infidelity often involves a strong emotional bond with someone outside of the primary relationship.
– Your partner may exhibit signs of secrecy, emotional distance, or heightened interest in someone else.
### Facing the Truth
– While it may be painful, acknowledging the situation and addressing it directly is crucial for moving forward.
– Be honest with yourself about your feelings and the impact of the emotional affair on your relationship.
## Seeking Guidance from Couples Therapy
Taking the step to book an appointment for couples therapy is a positive and proactive approach to addressing the issue. A qualified therapist can provide a neutral space for both you and your partner to openly communicate and work through your challenges. Here’s what you can expect from couples therapy:
– The therapist will facilitate constructive conversations and help both partners express their feelings and concerns.
– Techniques such as active listening, conflict resolution, and rebuilding trust can be explored in a supportive environment.
## Finding Strength in Spiritual Wisdom
While navigating through the complexities of emotional infidelity, seeking guidance from ancient wisdom can offer solace and perspective. The Bhagavad Gita, a revered scripture in Hindu philosophy, provides insights that can be applied to relationships.
### Embracing Self-Reflection
– The Bhagavad Gita emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding our own emotions.
– Take time to reflect on your own thoughts and feelings, and consider how they align with your values and aspirations for the relationship.
### Cultivating Compassion and Forgiveness
– Compassion and forgiveness are central themes in the Bhagavad Gita, and they play a crucial role in nurturing healthy relationships.
– While it may be challenging, cultivating compassion for your partner and finding the capacity to forgive can lead to healing and transformation.
## Moving Forward with Hope
As you navigate through this challenging time, remember that healing and growth are possible, both individually and as a couple. While it’s important to address the emotional affair, it’s equally vital to focus on rebuilding trust and fostering a deeper connection in the relationship. Here are some key steps to consider:
– Communicate openly and honestly with your partner, expressing your feelings and concerns in a calm and respectful manner.
– Allow space for both partners to engage in self-reflection and personal growth, nurturing a sense of empathy and understanding.
– Actively participate in couples therapy sessions and remain open to the guidance and support provided by the therapist.
Remember, every relationship is unique, and the path to healing may unfold in unexpected ways. By embracing the wisdom of spiritual teachings and seeking professional support, you can navigate through this challenging period with resilience and hope.
As you move forward, remember that you are capable of finding strength within yourself and your relationship. With perseverance, understanding, and a commitment to growth, it is possible to overcome the challenges of emotional infidelity and rediscover the beauty of a deep and meaningful connection.
We understand the pain you are going through right now, and it’s important to know that seeking guidance and support is a courageous step towards healing. Rest assured, you are not alone, and there are resources and people who can help you through this difficult time. Stay strong, and remember that a brighter tomorrow is within your reach.
That really sucks. What a damn shame. You deserve better and he deserves nothing.
You are not the one who could save this relationship, he is. Talk to him about this and see how it goes. Either way, I hate when someone says “I can’t give up on this relationship” or “I can’t see my life without him” of course you can. Imagine if he will broke up with you, you will be forced to give up, to see your life without him. And maybe shocking, maybe not, but you will survive. Stop feeling so powerless over a situation you have so much power over.
I agree with the other commenter. The ball is unfortunately in his court. You cant start or have a successful reconciliation unless your bf feels regret and is willing to stop talking to the other person permanently and focus on you and your relationship. I’m sorry this is happening to you. There are infidelity subs that can give advice as well
You stood by him this entire time and he betrays you this way! He’s a POS. If he has no feelings left for you the right thing was to talk to you. A person who stabs you in the back when you were there for them at their lowest point is not a good person. You deserve so much better. You will find someone much better but first you need to rid yourself of this dead weight. He’s broken and if you stay he’ll break you as well.
Confront him, but if you both decide to make things work let him put forward most of the effort.
Depression is really bad but nothing excuses cheating and it might seem that emotional cheating is not as bad but what’s worse with emotional cheating is the person cheating doesn’t understand how much it hurts.
There will always be chances of such repeations as he might think that he never did anything wrong because it was not physical.
OP, this happens very often. It’s no excuse, but the specific vulnerability brings people close, very fast, in this clinics. Almost never works out in real live. I‘m wishing you the best, this is a very hard situation for you. Take good care of yourself, don’t let yourself get pressured in a fast decision.
This is no standard cheating situation, imo.
I am really sorry this happens to you.
I am working at a psychiatric hospital and this is something I actually witness quite a lot. They’re getting themselves in unhealthy relationships/ affairs that lead nowhere but self destruction. Talk to him and, if necessary, leave as long as you can.
I think you need to tell him you know. The other relationship is just burgeoning, so it might go either way. You were not snooping on his phone, you sought confirmation of what your senses knew. I think you need to be prepared to let him go if the other girl is whom he wants. Remove yourself from his life for a while, so he can think clearly. I do not hold much hope tbh. See after separation how he feels.
Do not marry him!!!
what exactly do you think you’re at fault for here? he’s cheating on you. that’s 100% on him.
Dump his cheating ass
You leave him – ask yourself if you had a daughter what would you want her to do
Don’t marry him.
My husband had an emotional affair with his coworker and I found out after six or so months after the affair had begun. I thought I’d leave him immediately, but I was so clouded by my love for him that I decided to stay.
