#FamilyDrama #IncomeComparison #SiblingRivalry
Hey y’all! So, I recently found myself in quite the sticky situation at a family gathering and I need some input on whether I’m the jerk in this situation. Let me set the scene for you – I come from a family of high-achieving professionals, but I’m more lowkey about my success. My husband, on the other hand, makes bank as a master electrician and owns a successful business.
At a Mother’s Day gathering, my brother, the lawyer who loves to flaunt his wealth, decided to throw shade at my husband’s career. He made snide remarks about how my husband could never afford the lavish gifts he buys, like the fancy necklace he got for our mom. Well, I reached my breaking point and decided to clap back, revealing just how much my husband makes compared to my brother.
I gotta admit, things got heated and now I’m torn between feeling bad for causing drama and proud of standing up for my hubby. So, what do you think? Was I wrong for throwing my husband’s income in my brother’s face, or was I justified in defending him? Sound off below and let’s discuss! 💸🔥 #WhoIsTheRealAsshole #FamilyFeud 😅
NTA – Generally as a rule you are seldom wrong standing up for your spouse. IF you want to be petty “No. 3 would you kindly shut up about things that don’t concern you”
NTA and your brother is an idiot for not realizing how much a master electrician can make. Your brother definitely IS the AH for saying the things to your husband that he did. He deserved to be called out. He owes everyone (especially your husband and mother) and apology.
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NTA. Looks like the only person butthurt is the person who has to brag about what a success he is. People who have to brag about it, usually aren’t, and I bet if you looked deeper, he has massive amounts of debt to afford all that stuff. Your mom or dad would have said something if they thought you were in the wrong.
NTA, but… I mean, the whole point of keeping your wealth low-key is that you don’t have to flash it.
NTA. Your brother *should* be embarrassed. You stood up for your husband, he appreciated you doing so, and you’re totally in the clear.
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He should sit his ass down and be more “respectful. “Mother’s Day is about mom, not you.”
That sums it up really.
Kudos to you for standing up for your hardworking decent husband in the face of a militant ignoramus.
NTA your bro embarrassed himself really. It kills me that people who work in white color jobs can not even fathom just how much a master electrician, plumber etc can make. Also with no student debt.
Yeah, i go with slightly the AH for lowering yourself to the level if a sleazy lawyer. I mean, that’s about rock bottom isn’t it ? 😉
‘sorry, which number fiancé is this…?’
Massively NTA.
NTA.
Don’t respond to your SIL. Imposing silence after executing such a perfect decapitation like that is best.
If they arrive at all of the obvious conclusions from this encounter, they will do so much more authentically if they are not guided.
If they never do, that’s okay. It’s not your job to change your sibling’s adult diapers.
NTA.
You’d think a lawyer would appreciate that skilled a rebuttal.
In 10 years, after your brother’s 4th divorce and 5th engagement, all he’ll have to show for his “wealth” is watches and a run down Porsche. He’ll have his hand out for help, while you and your husband continue to live well.
NTA.
NTA. Brother got a bit if a comeuppance? Tough beans! He had it coming. Good for you standing up to the boastful bully!
Lawyers are usually douchbags
NTA. I love that your brother is such a weenie, he had his finance text you! He couldn’t even do it himself, hahaha!
NTA.
Kudos to you for standing up for your spouse for your own family. This is how it should be. Also your husband is very mature for letting in-law stuff roll off his shoulder.
Your brother sounds like a tool and needed some humbling. Your parents didn’t seem to be bothered by it.
You guys seem like a model couple.
NTA. How does someone allegedly as smart as him not know electricians make serious money? Electricians make the world go ’round. Bravo for having his back.
NTA – probably should refer to her as “Future-Ex SIL.”
NTA. You could have really dug in on douchenozzle but you didn’t. You showed restraint. I’m disappointed in that honestly. If you’re gonna step in the ring be ready for the kill.
