DatingDilemma: Why is my guy walking ahead of me after 8 dates?
Hey there! So, let me paint you a picture of what I’ve been experiencing lately. You see, I’ve been seeing this great guy for a while now, and everything seemed to be going really well. Until recently, that is. 🚶♂️
The Walking Shift: What Changed?
So, after coming back from a relaxing vacation, I noticed something interesting happening. This guy, who used to walk beside me and be all attentive to my steps, suddenly started walking ahead of me. 😲 It was a subtle change at first, but it became more noticeable with each date.
Addressing the Issue
I mustered up the courage to talk to him about it, expressing that I preferred holding hands while walking. He agreed and promised to make an effort. But, as time went on, the distance between us grew, both physically and emotionally. 🤷♀️
The Big Question: What Now?
So, here I am, wondering what went wrong and if anyone else has experienced something similar. Has anyone dated someone who gradually became more distant like this? I’d love to hear your stories and insights! 💬
Actionable Steps Moving Forward
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Communication is Key: Don’t be afraid to address any concerns with your partner. Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship.
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Know Your Love Language: Understand what makes you feel loved and communicate that with your partner. In my case, physical touch was a big deal, and it’s important to identify your love language early on.
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Trust Your Instincts: If something feels off in your relationship, trust your gut. It’s better to address issues sooner rather than later.
- Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on what you truly want and need in a relationship. It’s important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being.
Ultimately, every relationship is unique, and it’s essential to listen to your own feelings and needs. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you. ❤️
Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Let’s support each other through dating dilemmas and relationship challenges! 🌟
Could it be a pickup artist thing? It sounds like an assertion of “dominance” to me. Or a punishment. Either way it’s slimy, you need to get to the bottom of this and if it is either of those reasons just be glad that they showed you the red flags this early and walk away.
the thought of a 28-year-old man acting like this 💀
He found someone else in that two weeks. He just didn’t want to be the only be that broke up.
He realized he’s no longer into you. Just move on and do not waste any more energy ruminating on what he did to you.
Yet another example of immaturity in dating. I experienced it regularly before I was married. People too chicken shit to just be honest that they aren’t feeling it so they start to either ghost you or take very obvious actions like these. Is the epitome of weakness but on the bright side you dodge bullets bc you don’t end up with someone who can’t handle an uncomfortable conversation.
I mean, at 28 one should ideally be able to break up with somebody without behaving like a lunatic and having them dump you?
OP – just curious. You said this started happening after you came back from your 2-week solo vacation. Were there some kind of tensions over the vacation? Did you guys text each other during it? Did he try to text you and you did not respond, or vice versa?
He definitely wasn’t into you anymore. I can’t think of any other reason he would walk that far ahead of you –that picture is wild. What’s really confusing, though, is why he bothered to hang out with you at all.
My interpretation is that you went on vacation for two weeks and now he’s trying to punish you. Classic “oh you like being far away from me? Then I’ll go over here.” kid-logic nonsense. In the kindest light, it’s him being bad at processing the fact that he missed you while you were on vacation. It’s still a lack of emotional regulation that no one needs in their lives. Good for you for not putting up with it!
He wanted you to dump him and was just going through the motions.
Sounds like he’s got some stuff going on. Let him go. Be kind but move on
OP my petty side says the first time he walked away I’d ask why he did it, but the 2nd time I’d just take a different turn or even turn around and walk away. When or if he finally looked back he wouldn’t see me or just see my back walking away. “I decided I wanted to go a different way and you showed me you didn’t care.” Or something similar.
Sure my ex used to do that when he was mad at me or when he thought that I was mad at him.
I mean if you mentioned it and he still did it then thats a lack of respect but honestly the whole walking thing i do aswell i dont do it deliberately im just a fast walker and dont waste time. My sister and i went to a movie and when we came out she pointed out i was walking way too quick. Its just how i walk
It’s interesting to me to see comments that are surprised by this behavior. I’ve encountered this before, and it’s a dating behavior trope online (a bad one, and touted as a red flag).
I honestly don’t understand this behavior because it’s so incredibly rude. It’s certainly immature and implies an inherent lack of respect and/or interest in you.
With how rude it is, I’d even say there’s a power trip angle to it too for the guy. Gross, and good riddance.
He’s rude. And honestly looking at him from the back it’s no loss to you. He looks like an overcooked noodle wearing sweats.
It’s pretty obvious that when someone deliberately separated themselves from you in public, they don’t want to be with you. It would have been less childish of him to have just said so, saved you both some time.
First, obviously, you made the right call. This is clearly disrespectful behavior. Good for you for moving on. He obviously didn’t care about you at all by that 8th date. Now, to give you some clues as to why this may have happened… You say this was your 8th date. You took a 2-week vacation without him. Did you keep in contact at all while you were gone? If not, he may have met someone else or thought you didn’t care much about him. Also, I’m assuming 8 dates likely means at least 2 months of dating. Had the two of you been intimate yet? If so, did his attitude change right AFTER the first time? If so, then he was only after one thing and he made things so awkward that he wanted you to dump him. If not, then he likely got tired of waiting and putting “all this effort” into you just to be denied. I know, it sucks, but that is the way men are nowadays. Just giving you a heads up to the way some men think in 2024… Best of luck to you in the future!
That’s really far ahead, but uh, did I see your real name on that link?
ETA: I thought you texted him how you’re incompatible then he acted like that.
But yeah, that’s pretty wild he’d leave you that far behind.
In my experience (I dated a lot in my 20s), that happened when the guy started to lose interest in me. Usually soon after we’d stop dating (usually I’d be the one who told them that we’re incompatible blabla exactly like what you did). I think that he hasn’t found anyone else he clicked with, but his interest already waned (not warm anymore) so you’re the ‘placeholder’ until you’re tired of how neglectful/careless he’s acting toward you.
Hey, just a heads up that your full name is visible on the Google photo link.
You read the signs well, he wasn’t into you and didn’t want people to think he was. Ending it was the right call.
He just wasn’t that into you
A block ahead of you is WILD behavior. I can’t comprehend why he’d do that because it’s incredibly strange, my best guess is a weird power move or an extreme lack of awareness of you. Either way it’s a bullet dodged.
He got comfortable and his “best behavior” gave way to how he really is. Bullet dodged.
WTF is he doing lol.
Thats rude af in general, let alone on a date.