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Hey there! π Is it normal to only be sexually attracted to your partner? Let’s dive into this intriguing question and explore the complexities of human attraction and relationships. π
Understanding Sexual Attraction
Sexual attraction is a fundamental aspect of human behavior and plays a crucial role in intimate relationships. It’s natural for individuals to feel a strong pull towards their romantic partners, as it fosters intimacy, bond-building, and satisfaction within the relationship.
π However, it’s essential to recognize that sexual attraction can vary greatly from person to person. Some individuals may find themselves exclusively attracted to their partner, while others may experience attraction towards multiple people. Both scenarios are completely normal and valid, as long as all parties are consensual and respectful towards each other.
Factors Influencing Sexual Attraction
Several factors can influence the extent to which individuals are sexually attracted to their partners, including:
1. Emotional Connection: A deep emotional connection can enhance sexual attraction towards a partner.
2. Physical Chemistry: Compatibility in physical attraction can contribute to a stronger sexual bond.
3. Relationship Satisfaction: Feeling fulfilled and happy in a relationship can amplify sexual attraction.
4. Personal Preferences: Individual preferences and desires can shape sexual attraction dynamics.
Navigating Individual Sexual Attraction
It’s important to remember that there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to the question of sexual attraction. Each person’s experiences and feelings are unique, and what is considered normal can vary widely.
π It’s entirely normal for some individuals to be exclusively sexually attracted to their partners, finding fulfillment and satisfaction in that connection. Others may discover attractions outside their primary relationship without diminishing the love they feel for their partner. Communication, understanding, and mutual respect are key in navigating these attractions within a relationship.
Final Thoughts
In conclusion, being sexually attracted to your partner is a common and healthy part of a romantic relationship. Whether your attraction is solely focused on your partner or extends beyond, what matters most is the mutual respect and communication within the relationship.
Remember, everyone’s experience with sexual attraction is valid, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel. Embrace your individuality and understand that human attraction is a beautifully complex aspect of our relationships. π
I hope this sheds some light on your question! Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Let’s continue the conversation on the diverse nature of human attraction! πΊ
Itβs normal, I am the same as you. Itβs not because you can never be attracted to anyone else, but because you are emotionally invested into 1 person at a time. You βdonβt even think about other people in this wayβ because why would you? You are already in a committed relationship with someone you love at the moment, you simply donβt have the need to think about anyone else in this way right now. If you are happy and your needs are met, why would you even feel the need to look around and fantasise about others.
>Is it normal to only be sexually attracted to your partner?
Yes
Well I literally donβt want to fuck anyone but my dude ? But when I was in a crappy marriage I definitely was not fond of fucking my spouse .
I’m the same as you. I’ve never looked at another guy in that way. Even had a few hit on me, but didn’t enjoy it and shut them down real quick. It’s different for everyone though. As long as everyone is faithful, that’s all that matters.
Sure. Some people need that emotional connection to feel sexual attraction.
Just like you, I only got eyes for my main squeeze. It’s different strokes for different folks. Ain’t nothing strange about it.
It’s a spectrum, like most things about people. Some people are completely monogamous in their minds, others fantasise wildly about everyone they meet, and every level in between. But fantasy and behaviour don’t have to correspond, of course. We get to control how we behave even when our minds go racing.
Personally, I’m pretty monogamous in my brain, apart from noticing when people are hot in a kind of idle way. But maybe once a year, someone will suddenly trigger it, and I have a rush of crazy attraction, usually to someone i don’t know well. I’m old enough now, and have learned enough about myself, that I just go away from that person when that happens, and stay away from them. I just don’t indulge it at all. I love my husband to the ends of the earth.
I’ve never cheated, by the way. But I don’t like the way it feels like my brain gets invaded, and it feels like a violation of his trust to let it too far in.
You are demisexual to a high degree. This is completely normal
I found out for myself that I have two modes:
1. I am in a relationship,love or lovesick. -> I only fund her attractive, and everyone else is just there. There is no real distinction between man and woman.