I’ve read this before…
NTA. What your husband makes honestly isn’t even relevant to the story. Your brother was being a dick – that would still have been true, even if he’d been correct about how much your husband makes. He needed to be called out and told that this behaviour isn’t acceptable. That your brother happened to be *wrong* barely even matters, beyond the fact that it probably made it a little easier to make him shut up.
Apparently your brother went crying to his fiancé that OP was mean to him. I wonder if she does the same with judges that rule against him in court? People who brag about their “wealth” (and conspicuous consumption is a form of bragging) seem to be very insecure to me. Good for you for standing up for your partner!
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Nta- I wouldn’t worry about what she has to say, not if she’s wife #3
Sometimes, putting people like your brother in his place just needs to be done.
It’s in poor taste to brag about things like that.
“My brother’s fiancee sent me a tirade of texts blasting me for embarrassing him in front of our parents and calling me an asshole. ”
At least you don’t have to block her. Sounds like she will only be around for a little while.
NTA and it sounds like it was about time. Plus, you are a good wife.
“My brother’s fiancee sent me a tirade of texts blasting me for embarrassing him in front of our parents and calling me an asshole. ”
Don’t worry too much. Doesn’t sound like she will be around for long.
NTA – and it was about time. Plus, your husband doesn’t deserve this at a family gathering.
maybe not an asshole, but why waste your time with that?
Nta. I know how you feel. My bf works at an autoshop but makes a very decent living. My cousin works at a different auto shop and always tries to boast about how much he makes and this and that. How he spent $10k to furnish his apartment for his gf. Luckily he’s never said it to my bfs face, though, but it irks me to high heavens whenever he goes on these tirades. My bf, unlike my cousin, is smart and saves his money. I’m also 99% sure my bf makes at least 2x my cousin, but I haven’t bothered to asked either the specifics.
Classic case of FAFO.
NTA.
So your brother didn’t stand up for himself but his 3rd fiance sent you a bunch of texts lol. We all know who won and your husband is awesome for letting you handle this. Also your brother is idiot!
My sister did the same constantly. Belittling me because my husband can’t drive. I pointed out how much my husband was making, she stfu quite quickly. Lol.
She did continue to boast about how much her husband made, however, my husband and my income combined was far more than theirs, same with my brother and his wife.
Some people just need knocking down a few pegs.
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Your husband is happy and appreciative of you and your support. Your mom wasn’t bothered, or she probably wouldn’t have been happily telling your cute stories.
I wouldn’t put too much stock in your brother’s fiance’s opinion. She wants to marry him.
it sounds like the only person calling you an asshole is the soon to be divorcee number three. not sure why you felt the need to ask, but NTA either way.
If your brother is embarrassed then good! It worked, because he should be. Money doesn’t replace manners or good character though, and looks like he’s building a list of exes that will be able to attest to that.
lets see..the fiance called? and said you were TA for speaking out against your brother in front of the family while he was insulting your husband…in front of the family?
NTA…but there might have been 2 in thebroom at the time
NTA – As Greta Thunberg would say, “small dick energy”.
NTA,the brother is just insecure
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I totally envied the plumber next door while I was in law school. Dude drove a truck 3x the cost of my tiny old car. He had really expensive hobbies and took great vacations.
Especially in your 20s, doing trade work is the way to go. By your 50s, it can suck if your body is beat up and you’re still working a physical job. If you’re smart though, these are excellent careers.
NTA – Your brother embarrassed himself. Hope this means next time he’ll keep his mouth shut… also… his gift might’ve been more expensive but I feel like your gift was more thoughtful.. I wouldn’t have even thought about giving hand massages as a gift to a surgeon. What a great idea.
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NTA but I really question your brothers level of intelligence. Who behaves like that? No normal person just brags on and on about their income like that unprovoked. He must be a grade A AH if behaviour is so normalized he does it in family gathering settings.
NTA. This is why he’s on his third marriage.
Been a few weeks since this exact story was posted.
What a coincidence that it happened again!
How many times has this story been posted on here. At least five times.
EVERYONE knows electricians make huge sums of money.. it’s a literal common joke.
Yta for this