#AgingGracefully #PositiveCompliments #AgeIsJustANumber
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wanted to compliment an older person on their appearance but didn’t quite know the right thing to say? Many of us have been guilty of using the somewhat backhanded compliment of telling someone they look great “for their age”. While our intentions may be good, this type of compliment can inadvertently make the recipient feel self-conscious about their age.
Instead of falling back on the tired old phrase of “you look great for your age”, why not try a more positive and uplifting approach? By saying “I hope I look as good as you when I’m that age”, you are acknowledging the person’s beauty and vitality without any reference to their age. This simple change in wording can make a world of difference in how your compliment is received.
👵👴 Here are a few reasons why this approach is more beneficial:
1. **Focusing on the present:** When you tell someone they look great for their age, you are implicitly drawing attention to the fact that they are older. By simply complimenting their appearance without mentioning their age, you are focusing on the present moment and their beauty as it is now.
2. **Empowering the individual:** Aging is a natural process that we all go through. By saying “I hope I look as good as you when I’m that age”, you are expressing admiration for the person’s appearance and also showing respect for the aging process. This can be incredibly empowering for the individual.
3. **Shifting the focus:** Complimenting someone on how they look for their age can inadvertently imply that aging is something to be hidden or ashamed of. By reframing the compliment in a positive light, you are shifting the focus to the person’s beauty and vitality, regardless of their age.
4. **Encouraging self-love:** In a society that often prioritizes youth and beauty, it’s important to show appreciation for people of all ages. By complimenting an older person in this way, you are sending a message that beauty knows no age limits and that self-love is important at every stage of life.
In conclusion, the next time you find yourself wanting to compliment an older person on their appearance, remember to use positive language that uplifts and empowers them. By saying “I hope I look as good as you when I’m that age”, you are not only making the person feel good about themselves, but you are also promoting a more positive and inclusive attitude towards aging. Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and ages – let’s celebrate it in all its forms!
Why not just say “you look great” tf lol
Better still just say you look great and don’t mention their age at all.
As an “older person” (over 35) it kinda irks me to be called old, no matter the good intent.
Make sure to emphasize that it will be a *looong time* before you are that old for maximum effect.
You’re younger than I am? I need to rethink my life choices.
Just don’t comment at all on people’s looks.
It’s literally the same thing…
Also do not say “You are X years old”. Instead say “You are X years young”.
I’m 53, so I’ve heard that ‘you look good for your age’ comment a few times. I sincerely take it as a compliment.
There is nothing wrong with “you look great for your age”. *There are misguided people overly sensitive on behalf of imagined other people.*
Treating others as though the 5% most fragile of society is infantilizing. Treat others with the dignity to speak directly without dancing around the language. For those born early millennial or older they grew up without this infantilized song and dance, it’s as if speaking with an alien culture. Gives older people the ick. Often received as a personal insult.
If someone said that to my old ass, I’d say “Thats so sweet, I looked better at your age than you do”
No! This is BS and not a Life Pro Tip.
Say less!
Say, “You look great!”
That is it and that is all. Otherwised this is a shady comment rather than a compliment. It doesn’t have to be limited to age it can be height, ethnicity, weight, amound of hair on one’s head, et cetera.
or just don’t adress the age at all and say “you look very well”
What? Do not, under any circumstance, say that.
The hell is wrong with people.
This is called a back-handed complement. Stop doing this.
We do not qualify a complement with anything.
“You look great!” – that is all that is needed
“I hope I look as good as you, when I am your age” – means you don’t look bad for someone your age, because I expect all people your age to look like a raisin.
“damn ur a 10/10 milf”
How about keeping your unsolicited comment on someone’s appearance or age or both to yourself?