“Am I in the wrong for calling out my classmate’s excessive plastic surgeries?”
#FriendshipDrama #PlasticSurgeryDebate #BodyImageIssues
– Could I be considered the bad guy for pointing out my classmate’s numerous plastic surgeries?
– How should I have handled a situation where my classmate criticized my appearance?
– What are the consequences of bringing up personal insecurities and past struggles in an argument?
– How can I navigate tense situations with classmates who may not be true friends?
Don’t talk it if you can’t take it.
NTA.
I think if she made those rude comments about your body first then your response was entirely justifiable. It seems like you have a toxic relationship with this person where your bodies are the subject. Doesn’t seem like a good friend to have
She’s a jerk. Wear what you want. NTA
NTA. Chat shit; get banged.
But she does not sound like a friend. Frenemy, maybe.
NTA.
She shouldn’t dish it out if she can’t take it.
NTA. In the Netherlands we have the saying ‘wie de bal kaatst, kan hem terug verwachten’. Which literally means ‘the one that throws a ball should expect it coming back’. So what goes around, comes around. If she is making these kind of comments then she should expect similar words back. Nobody needs to just sit there and let someone else take hits on you and not do anything about it. You didn’t throw the first punch. But you sure did win the game with a knockout punch (mostly because she couldn’t handle one comment back, after all her comments).
So big NTA!
dont’ apologize you had every right to say what you said. from now on distance yourself. she’s got no friends for a reason
NTA. Firstly…Your “friend” should not be saying these things to you, i advice you to keep her at arm’s distance for your sanity.
Secondly, It should have been your other “friends” to intervene and tell her off.
Lastly, i love your response, lol, next time you can simply say “people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones at others” without referring to her cosmetic procedures 😉
Lol, keep me updated.
NTA – FAFO
So, let me get this straight….You have no right to talk to her like that (presumably about her body), but she DOES?
C’mon, you know you’re NTa here, she was being an AH to you
NTA- if you should’ve been the “adult” and kept quiet then she should’ve also. She spoke on you first with 3 rude and random critiques & all you did was dish back what was dished to you. She deserved it
NTA
If you gonna extensively modify your body with cosmetic surgery. you ain’t in a position to judge others, because you already deeply unhappy with how you look.
I think she maybe projecting a lil.
NTA. Criticizing other people’s bodies is super gross to begin with. But since she only has the body she has because she cheats, she certainly should keep her mouth shut.
NTA.
Ugh, shut that judgmental asshole down regardless of her plastic surgeries. The surgeries only point to her own insecurities and problems seeing herself. And precisely if she is insecure or vulnerable about her appearance and gets really hurt when people comment on it she shouldn’t try to put down others. I’d avoid her from now on or ignore her if she can’t be physically avoided. But also do not let her off the hook if she tries any of the shaite again.
“… and she is not talking to me anymore.”
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NTA
NTA, those with plastic surgery shouldn’t talk shit about others unless they want to hear something back.
“The rest of the group is not mad at me, but they think I should have been the adult and kept quiet.” This is the key here. No one is calling you the Ahole, so it’s all good. Also, they weren’t the ones insulted so they can’t tell you how to react. You put her in her place, well done. The hard part now is to let it go. You did great sticking up for yourself and you have nothing to apologise to her for. FAFO is what she got, and she needs to get over it now, she wont do that again with you. And your friends will forget about it now. You made your point, whether they approved or not, and now it is over. Remember that she is the outsider and this is maybe what your friends know. She is immature and that’s why she tries to impress. Her words and opinions don’t matter as she really is very socially awkward. When you know you are worth it, you can forgive others their weaknesses and keep your dignity and peace of mind.
tbh she’s probably jealous that you’re fine with your natural body.
everyone has a little fat on their stomachs naturally, it protects our organs/major artery. NTA.
It’s already gross when people body shame each other, but this really took some balls. NTA
No no you did good and responded to her. NTA
NTA. by far. Its not your friend and she insult you. You have the right too treat her the same way.
I dont know you, but I’m sure you rock that crop top! Don’t be ashame of your body! We are made this way. Having a flat belly is certaintly not that healthly. Anyway, you are certaintly treating your body better than any other. 🙂
Nta. But explain to your friends why you said that. About your eating disorder. Ofcours you don’t have to. But people might be more understanding.
Your friend is the AH. And you just got the best present of your life. You can get rid of this friend while you’re still young and live a happy life without somebody like that around.
NTA
So you should’ve been the adult but she shouldn’t have? Lmao
Good job on your answer 😂
Maybe the more tactful way would be
“Maybe. How l do YOU pull it off?”” Gimme some tips on how YOU stay so slim “
Hopefully that’ll end the conversation
NTA, she basically asked for it. You just got her down from her high horse and showed her her hypocrisy.
NTA
Why is the group OK with this girl bullying you?!
Damn, your friends suck, I’m sorry.
NTA. Life lesson she really should have learned by now … Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it back 🤷♀️🤦♀️
NTA, first of all a ‘friend’ would say any of those things to you. Also, her audacity is striking. Judging your NATURAL body with her fake one, her insecurities are real. Bet you look smoking in that crop top x
NTA tell her that if she wants to keep stalking you guys like an unwanted puppy, she better learn to behave and shut up.
NTA.
She can’t seriously be telling you shit like you probably lying about going to the gym and telling you to eat less when she paid her way to look the way she does. Let’s see how she starts to look once daddy doesn’t want to pay for her surgeries anymore.
NTA. Arrogant people deserve exactly this.
She is making assumptions and OP is only telling the truth and the truth hurts. To hell with her. You don’t need toxic people in your life.
Nta. She projected for so long it’s about time someone put her in her place.