#FriendshipGoals #SocialButterfly #MakingFriends
Are you tired of feeling like a wallflower when you go out? Do you envy those guys who seem to effortlessly make friends everywhere they go? Well, the good news is that being a social butterfly is a skill that can be learned. In this article, we will explore the strategies and tips that guys can use to make friends everywhere they go.
1. Embrace a Positive Attitude
– Approach each new encounter with a positive mindset
– Smile and make eye contact to show that you are approachable
– Be open to new experiences and people
2. Be Genuine and Authentic
– People are drawn to those who are genuine and authentic
– Be yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not
– Show an interest in others and ask questions to get to know them better
3. Develop Good Communication Skills
– Practice active listening to show that you are interested in what others have to say
– Be a good conversationalist by being able to carry on a conversation and keep it going
– Use body language and gestures to convey warmth and friendliness
4. Put Yourself Out There
– Don’t be afraid to take the first step in starting a conversation
– Attend social events and be open to meeting new people
– Join clubs or groups that interest you to meet like-minded individuals
5. Be Approachable
– Pay attention to your body language and make sure it is open and inviting
– Avoid being on your phone or appearing disinterested in your surroundings
– Show that you are friendly and approachable through your actions and behavior
6. Follow Up and Stay Connected
– Exchange contact information with people you meet and follow up with them
– Make plans to hang out or attend events together
– Take the initiative to stay in touch and nurture the new friendships
By embracing a positive attitude, being genuine and authentic, developing good communication skills, putting yourself out there, being approachable, and following up and staying connected, you can start making friends everywhere you go. Remember, building relationships takes time and effort, so be patient and continue to put yourself out there. Before you know it, you’ll be the guy who makes friends effortlessly, no matter where you are.
In conclusion, making friends everywhere you go is a skill that can be learned and cultivated. By following the tips and strategies outlined in this article, you can improve your social skills and start building meaningful connections with the people you meet. So go out there, put yourself out there and start making friends everywhere you go! 🌟🤝
You know how sometimes you see an older guy who just talks to literally everyone, and he’s always just like ‘this weather huh?’ or some inane smalltalk. Like the waitress asks if he needs anything else and he makes some dumb joke. I used to think that was cringey but that guy has a million friends.
Be the brightest person in the room
Confidence
Small talk. Just that.
I’m not one of those people, but basically you just have to be friendly and talk to people.
I like to talk. I start with small talk, I make a joke here and there, I smile, I make eye contact, and I slip into conversations when I have something positive to contribute.
It takes confidence, and thankfully I was born with lots 🙂
Confidence and really listening to what people say. Not trying to fix their problems or give advice. Just being a bro.
I get in the habit of talking to people majority of the time I’m out. All you have to do is open up your mouth and have a child’s mindset. Too many people are afraid of possible negative outcomes and let fear guide their choices. Look at how kids operate. They’re not afraid to speak their mind, try new things, and feel comfortable pushing boundaries.
Don’t suppress yourself is key….plus the more your socialize with strangers…..the easier it gets.
Smile, laugh, be confident enough. You wouldn’t approach someone who looks angry. Offer to help people you come across, while saying “How you doing?” “Have a nice day”. If you want some practice, try it with cashiers. “How you doing today, is it busy today, what time you work till, I hope you have a good rest of your day.” You would be surprised the things people tell you. I make friends with everyone to the point that when my wife moved in with me, everywhere she went people would ask her about me and people would tell me “hey your girl was just in here the other day”.
By being myself.
The key is to not get close with anyone- be the guy everyone likes and thinks they know as a simple fun loving simpleton and you’ll be happy
I look good and in public i try to be nice, i’m not always a dick
Just talk to people. My wife gets so annoyed because I always end up in chats with random people but secretly I think it’s something she likes about me.
Be interested in everything, and everyone.
Always carrying a smile helps, it makes you look approachable.
Live an interesting life and have lots of things you enjoy. makes it easy to make a connection
Be nice. Listen. Engage in conversation. Don’t be fake.
They aren’t friends, just acquaintances
Be a nice person who actually cares about what other people have to say.
become a chameleon, achieve the illusion
all I’ve ever met were acquaintances
Just smile, make a stupid joke, laugh. Then when they make a stupid joke, laugh too. Friends.
No idea..nor do I aspire to be that man…the more people the less time I have for my own interests/hobbies so I keep people at a distance lol.
