#FirstDateJitters #IntrovertDating #DatingAdvice #OvercomingNervousness
Hey there, fellow introvert! It’s completely normal to feel a bit nervous before going on a date, especially if you’re not used to it. But don’t worry, I’ve got some tips to help you feel more confident and at ease when you meet up with your Hinge date tonight.
1. **Remember, it’s just a date**: First things first, take a deep breath and remind yourself that this is just a casual meeting to get to know each other better. It’s not a high-pressure situation, and there’s no need to put too much pressure on yourself. Just focus on having a good time and getting to know the other person.
2. **Be yourself**: It’s important to remember that the person you’re meeting is interested in you for who you are. So, be yourself and try to relax. Your date wants to get to know the real you, so don’t feel like you have to put on a front or pretend to be someone you’re not.
3. **Focus on the conversation**: One way to distract yourself from feeling nervous is to focus on the conversation. Ask your date questions about themselves, their interests, and their life. This will not only help take your mind off your nerves, but it will also show that you’re interested in getting to know them.
4. **Prepare some conversation topics**: If you’re worried about running out of things to say, come up with a few conversation topics beforehand. This could be anything from your favorite hobbies to interesting news stories. Having a few topics in mind can help keep the conversation flowing and prevent any awkward silences.
5. **Take it slow**: If you’re feeling really nervous, it’s okay to take things slow. You don’t have to rush into anything or force yourself to be super outgoing if that’s not your style. Just focus on being present and enjoying the moment.
6. **Visualize success**: Take a moment to visualize a successful date. Imagine yourself feeling calm, confident, and having a good time. This little mental exercise can help you feel more positive and less anxious about the upcoming date.
7. **Seek support from friends or family**: If you’re feeling really anxious, it can help to reach out to a friend or family member for support. Talking about your feelings and getting some reassurance from someone you trust can help calm your nerves.
8. **Remember, it’s okay to be nervous**: Finally, remember that it’s completely okay to feel nervous. It’s a natural response to a new and potentially exciting situation. Don’t be too hard on yourself for feeling this way.
Remember, everyone feels nervous before a first date, especially if it’s a new experience for you. Just take a deep breath, be yourself, and focus on enjoying the moment. Good luck, and I hope you have a great time on your date tonight! 🌟
just stick your hand in her panties, and everything will be on fire.
courage doesn’t mean not being afraid, it means being afraid and still doing something. expose yourself to more and more social sitations and you’ll get used to it, you’ll realize there is nothing to be afraid of
Socializing is like any other skill, man. You only get good at it by… doing it. And the more you overthink about it, the worse you’ll do.
The only real way to not get too hung up on this one girl is to gaslight yourself into thinking it’s not such a big deal haha.
Oh, also, just don’t try to impress her on the date. She’s going because she’s already impressed enough, so if you blab too much, you’ll ruin it! Let her talk about herself, instead.
By accepting and being nervous if that is what arises.
Normally it’s the resistance to nervousness that actually makes you nervous
“If I seem a little nervous it’s because I haven’t been on a date with anyone in a long time and I’m excited to go out and have fun getting to know someone.”
EDIT: I’ve been happily married for 25 years, have three kids, and showed my wife my many scars on our first date. There’s no perfect way to break the ice. People saying this is the worst idea ever are not the kind of people I would’ve wanted to have dated. I want someone I can be open with, so I’d say this. If that got rebuffed, no biggie. Keep trying. There are lots of people you can find who will like you, it just takes effort and disappointment until you do.
Look up the “physiological sigh” it’s a breathing exercise you can do in less than 30 seconds in public or privately and really does physically calm you down. Learned about it on huberman lab podcast!
Full disclosure (M/55) I’ve been married 20 years, to a hard 10 who was so out of my league I couldn’t buy a ticket to the ballpark. So this knowledge is hard won over 35 years in the field. It is by no means comprehensive but a good primer to get started.
1. Release yourself from any expectation about what’s going to happen what you wanna have happen or what you think will happen. Divorce yourself from desire. It will serve you no purpose here.
2. When meeting with her in person, don’t put any pressure on either one of you to be anything other than what you are in the moment. If you’re feeling nervous and unsure of yourself, call it out. Be upfront and open and transparent. Confidence is rooted in the knowledge that wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. So when you’re with her be fully present to the moment and have no other expectations, but to be there now.
3. Display kindness in all interactions. The most confident people I know are the ones who treat everyone with kindness, love and respect. That includes themselves.
Lastly, learn to ask good questions, and to listen with intent. remember that is not listening to respond, it’s listening to engage and discover.
Be really interested in her what she wants what she values, dreams and aspirations. People who are inquisitive are naturally interesting to other people.
Most importantly, recognize this is an experience, an exciting one and one you should thoroughly enjoy for all of the reasons you want to enjoy it. But whether it is a great date, or merely a good one, let whatever happens, happens and enjoy it however it shows up.
In my experience, that is the clearest way confidence reveals itself.
You got this!
Alcohol, relax, chill, you are just 2 people selling your best selves…
From experience, a bit of nervousness, can actually be a good thing, shows your date you are excited and care about having a good date
Firstly, I’d say best wishes. Just be you, stay calm and show your love and kindness towards her genuinely. Have same old normal conversation, don’t rush and act in the same way how you talk to her online no matter how nervous you are in front of her. Compliment her genuinely, hit some humour, crack some jokes. And most importantly don’t let her split the bill lol. Good luck dear stranger. I hope you to have a great date. 😀
Look, she’s glad to be going with you, or she wouldn’t go.
