#FamilyTroubles #DomesticViolence #MentalHealthIssues
Hey everyone, I’m in a tough spot and could really use some advice. My brother just got out of prison for assault, and he’s already causing chaos at my parents’ house. 🤦♀️
Here’s the situation:
– He’s back on drugs and alcohol, and causing a lot of damage
– He’s posing a serious threat to my parents and my 3-year-old niece
– We’ve tried getting him help, but it’s not working
I’m at a loss for what to do next. Should I write a letter to the judge? Any other suggestions on how to handle this?
If you’ve been through something similar or have any insights, please share. I really appreciate any advice or support you can offer. Let’s brainstorm solutions together. 🧠💭 #HelpNeeded #FamilySupport #ToughChoices
NAL. I don’t know the laws where you live, but where I live, if an adult is exhibiting violent behavior, an obvious danger to himself and others and has threatened suicide , a wife, parents or family member can request a pick up order be issued so that the person would be involuntarily committed for evaluation by medical professionals and must be determined to be “sane” before they are released. Because it’s signed and issued by a judge, the person has no say-so in whether they are evaluated or not. For me personally, I’d ask myself which one would make me feel worse. Writing a letter to have him involuntarily committed or not doing it and the result could be him harming himself or hurting your parents.
Have someone who lives there get a restraining order. That way he cannot come to the house and if he does, you can call the police and they will have a valid reason to arrest him. Faster and easier than eviction and he doesn’t get a notice period to cause more issues. It may be useful to have a criminal lawyer prepare and help you with it. He sounds like he is dangerous to everyone
Your brother belongs in prison and should remain there until he can reenter society without assaulting people and destroying their property.
Your parents should absolutely request an emergency protective order (EPO) next time he commits violence against them. If that is a thing in your state.
You should contact adult protective services and ask for advice. Your parents do not deserve having your brother terrorize them just because he would be homeless without their care and support.
The first thing you must realize about addicts is they will absolutely destroy the lives of everyone around them to get their fix (you included). He has not hit rock bottom yet. Encourage him to enter a step program like AA. Give him conditions of support, such as we will continue to help you if you do X, Y, Z. Tough Love
Your parents need to evict him. He might be homeless, but he will no longer be a danger to the children or your parents. His escalating behavior is going to land him back in jail eventually. It’s best that it not happen in your parent’s house with young children present.
Your brother is an addict and needs rehab not legal consequences. Get him help instead of trying to put him back behind bars
Sounds like he needs to be involuntarily committed to a psych ward.
I think your parents need a protective order in place immediately. This will also have the benefit of making evicting redundant. Just explain to why you think he’s a danger.
Did he max out his parole? If he’s on supervision you may have to call his parole officer, but that likely means back to jail
NAL but have had tons of family members struggle with addiction and subsequently know how their inevitable run ins with the law go. Yall need to stop enabling him and call the cops. This is dangerous behavior around a child and there’s no way he isn’t violating the probation he has to be on. Getting him and keeping him locked up and away from your family is the only logical answer here.
Anyone can do this at any time… call the probation office for the court he was convicted in, ask for his PO and tell them what is going on and for them to call him in for a random. He fails or refuses, goes to jail At least for the probation violation, your family knows peace. Then Don’t let him back in the house. My grandma went through this with my uncles and trust me… without serious intervention they DONT get better and they WILL cause emotional, financial and physical harm to your loved ones.