2. No relationship and not in love. -> 80% of women look stunning and attractive.
Like others said. It’s about emotional investment.
depends a bit how common it is. I think most people feel sexual attraction to strangers, like celebrities or some random model, but wont want to act on it when in a relationship, other people don’t feel sexual attraction at all, to anyone, until they’ve been in a romantic relationship for years, then they MIGHT or might not start to feel it to only that person. Before you were with your partner, did you feel sexual attraction to anyone?
Isnβt that one of the main goals of being in a relationship?
I feel the same way towards my girlfriend. Iβd consider it normal for those who are truly in great relationships.
As a am i find it very rare that i picture myself sleeping or touching a person who isnt my partner that i find attractive.
Its equal to a sunset or a mountain view. I can admire their looks and appreciate their curves and assets as something nice to look at with my eyes but, i don’t want to live on top the mountain.
I not really making sense but the attraction i have for my partner and the attraction i have for random beautiful women are night and day different to me.
Some men are what you are describing. I am a man and I only fantasize about my current woman. I know three other men who are just as monogamous. Many men and women are like that. The mere fact that you are wired like that should be enough proof that it is possible for humans.
It’s normal, it’s just not something that everybody experiences. If I start genuinely feeling attraction to other women then I know my relationship is in trouble, when it’s good I literally don’t look at them that way.
Nothing wrong with being us, but not everybody is.
iβm a monogamous woman and i acknowledge other guys being sexy all the time. i have eyes, lmao. itβs very normal. i wouldnβt expect my partner to not acknowledge other women being hot, we donβt go blind just because weβre in committed relationships. as long as he doesnβt act on it, idc.
Sounds like you might be demisexual you obviously need an emotional connection and you have that with your partner but not others.
That is SO normal. I swear I never had crushes until I met my boyfriend. All of a sudden I had an immediate attraction- something Iβd never felt before!! I often wonder if he feels the same. Iβll ask him tonight LOL
Look up demisexuality.
Basically it’s being attracted to only to people that you have an emotional connection to.
You’re normal.
I’m a man, and I’m usually not sexually attracted to other women while being in a relationship. My partner is all I want or need.
Seems like the longer I’ve been married the more likely I am to fantasize only about my wife. At this point–now past our 34th anniversary–it’s very unusual for me to fantasize about other women. My dream girl is my wife.
I’m like your boyfriend. My husband is like you.
It was a bit difficult for us to understand each other because our experiences were very different. To me it was rather a rather foreign concept that my husband never masturbated. Like *ever*.
It felt like a lot of pressure that he only wanted release with me. Not because he ever pressured me, or anything, but it was daunting to feel sort of responsible for all his pleasure. Flattering, but still daunting
He, on the other hand, couldn’t quite understand that my sex drive was there regardless of his presence. And that I thought other men and women were hot. He didn’t understand that I would sometimes masturbate.
We’ve come to a place where we understand and appreciate each other’s differences though.
well to be honest, i always found that i was generally only RLY sexually attracted to ppl i knew and liked. but not rly at the same time, i can acknowledge ppl r sexually attractIVE but not that id want to have sex right then with them. but i dont think i stop having attraction with a partner. i just dont act on it nor does it pop up for more than a passing thought when someone is rly hot, doesnt mean id actually do that since i dont know them and im committed
I’m a man(21yrs old) and I feel this is completely normal like sure there’s always going to be a good looking woman but that’s it a random good looking woman I won’t give a 2nd though about.
I will never consider her over the emotional connection and friendship I’ve built with whoever my partner is. I haven’t been in a relationship yet but even now I don’t really fantasize about women because I need that friendship or foundation to be attracted anyway
Iβm actually a guy not a girl but Iβm this way too lol. When Iβm in a relationship, I get so excited (emotionally and sexually lol) about my partner but then everyone else arenβt really on my radar. My partner just genuinely almost looks like the most attractive person in the world to me lol even though maybe objectively thatβs not true. But beauty and attraction are subjective anyways so π€·π»ββοΈ. Kind of like one of the top comments said, Iβm in a relationship and in love so whatβs there to do about checking out βother optionsβ anyways lol.