I have regretted that decision every day since. The feeling of betrayal, the anger, the sadness and the resentment towards his actions has not gone away… i fear it’ll never go away. I became a version of myself that I resent; jealous, insecure and bitter.
I would leave him. Please leave him.
I just want to say I hope you got screen shots of the conversation. Especially if you guys end up breaking up, you will have proof that might be important later. I’m really sorry this happening to you OP, but you can’t put in all the effort to save the relationship, he has to be the one to WANT to save it, and he has to be the one who is going to make sure he stays faithful to you. Emotional affairs typically end up getting physical, and if you confront him and give him another chance, he might just get better at hiding it.
Just leave. You deserve better
Do you really want to get married to someone who is already sneaking around and making overtures to another woman?
He is not having an emotional affair, he is having a real one.
Why do you say that you are BOTH clearly at fault?
He’s basically used you, the love, care and time you have invested in him and the relationship.
Wanting to save the relationship should now be his priority, not yours.
I’ll be honest with you here, make plans to leave, or kick him out. He’s betrayed your kindness and love with treachery and deceit. You deserve far better than something like this poor excuse for a man.
Leave him to his new crush, it is likely that it will fail and should it do so, tell him where to go, because things will never revert to what they were.
You don’t save it. You kick him out.
I’m sorry OP this is truly heartbreaking. I hope you have the strength to move forward and walk towards a better future. We all know how hard it is though so no judgement if you try to make this work. However, I hope you know deep down that you deserve a lot better than this. And better exists out there.
RUN. Don’t be like me, married with kids and having to hate myself because I should’ve left when I saw red flags prior to getting married.
You deserve better. If he cheats on you again when you get married things will be so much harder. You are very young now as well, so you can meet someone who really loves you.
Depression is not an excuse for cheating. Even if he felt attracted to someone, he should have not acted on it and honored your relationship.
How exactly are you at fault for this?
Are there billboards up across the country that say “if you snoop on your significant other you’re going to burn in hell!”? I see this all the time in this sub where people say they had a bad feeling and so they looked at their partner’s phone and found out they were cheating. You’re not in the wrong for doing that. At all.
None of this is your fault. It’s 100% his. You guys aren’t married yet and if I were you, I’d break it off. It’s not like he confessed to you – you caught him. It seems he has full intentions to take it further.
I’m sorry 🙁
You can’t, or better you shall not. Your fiancé is an untrustworthy person that will only make you suffer from now on, you deserve better.
His depresson isn’t an excuse to do stupid shit, don’t justify him.
Make sure you have screenshots of the texts so he can’t gaslight you. I’m so sorry, you sound lovely and patient. You’ll be able to make a clearer decision when you’ve processed it. Sending you a big hug 🫂
Ugh, this is awful and I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have the conversation with him:
– Ask him where exactly he was when he was out and who he was with and what he did exactly.
– Why did he come home at 4am?
– Why was he acting distant?
– Is there someone else?
– Ask to see his phone. This will tell you everything. Don’t let up until he shows you. You’re his fiancé. If he acts shady tell him, “a person who has nothing to hide, hides nothing.”
If he still refuses, tell him you already know everything and are waiting for him to be honest. Accept nothing but the truth here. I think he will break down and confess.
I think once he admits it, either he will say he’s sorry and want to do anything to fix it or he’s sorry and will leave.
To fix it is counseling, taking the wedding off the table for now, and no contact with AP going forward. Needs to be a hard boundary meaning it’s over if he does. No exceptions because if he can’t even do that then there’s no hope. Maybe even give the ring back until only you are in his heart and he can propose again.
If he says he’s done then there’s nothing you can do but walk away and pick up the pieces with therapy and move on. Would’ve been nice to know when he came out of therapy that he made a deep connection but I’m not surprised.
As other counselors have said, it is common to bond when you’re going through something like this with others that are doing the same. They see this often in these facilities. The 24/7 for weeks together reliving your darkest thoughts with someone who “gets it.” The vulnerability. The validation. All of it. The shitty thing is he actually lied and hung out with her to strengthen whatever is going on between them instead of communicating with you… his fiancé. For me, the moment he made plans and hung out with her, it would be over.
Emotional affairs are the hardest because his heart is now involved and the heart wants what the heart wants.
You deserve better than this. You are not an option or a second choice.
Keep us posted. You got this! Take care.
Cheating outweighs snooping because you would never have discovered it any other way that he has wasted your valuable time and effort and flushed your relationship down the toilet!
Confront him immediately because you deserve answers!
This is more than an “emotional” affair. This is an “affair” affair.
You can’t “save” this relationship. You chose can choose to work through it and forgive which entails not using it against him in the future. If you feel you can do that then it is your prerogative to try but be prepared for him not wanting to fix things also. He’s completely disrespected you and there is a high chance he would do it again.
No offense, I feel for you but you need to get a grip. This goes far beyond an emotional affair and although you can’t imagine life without him, you should start trying. You will never be able to trust him again and you need to have more respect for yourself than be willing to tie your life to this man, who has no respect for you at all.
I don’t understand why you blame yourself. Because you snooped? You had a gut feeling.