#BodyShamingMen #AcceptableBodyShaming #GenderDoubleStandard #HeightDiscrimination #SmallDickEnergy
Have you ever noticed that body shaming seems to be more acceptable when it comes to men than women? 🤔 Despite the push for body positivity and acceptance, there seems to be a double standard in how different genders are treated when it comes to their physical appearance. Let’s delve deeper into this issue and explore why it is more acceptable to body shame men than women.
## Height Discrimination:
One of the most common forms of body shaming towards men is height discrimination. It is not uncommon to hear women say they only date men who are over 6ft tall, which can be incredibly damaging to men who do not meet this arbitrary height requirement. While it may seem like a harmless preference, it can have a significant impact on men’s self-esteem and confidence.
### Example:
Imagine being a man who is constantly belittled and rejected for something as trivial as your height. This kind of discrimination can take a toll on your mental health and overall well-being.
## Small Dick Energy:
Another issue that often goes unnoticed is the prevalence of the phrase “small dick energy” in popular culture. This derogatory term is used to shame men who are perceived as weak or insecure, solely based on their genital size. It is astonishing how this kind of language is normalized and accepted, while similar derogatory terms towards women would not be tolerated.
### Example:
Can you imagine if a woman was referred to as having “loose pussy energy” and it was widely accepted as a joke? The backlash and outrage would be immediate and justified. So why is it okay to shame men in this way?
## Hair Loss:
Men who experience hair loss are also often the target of body shaming. Society tends to mock and make fun of men who are balding, without considering the emotional impact it can have on their self-esteem. This type of behavior only perpetuates toxic masculinity and reinforces harmful stereotypes about what it means to be a man.
### Example:
Imagine going through the already difficult process of losing your hair, only to be ridiculed and teased by others for something that is beyond your control. It’s time to shift our mindset and start supporting men who are facing these challenges.
In conclusion, the idea that it is more acceptable to body shame men than women is a harmful and damaging societal norm that needs to be challenged. Men are not immune to the effects of body shaming and it is important to recognize and address these issues in order to create a more inclusive and accepting society for all genders. Let’s strive to treat each other with kindness and respect, regardless of our physical appearance.
So, next time you catch yourself making a joke at the expense of someone’s body, take a moment to reflect on the impact your words may have. Let’s work towards a more compassionate and understanding world where body shaming is no longer tolerated. Together, we can create a positive change for all. 🌟 #EndBodyShaming #BodyPositivity #SupportMenToo #GenderEquality #LoveYourself
Women don’t get *nearly* as much pushback for misandry as men get for misogyny, so they tend to not even consider the awful things they say and do as misandry. The best thing you can do is call it out every time you see it, make women be aware of what they say the same way they do to men.
Women had a whole social movement about body acceptance to push for more representation and less ridicule. Men did none of that. No one is going to give you ‘fair’ just because it’s fair. If you want something, you have to make it happen rather than wait for society to change into what you want around you.
Because women are allowed to have feelings
OP is karmafarming, 2,343 post karma and 2,759 comment karma with barely any post history.
Edit: Lmao downvoting me meanwhile OP has deleted 4 recent similar posts out of 9 since this
Wait are you joking…
‘most women’ preferring taller or rejecting smaller men is just not true.
And I’ve never heard a woman I know slate a man for small dick energy.
Where are you getting these ideas? If it’s social media then ignore it – it’s bollocks. If it’s people you know find better friends.
It’s not acceptable for either gender.
Because we put most value for women in their looks. An unattractive women is disposable in society while and unattractive men can still be successful, strong etc to redeem himself.
Honestly? Patriarchy echoing back to hit men.
Men aren’t supposed to have FEELINGS other than maybe anger or lust, and they’re not supposed to care what they look like other than being strong and tough.
It’s stupid.
Two words: dad bod.
If you look up “dad bod” you’ll see hundreds of posts from women saying they find dad bods sexy. I.e. someone that isn’t muscular, or lean.
After a woman has a baby and becomes a mom….. she gets asked if she wants a “husband stitch”.
While I’m not advocating for body shaming anybody- I think part of it lies in how women’s appearance is often cited as their only value. While it’s untrue, but we still live in a world where some men (and some women too) have takes like “women aren’t funny/smart/etc”. Whereas men’s value has typically been placed in what they can do/accomplish/provide.
So I think this is one of the reason’s it’s seen as “more acceptable” to body shame men.
You apparently weren’t around for the “No Fat Chicks” stickers.
