#MentalHealth #Gaslighting #GaslightingAbuse #GaslightingSigns #GaslightingRelationships #GaslightingExamples
Hey there! So you’re in a tough spot right now, trying to make sense of a situation where your girlfriend claimed she was assaulted at a bar but CCTV footage shows otherwise. It’s a confusing and concerning situation, but it’s important to handle it with care and compassion. Let’s break it down and see what steps you can take moving forward.
**Gaslighting – What is it?**
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one person seeks to make another doubt their own perceptions, memories, and sanity. It often involves the abuser denying events that have occurred, making the victim question their own reality.
**Signs of Gaslighting**
– Denying events or occurrences that have happened
– Twisting the truth and making the victim doubt their own memory
– Blaming the victim for things that have gone wrong
– Making the victim question their own sanity
**Handling the Situation**
1. **Listen and Validate**: It’s crucial to listen to your girlfriend and validate her feelings, even if the events she described didn’t happen. She may be experiencing a mental health issue or going through a difficult time.
2. **Encourage Professional Help**: Suggest seeking help from a therapist or counselor to navigate the situation. Mental health professionals can provide support and guidance in understanding what may be happening.
3. **Open Communication**: Have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about what you observed and the CCTV footage. Approach the topic with care and empathy, emphasizing your concern for her well-being.
4. **Support and Understanding**: Show your girlfriend that you are there for her and willing to support her through whatever challenges she may be facing. Encourage her to seek help and assure her that you are on her side.
**Advice from the Bhagavad Gita**
In times of confusion and uncertainty, it’s important to remember that our actions should be guided by compassion and understanding. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us to approach situations with a sense of duty and empathy, seeking to alleviate suffering wherever possible.
**In Conclusion**
Navigating a situation where your girlfriend may be experiencing a mental health issue or gaslighting can be challenging. It’s important to approach the situation with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to support her through whatever she may be facing. Encourage open communication, seek professional help if needed, and remember to prioritize her well-being above all else.
Remember, it’s okay to seek guidance and support for yourself as well. Take care of yourself, engage in self-care practices, and reach out to trusted friends or professionals for support. Stay strong and remember to approach the situation with kindness and compassion. You’ve got this! 💪🌟
I hope this information helps you navigate this challenging situation. Take care and remember to prioritize your mental health and well-being. If you need further assistance, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. You are not alone. 💖 #Support #MentalHealthAwareness #YouAreNotAlone
Any history of lying/exaggerating to get attention? Playing up something small to get sympathy?
That is just… weird. My first thought is to ask if she went to *that* bar and not somewhere else? Was she really hammered when she got home? I know I’ve remembered various things happening, but getting the location mixed up.
She was with another dude
Sounds like an attention seeking drama queen who took things to the next level to get attention. She’s a hard NO!
Red flag! Red flag!
She’s stepping out on you
Yeah, it’s the something else.
She was trickle truthing you but you were too smart and the BS didn’t fly. Probably another dude.
As a dude with experience in this area
Put me on the front line of a Ukrainian defensive line before you put me with a woman that makes wild stories up, out of their ass, for no specific reason.
This is the type of person that will have blue lights outside your house when they tell them you just ….. them!
Bail out carefully
It could be something she’s embarrassed to say like incest or something like that so she’s changing the story
Dude you’re young leave her. You shouldn’t have to deal with this at your age. She’s either lying or cuckoo.
What if one day she has a mental episode and accuses you or a stranger of assault?
Drugs or a dude or both.
What if she was so traumatized that she got the name of the bar she was in wrong?
Did she cheat on you and make up this f wild ass story? That’s what I’m getting here. Obviously I could very well be wrong but ???
She will be accusing you next or doing a baby trap.
Time to leave…as in right now. Good luck.
My college campus was one gripped in fear over something that turned out to be an attention-seeking hoax.
This reads like she’s stressed and wants more love and attention than she’s getting, but doesn’t have the emotional or mental capacity to ask.
Therapy time!
This whole thing sucks. The best case scenario for you is that something did happen, but she’s so traumatized by it she’s forgetting where it happened and reverting to her “comfort” bar in her head. That’s still a pretty bad scenario for her. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around that, because I wouldn’t be like “let’s never discuss this again,” I’d be like well fuck let’s check my CC records and see where the hell I actually was, that’s an extremely easy thing to set the record straight about. Still, if she doesn’t have even one text message or phone call or friend who can help her figure out what happened, is she just consistently going to bars alone without telling anyone where she is and getting hammered? Because that’s wildly unsafe behavior.
The best case scenario for her is that she made this all up. Uncharitably you could say it’s for attention, most charitably you could say her jobs and family are pushing her to the absolute fucking limit, she knew or knows she’s about to lose it, and she wanted something “more valid” to lose it about and was trying to set up a situation wherein she could fully break down but not have anyone tell her hey, you need to set limits with your family or hey, you need to figure out a way to work that isn’t tearing you apart because those things may be too hard to handle.
My bigger fear is that she’s cheating on you. She has caught something, either an STD or a full on baby, or someone saw her with another person, and she was trying to lay the groundwork now so if your dick starts itching or she turns up pregnant and the timing doesn’t add up she could conveniently be like “oh man, I bet that happened back when I got assaulted at that bar, remember?”
If I were you and I for some reason really wanted to make this work I would insist on some kind of marriage counseling. Not talking about it is not an option. She told you she was assaulted. This needs to be resolved in some manner, point blank, right? But I would be wary that it would be extremely easy for her to tell you that she simply does not have time for that.
Those are red flags. Run!
Run
She may have the dates wrong and she cheated. She also could be flat out lying for any number of reasons, or this is related to a drinking/drug blackout. Whatever the reason she should seek psychological help. There is not a single situation I can think of here that, help wouldn’t be a benefit for her.
Updateme!
She was cheating
There are a few options here, most people have covered them but I’d like to add one more possibility for you to consider.
The bar is possibly lying. When it comes to assaults, it’s common for cctv to go missing or be replaced with a different nights footage
My brother got beaten to a pulp and left for dead after being at a bar one night, all the cctv was either missing or didn’t show him at all. Not just the venue either but of the surrounding centre it was in (same security management). It was impossible for him to have been found without crossing cctv, but alas nothing showed him. The bar said he was never there too. They can and will lie when there is a liability problem
She may have had a bad mental health night, she may be telling the truth but all I know is that bar’s staff and security cannot be taken at face value when it comes to assaults
UpdateMe!
She isn’t HAVING a mental episode. She IS a mental episode. This isn’t a partner, this is a whole bunch of red flags in a trench coat pretending to be a partner.
Did you know she was a regular at that bar?
If she was with another dude surely she could come up with a better story
Your gf may be cheating on you.