But I wouldnβt say itβs a men vs women thing. I think just different people are different. And thatβs okay. Both me and my last partner were the same way which was nice tbh. But I feel like itβs not something one can control itβs more innate so I prob wouldnβt judge someone who is the other way. Itβs only problematic if they actually pursue other options and try to keep doors open when theyβre takenβ¦ which unfortunately Iβve seen some guys do. But I also have a female friend that got super obsessed on a crush while still dating someone else so itβs not like all women donβt look at other options and all men do.
It’s normal. As a dude I’m the same way. If I’m single I’m sexually attracted to whomever I find attractive, but when I’m with somebody romantically she’s the only one I’m sexually attracted to. And I wouldn’t qualify it as demisexual like others are honestly
It’s all normal. Some people require emotional connection to feel sexual attraction- and that is ok and normal. Then some people require sexual attraction to feel emotional connection – and this is also ok and normal.
You’ve got one of your own kinds in me. I’m right here.. totally normal. Your partner is very lucky to have partner like you. That’s it. Nthg to feel weird about.
Yep! It’s a nice feeling.
I’m demisexual I only feel sexual attraction when romantic feelings are at play. Sexuality and gender are a spectrum and it’s actually a really interesting subject to study.
I don’t think it’s a women vs men thing, I certainly don’t fit the gendered categories that you’re describing! It’s more of a person to person thing, some people are wholly monogamous and others less so.
I’m attracted to my partner sexually, but if I didn’t have him I wouldn’t be interested in sex at all. I find the idea of everybody else having sexual organs off, lol. I love having sex with my husband but the idea of doing it with anybody else repulses me.
It’s normal and also men are not excluded from it?? My bf explicitly told me that he doesn’t find other people attractive when he’s in a relationship and I’m the same way. For me it’s like a switch flips and everyone else is suddenly meh and it stays that way. Idk why your bf said this is a male thing to find other people attractive while dating but it’s not, it’s an individual thing.Β
Finding someone attractive and BEING attracted to someone are two different things.
Yes, it’s normal. I am the same exact way is you, as is my partner. We’re both committed to one another and don’t even feel the need/desire to think about others in a sexual context. Have no interest whatsoever.
Thereβs a word for this called demisexuality. Might make you feel better to read up on it. Nothing wrong with you!
I hate when guys talk about their own personal experience like they are talking on behalf of all men.Β
I am monogamous. When I am pursuing or dating one person, everyone else just stops comparing. Even if they are objectively attractive.Β
I am pretty easily sexually attracted to people. I don’t know if it’s from being a guy or just who I am, but I’d say at least 50% of the female population turns me on.
My wife, on the other hand, seems almost unable to be sexually attracted to anyone until she’s in the mood for sex. She can recognize beautiful men but has said that she just wants to stare at them like art or put them on a shelf because they’re so adorable. But she has never looked at any man and thought “Oh, I want to fuck him!” Even with women (she’s attracted to both) she won’t necessarily feel that way, although a good set of boobs will definitely get her close to it.
My entire marriage I was only attracted to my husband. When Iβm in relationships I feel this way. I think itβs normal.
It sounds like you’re describing being demisexual – only feeling sexual attraction when you have an emotional connection.Β
There are definitely other people who experience this, but there are many who don’t also (fwiw I’m not a man). For me being in a relationship doesn’t really lessen the sexual attraction I feel for other people – to me, if they look nice they look nice. But falling in love with someone does make them more attractive.
Fantasizing/seeking images etc is a grey area couples need to work out for themselves. In my current relationship I would feel weird actively fantasizing about another person so I don’t. Also left the social media that was pushing tons of thirst traps/eye candy at me. But I only do this for my partner. I had a previous relationship where the other person didn’t care at all and we would actually talk about who we found hot together lol
I’m a man, I have no interest in other birds, my wife is all I want.
You are demisexual, you feel sexual attraction based on your emotional connection to them. I am the same and it blew my mind as well when I realized that isn’t the default way of attraction for everyone