Go and focus on having a good time with her. Talk about stuff that interests you, and (also VERY importantly) listen about stuff that interests her. That’s the whole trick – interested people are more interesting. Be kind, try to relax, and enjoy yourself.
I was a 28 year old virgin this time last year and in the middle of getting back into dating, every first date felt nerve wracking. But i got to realize how great I am, especially at conversation and went into them yes nervous i was a late bloomer but confident that i would meet someone who would accept me (i did :D)
Just have fun 🙂 go into it not expecting the world to change but for an intresting night.
It’s ok to be nervous, and honestly it’s ok to tell her you’re nervous. I wouldn’t lead with the virgin thing, but being nervous because you want to make a good impression on a date isn’t a bad thing.
Listen to house music
Nerves are pretty normal for a first date my friend. Ask her questions, get to know her. It should be fine.
It’s not as difficult as it sounds trust me, but you’ve gotta loosen up and enjoy the experience. She’s excited to see YOU because she likes YOU. So just be yourself and everything will be fine. Ask her questions about herself. Nothing stupid like what’s your favorite color or anything but ask her what she did today and for example if she did something like “reading” then ask her what genre she’s into reading and what else she likes to do in her spare time etc. Loosen up by purchasing both of you a couple drinks. Don’t worry about having sex on your first date. In fact don’t even think about trying to get in the bedroom. If things go smoothly you’ll eventually end up there naturally and it’ll be an enjoyable experience.
Edit- I saw someone comment something about mentioning you’re nervous. I personally wouldn’t mention you’re nervous to your date as that would display a lack of confidence and you may not be coming off that way to her so it might change the vibe. Just relax my man, she could be your future gf or something more. Enjoy your night out, wear something nice, smell good, listen to some good music pullin up, and smile.
Just don’t give a fuck.
Put on a fit you feel most confident in. Shower and wash behind your ears. Put SOME cologne on but don’t over do it. Then maybe take a single shot before you get there or once you arrive where you’re going. After that just remember to be yourself. Be the best version of yourself but don’t lie or something crazy. Then if you are really nervous just try to make a joke out of it.
Im reading a book that teaches you to be more charismatic and doing this just before meeting her will make you 10 times more confident. Our mind and body can be manipulated by us to be more confident.
5min before you meet her listen to music that pushes you, makes you happy and makes you more confident. While you are listening to it, visualise a scene where you did something good and felt confident. Include as many details as possible in your visualisation. The weather, the smell, what you heared, what people said, what you saw and so on. This will get you in a confident state and you bodylanguage will change naturally.
After that make a confident body pose. A powerstand. Stand like a general that looks at his recruits at a parade. It will look silly but trust me it works. Just as your mind influences your body, Your body influences your mind. Cortisol (stress hormone) sinks and testosterone rises. Do that powerstand for like 3min. Now go and meet her (dont do the powerstand infront of her).
Those techniques are scientificly proven. Just trust science lol
Take some lavender capsules to help with the nerves and just breathe
Write a list of 5 to 10 things you like about yourself.
Look at them and know you have value regardless of the result of the date.
I would take some pressure off yourself by realizing it’s going to go how it’s going to go. It’s a little bit out of your hands, so don’t have any expectations. No one ever knows how a first date will go. Try to relax, be yourself, and have fun. You’re awesome, you’re going on a date!
Maybe rub one out before you go on the date to relax yourself, followed by or preceded by a small alcoholic drink (don’t overdo it), there’s a reason they call it Dutch courage.
You want to stop the jitters, do whatever relaxes you the most right before you the leave the house.
Good luck!
Few shots of alcohol.
View her as your friend and not a potential sex candidate
Update us afterwards if you are open to sharing! Good luck!!!
Wear something that makes you feel handsome. Put on a cologne you’ve gotten a compliment on. Listen to a playlist of songs that put you in a good mood on your way there. And honestly, just be yourself, she clearly likes you as is. I promise the nerves will dissipate by the time the waiter brings over the drinks. You’ll do great.
Lavender really helps 💜
Probably a ho looking for a free meal and some cash.
Don’t overthink it. Don’t go in thinking the aim is to get something to happen, go in thinking the aim is for her to be comfortable around you in person. Ask questions, listen to her, think of maybe three interesting conversation topic in case you need to jump start a silence.
fuck her in the ass.
You sound like me when I was your age. I was a virgin until 29. I married the woman who took it.
1. Keep the focus on her. Ask her questions, but keep it low risk questions. Where she’s from, interests, etc etc. play it safe. Only share about yourself if she asks, and even then, be very careful about what you do share (I wouldn’t tell her you’re a virgin)
2. Avoid any kind of political discourse
3. Avoid any kind of religious discourse
4. Don’t expect sex
5. Smile and keep it positive
Something that’s helped me in dating is to think of a date as a fun time I’m having with a cute stranger and nothing else. Would I like to make out a little on the date or even get laid? Yes definitely… But the goal of the date is to have a good time and figure out if I want to see the girl again. As long as both those things happen I’m happy.
Before I used to go on dates. I would have 5 reserve questions in my mind. So if there is any awkward silences I would just use one of my questions. Could be anything about family, hobbies etc. Just make sure questions are open so can’t reply with yes or no. Then don’t have to worry about any awkward silence
Fap before date it makes you more chill, trust me bro
Joke about how nervous you are and try to make a joke of it. Humour is key dude, ease that tension and watch the nerves melt away. Good luck 🤞
Does she know your situation?
If so, I would just come out and say that you’re nervous, and it’ll get better with experience and as you settle in and get more comfortable. I would think she’d understand if she’s really into you.