How to handle a situation when your coworker likes you at work?
Dealing with a coworker’s romantic interest can be challenging, especially if it’s unwanted. Here are some tips to navigate this situation:
Communicate Clearly
- Set boundaries with your coworker and clearly communicate that you are not interested in a romantic relationship.
- Stay professional and polite in your interactions to avoid any awkward situations.
Seek Support
- Consider talking to HR or your manager if the situation becomes too difficult to handle on your own.
- Confide in a trusted colleague or friend for support and advice on how to deal with the situation.
Take Care of Yourself
- Practice self-care and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being during this challenging time.
- Engage in stress-relieving activities outside of work to help you cope with the situation.
Closure
- If necessary, have a final conversation with your coworker to reiterate your boundaries and bring closure to the situation.
- Focus on your work and try to maintain a professional relationship with your coworker moving forward.
Remember, you have the right to feel safe and respected in your workplace. Don’t hesitate to seek help if the situation escalates or becomes too uncomfortable to handle on your own.
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Talk to him, clearly tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If it persists talk to your manager. If it still persists go to HR with documented examples and with notes on the steps you’ve taken. If you have a bad relationship with your manager then go straight to HR, but make sure you can show that you tried other ways to solve it and can explain why you bypassed you manager.
Where do men get this audacity from?! Maybe he knows that you can’t actually diss him cuz it’s a workplace.
Considering you have already asked him to STOP and he is not bothered by your relationship status. Go to HR and document it.
It will have repercussions to the guy but you did your best to stop him
Just goes to show you, when not born rich, always helps to be tall and/or attractive
Use your words, tell him you’re not interested. Communication, be direct. If it continues, you can escalate it as necessary. Any manager would say the same, “Have you talked to X about it?”
Just pull him to the side and tell him you aren’t interested
Start wearing a ring
Sounds like he get blinded by attraction. You need to tell him firmly but politely point-blank that you are not interested, and, you’re here to work and this is a professional environment. He’ll get the picture pretty fast. and then if he tries to shoot his shot again, reiterate that this is a professional relationship and he is making it awkward by being inappropriate and unprofessional.
He has no game.
My daughter once had a similar issue. She told me she gave the guy her number and he sent her some inappropriate things.
Was easy evidence to take to HR and the guy just disappeared after that.
Might be bitchy but you could totally fuck him over.
The workplace isn’t for dating, he should learn.
I mean, are you sure you don’t humor his signals for the attention or reciprocate in a fashion every so often just to lead him on? Like… 100% sure?
Most guys I know like that feed off any sort of attention like that, and that’s how they misinterpret the situation. You need to completely stop giving him any sort of attention. Just focus on your work. Anything he says not related to work just reply “I’m trying to do some work” and eventually he will get it.
Do you mind if I ask, what country are you in?
(It’s not crucial, because what you’re enduring is inappropriate, but it could help provide some cultural context).
Do NOT pull him to the side and talk. Wear a ring
Call him bro or dude, act like a guy and tell him guy jokes for example when the friend sets him up with you, tell him “well how do you know I’m into men or humans even, bro??” And if you know someone who likes him set them up like “why don’t you ask out this chic X instead I mean look at those rocking tits, bro” or like straight up ask him “I’ll date you if you’re into pegging bro”
It’s really dumb, yes, and some of the things I suggested might not be proper to say in your office culture so censor as you see fit, but bro-zoning him is right on track. Don’t allow yourself to overthink this, turning down someone you don’t like needs to be as simple as possible
Next time he creates a 1:1 scenario with you tell him straight up that you had enough of him. Of course you can put it in nicer words ”I’ve noticed you are flirting with me” or ”You have to stop saying I’m hot and asking me out for lunch”. Then state that you come to work to work and if this happens on one more occasion you will talk to your manager or HR about what’s going on. As someone else mentioned, don’t feel hesitant about using the word harassment.
Also start writing down incidents you remember.
I know it feels like a lot but finance has historically been male dominated. Management knows about the ”culture”, they are not proud of it and you’ll be surprised to what lengths they will go to keep a young woman onboard.
Start a rumor you have an STI. That will stop him asap.
Either play hide the sausage or tell him to shove it.
Words, use them.
“No thank you” sternly. It’s a warning.
Women shouldn’t be in the workforce. The arrogance in this post is nauseating
Have you tried to sincerely and seriously (but calmly) ask him to stop? I only say this because maybe he doesn’t see the signs. Sounds like he thinks you two have a flirty/playful dynamic (even though you may not think of it this way).
Maybe try letting him know your thoughts privately in case it’s a misunderstanding. Then if it persists you could go to management.
You’ve checked if he is autistic right?
He’s taking a financial rizzk with you
He probably doesn’t like you the way you think he does. He probably came up with it as a ploy to check if they were monitoring his personal computer, and also to fight against any role switching. Same with Justin.