In general, it is more acceptable to “punch up” than “punch down”. For example, it’s way more socially acceptable to call Elon Musk lazy and stupid than to call poor people lazy and stupid. This extends to race and gender. It’s more acceptable to make fun of white folks than black, Americans than Indians, and, yes, men than women
Because men just don’t care as much. You will struggle to get enough men to put their neck on the line.
I don’t think it’s more acceptable but I think it might be because women focus more on their looks then men (might be wrong just an observation)
Because nobody cares about men.
While objectively it is equally unacceptable in both directions, I think one thing that’s important to note is there has never been a serious, men-led and men-focused campaign to educate people about how it’s harmful to bodyshame men.
In reality, women have shouldered the brunt of body-shaming throughout history, so these ideas that developed within feminist movements were (I think understandably) focused around the problems women generally dealt with when it came to body shaming.
The saddest thing is, a lot of the times men decide to focus on criticizing body-shaming of men, reactionaries hijack these discussions to make them about how it’s unfair therefore we should body-shame women as revenge, instead of actually trying to meet people where they are at and address the problems with body-shaming at their roots.
Nobody should be bodyshaming anybody, but I hope this explains why the discussion around the topic has developed the way it has. That means that it’s up to us as men to stand up to body-shaming towards us done by BOTH men and women, and be constructive about correcting these behaviors, NOT vindictive.
Cuz women are hyper aware of their looks, and in this society women r more validated cuz of it… Any imperfection is unacceptable while men r getting old as wine, nvm if they have big stomach or hair on their chest “cuz women like it anyway”, women appreciate other things in men than just their look.
I assume cuz women are hiper aware and men think that they r fine, they focus on other things…
So, pointing out their flaws will make them realize that they rly need to start making a change…
While if u point out to a woman, she will be offended cuz you objectify her like she doesn’t have anything else to offer than that.
( and just to point it out she is mostly aware of how she looks.)
They made us value ourselves based on the way we look since youngest age.
when someone see little girl, they will say: ” look how cute and pretty she is in that small little dress”, while when they see a boy, they will comment, mostly how fast he is, smart or anything else than being cute, pretty and well-behaved lol
I’m seeing a lot of people that say men ain’t standing up, yet I’ve seen a fair few things that men try and set up to tackle mental health or adding homeless shelters.
But none here are talking about the fact they get shut down by so called “feminists” Men are doing something, ita just some children hate that the spotlight ain’t on them for more than 5 seconds so they decide to go against it.
It’s not more acceptable to body shame men. It happens all the time on a regular basis to women, especially about our weight. Women have been objectified for millennia and still are. That’s why the body positivity movement is aimed more at women. Women are told if they’re fat they’re ugly, and if they’re ugly they’re worthless, every single day.
Body shaming is wrong no matter who it’s aimed at, and body positivity is something everyone can embrace.
You’re indeed wrong about this
I think my answer from a feminist perspective would be: that’s patriarchy. Patriarchy is an overarching system that effects both men and women, but totally unequally. In the US, some (unfortunately limited) strides have been made to distance ourselves as a culture from a more acute version of patriarchy in which it’s more acceptable to body-shame women—at the same time, I have heard valid critiques of second-wave feminism for treating the symptom of patriarchy without the root system cause. Patriarchy is enforced through gender, and gender is expressed in a lot of ways, including these secondary sex characteristics. In pointing out characteristics that **illegitimize** an individual based on these characteristics as qualifications of their gender (i.e. height, small dick energy), you **legitimize** the underlying logic of traditional gender duality, and by extension one of the mechanisms of patriarchy.
OP, I’d suggest you take a look at some of the writing of Bell Hooks—she investigates second wave feminism critically and in particular how men fit into a patriarchal system, and she articulates some of the injustices of patriarchy towards men better than I could myself as a man. I think having some understanding of feminism has been revelatory and emancipating for me, and maybe can answer some of the questions you have too.
Everything that is happening for women, such as body positivity, is because women are standing up and making change.
They protest. They start movements. They push for “women supporting women”. They’re trying to break down toxic social norms that push women to see eachother as competition, etc etc etc.
Then when they make progress and things change. Men look around and say “why isn’t this happening for us?” They expect women to do it for them too.
The issue is that men need to stand up and do these things for themsleves. But they’re scared of doing things like… promoting male body positivity, supporting other men, complimenting male friends… because they don’t want to be viewed as gay.
Society doesn’t just magically change. You have to fight for it. You can’t expect women to do the fighting for themsleves AND men. They need to take responsibility.