What I do when I go out alone to meet new people is:
Show confidence. Your body language is very important (the less nervous the better) at first glance and also do your best to look/smell good (nobody wants to talk somebody who smells like a wet dog or looks like a homeless person)
Also, know which people you can talk to. You don’t want to disturb a possible date, birthday party or something similar. The most welcoming people I met were always a group of uneven people (yes, I’ve almost made a science out of talking to strangers in local bars). Where 5 is my magical number still don’t know why
Also, as a man, I tend to avoid all-women-only groups because you don’t want to come off as the creepy guy who only talks to them to get into their pants, its alsways easier to speak to men first in my opinion
Also give a good reason why you are talking to them. My to go is: “Hello, all my friends were busy today, but I didn’t want to sit at home alone. Would you mind if I joined your group today?” (And yes, I have to admit that’s mostly kind of a lie because I haven’t even asked my friends what they’re doing most of the time, because friends are hindering me when i want to get to know new people)
Once I’m welcomed into the group, I find it easy to carry on a conversation. The beginning is mostly questions about names and such, and after that it’s like a normal conversation with a good friend you haven’t seen in a long time
So I learned to talk to strangers like I learned to ride a bike. You have to try it, even if you are scared to the core, and after some time you can suddenly do it. Even if you’ve made a few small mistakes and felt down a few times, overcoming your fear is the biggest obstacle after that i gets better
Adhd.
Be generous and positive. Praise and acknowledge. Be a good listener. Don’t steal a guys moment or try to one up. Find common ground. Say yes to any and every offer. Suggest opportunities to hang out. Don’t break plans. Push through the awkward stage by having frequent low effort hangouts.
In my 30s. 3 children. Marriage. Demanding career. And I have healthy, flourishing friendships. Here are a few ways to answer your question how:
**Be the guy with hobbies.** As has been said many times before, women (generally) build relationships face-to-face and men (generally) build relationships shoulder to shoulder. That means doing shared activities and meaningful goals. So male friendships don’t usually “stick” without something to stick to: lifting weights, football games, movies, whatever. You get the point!
**Be the friend who encourages.** So many modern people are so encouragement-depleted that they are literally shriveling existentially. If you are the friend who can say the honest and encouraging thing to them, that bond is going to take. Of course, it must be honest and specific. If it’s dishonest, people have a bullshit meter and they’ll see an ulterior motive in a heartbeat.
**Be the friend who takes the conversation one inch deeper.** I love watching football games with buddies and doing mindless weightlifting and stuff like that, so don’t poo-poo on that. But if you can be the guy who just takes the conversation one inch deeper once in a while, you’ll be better at friendships than 90% of people. The best way to do this? In my opinion, it’s being genuinely interested in what they’re good at. So if I see a dude who has a badass marriage, I’ll ask: “I can’t help but notice you have an awesome marriage. How did you do that, dude?”
A lot of times, and I think this is a helpful illustration, men talk to each other by simply revealing “the top fo the iceberg.” So be the guy who, when your buddy says something, wonders what’s underneath that initial comment. Get to the bottom of the iceberg, not as a detective but as a genuinely interested friends. Questions like, “Is there a story behind that?” are helpful for getting one inch deeper.
**Be the person who checks up.** Having valuable friendships doesn’t mean you recreate your college dorm room relationships and expect to hang out every second of every day. But if you can be the person who checks up on your friends once in a while (every couple weeks, every month, whatever) then you will become the person they go to when shit hits the fan. And that, of course, is the furnace where meaningful relationships are forged.
*WARNING: I’m going to get religious on this last point. Feel free to skip it if that feels distasteful to you, but I’m doing my best to speak honestly in this sub!*
**Bonus points:** Go to church. I’m not trying to evangelize you or drag religion into this, but whether you like it or not, the church is one of the rare places in the modern world where friendships are still flourishing. In a solid church (and make sure it is a solid church), the majority of people are engaged in freindships where they are talking about the deep things of life, the ongoing struggles, and the big stuff. Don’t let any shame hold you back from stepping foot in a church that you trust.
I’m an introvert that makes no effort to meet people but I’ve always been active with hobbies, sports, etc. These tend to involve other people. Somehow I always end up making more friends. You don’t have to be a confident, outgoing person. Just do stuff you enjoy with others who always enjoy it.
Being verbally abused as a child helped me develop a sense of humor and that helps 🥹
Strike up conversation. One of my best friends i met at a high school party that he didn’t even go to the school of. I’ll talk to strangers on the subway. A lot of you complain about them. But it’s very often people will have nice conversations. I can read tone and body language well. I’ll cut a convo if they don’t seem into it. My first GF was a random girl at a party of a college i didn’t go to. My second GF was a girl at my gym.
Just talk to strangers. You truly never know. My mom says i can make conversation with a wall.
I have a friend like this. He seems to do by making eye contact with people and striking up conversation with them once they reciprocate. He’s very personable and must give of a friendly vibe as people often quickly take to him.
Although, the 2 of us went to a nightclub recently and he seemed to befriend half the dancefloor without actually talking to them! Not sure what he did there. We even got invited to a bar afterwards.
just talking to people, listen to people, respond and repeat