Men don’t care about body positivity towards other men either.
Nobody is fighting the good fight here, so we all lose.
Most women don’t want someone at least 6’ tall. Goddamn I’m so sick of seeing that one. Get offline or outside your tiny world and you’ll see that’s not true.
You know people whine a lot about the sexualization of women in games and art (which i hate because I actually like those game characters, and I AM a woman myself, but i digress), but honestly the most sexually exploited character in games and art isn’t even a woman. It’s Link. I won’t clarify further. Goodnight.
And when it comes to shaming men for their genitals, it’s not just dick size.
**Foreskin-shaming is still rampant in media.**
Every time a foreskin is mentioned or a guy is discovered to be intact (not circumcised), everybody in the room (especially women) makes gagging noises and says how *disgusting* foreskin is.
**Can you imagine how people would react, if men routinely reacted to women’s Labia like that?**
It’s not.
For men, it’s more acceptable to body shame other men than to shame women. And if a woman publicly body-shames a man, then it’s considered pretty bad. A woman-body shaming another woman is considered more common and less outrageous. But women get the majority of it from either sex. When a female shames another female, it’s almost always when no males are present. And it’s more common for it to happen in mixed company than it is for males.
As for the genitalia references used as put-downs, this is cultural. Brits tend to be much more free and easy with the female genitalia references than people are in the States, for example. I think that a lot of this is because North American capitals like California, Toronto, and New York had so much of an influence on what we would consider more of the modern Women’s Rights movement, i.e. 70s or later. And we’ve been policing those words more in newer countries, I think because they’re more in need of censorship. In Europe, this movement had been in place long before Europeans started colonizing North America. It wasn’t all that much far ahead of ours in some ways, but it was still ahead of it.
Your generation has confused body shaming with dating preferences. If girls in your class dont invite you to a party because of your height. That’s body shaming. That’s discrimination.
Dating isn’t. Our preferences will decide who interests us and not. And that’s it. Dating isn’t goodwill. Dating is selfish. It’s all about who we wanna pursue. And to find someone who likes us back. Same rules for everyone.
Now, like millions of short guys in relationships or who gets laid every weekend has said in these REPEATED posts about men whining they can’t get a date because they are short.
To victimize yourself for your height, is what’s gonna keep you in the incel club. Not a single girl will find you appealing. Your height? That’s your least issue and there’s no excuse to this mindset as you can control what attitude you choose to live by and be a happy guy like all other NORMAL men with whatever body height.
Good luck.
Hair is the one that upsets a lot of guys. My mates and I can call each other fat, or generally fat shame each other all day long, no worries.
Those fullas with rescinding hair lines, will quickly become upset if you mention their hair.
Because the value of men has historically been something other than their bodies.
Because there isn’t a lot of push for it, and there isn’t as much need for it. Yeah there’s the small dick jokes, but appearances for men are generally far less criticized.
Mmm I think you may be around stupid people. Nothing physical is a determinative parameter to be in a relationship. Literally I don’t know someone (mature and intelligent) who thinks like that.
That’s not true lol. But regardless of who’s throwing the shit, other people’s opinions don’t matter. Maturing means loving yourself and not caring what other people think. As a woman who sees hate and petty judgement from men hurled towards women every moment of every day, this was my life’s biggest lesson. Their sorry little opinions don’t matter to me anymore and it couldn’t be anymore freeing. Helps to know most hate comes from projection as well. Its not about what they say, it never was, never will be.
Because guys are more harshly judged in their socioeconomic status and women are judged more harshly on their bodily image, hence the judgement of the opposite is less detrimental to the other sex. For example if you judge harshly a woman for her social status or salary it’s not gonna be as detrimental to her.
It isn’t more acceptable nor even more common. Both men and women are shamed for their bodies whether they have too much of something or not enough of something else.
Not enough men are interested in male body positivity for it to become a movement.
>Most women say that they wouldn’t date anyone less than 6ft
No we don’t.
Spend less time online dude.
Real feminists fat shame women and men both
acceptable isn’t the right word, but my experience being a man, my sense of self worth isn’t tied too closely to my bodily image. and i feel sorry for those who believe something like that is such a determining factor in regards to how they relate to others. really missing out on alot of facets of life.
Twenty-two & this ignorant is… something.
Seriously? In what universe is that true? LOL.
Nobody should be shamed for any part of their body (or their height, or size). But I’m not convinced that men are more often body-shamed than women.