#RelationshipDrama: Have you ever been in the awkward position of watching your significant other follow an ex-FWB on social media? 🤔 Tell us your thoughts on this sticky situation!
Let’s face it, social media can sometimes feel like a minefield when it comes to relationships. You’re scrolling through your feed, minding your own business, and suddenly you see that your partner is following someone they used to be intimate with. How does that make you feel?
Maybe you’re totally cool with it and trust your partner completely. Or maybe it makes you feel a little bit uneasy, questioning their feelings or intentions. It’s a common dilemma that many of us have faced at some point or another.
But hey, no judgment here! We’re all just trying to navigate this crazy thing called love. So, spill the tea – how do you really feel about your s/o following a former FWB? 🍵💔
Drop a comment, cast your vote in the poll, and let’s get the conversation going! Let’s dive into this juicy topic together. 👀 #RelationshipQuestions #LoveAndSocialMedia #TrustIssues
That’s fine. My partner is still friends with some exes. They are lovely women and I totally get why one would want to be friends with them.
I’d find it weird, tbh. It would feel to me like they were planning to re-engage with them in the future and are keeping their options open. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it to them or ask them not to do so, but it would figure into my overall calculus about whether I felt secure and comfortable in the relationship. If they are still actively seeking out and watching each other’s stories, that’s maintaining a line of communication. If they want to keep contact with their ex-fwbs, we probably just aren’t compatible.
If they’re still friends it’s fine. If there are still benefits then not fine.
I’m actually more ok with friendship with an ex – I get that friendship can exist there and that care for someone can transform into something non-romantic=sexual. Totally fine.
But FWB is weird because you were only ever physically intimate with someone, so what is it about that relationship that makes you want to “keep it going”? I just don’t see a reason for it.
It’s fine by me. I have a previous fwb that I generally no longer speak to, but the line of communication is still open as needed and if someone had a significant issue with that I don’t think we’re compatible. I’m not someone who cuts people out of my life with a hard block – I don’t talk to or hang out with many exes but I don’t remove the line of communication, and one of them prompted something innapropriate I don’t see a need to, usually it just fades out after detaching. Whether it be FWB, an ex relationship, or an ex friendship there is a reason the split occurred and I can love and be loyal to my current partner while still acknowledging I once treasured those people and will be there for them if they need someone to talk to or help moving or something like that.
I wouldn’t have a relationship with someone who stayed in touch with FWB’s or hookups. That’s sketchy to me. I think it’s understandable that people sometimes keep some level of friendship with an ex, because they were an intertwined part of each other’s emotional and practical lives in a completely different way. I get why the friendship part may stay even after feelings and attraction die off. But I don’t see the need or excuse to stay in touch with someone they only ever shared sexual intimacy with and who was never meant to be a permanent part of their life.
I dont care unless theyre engaging in things they shouldnt be doing. Aka sex
I don’t really care. “Following” someone on social media doesn’t really mean anything. I follow people from high school I haven’t spoken to in a decade. I’m friends with my ex’s grandma on Facebook lol. It’s not that deep.
I feel it is a one-way ticket to a lot of bullshit
Honestly, if someone is going to cheat they’re going to find a way
that crosses a line for me so no, i wouldn’t accept that.
Not okay in my book. The only time I’m okay with a s/o having regular contact with an ex would be if kids are involved, or if they have joint assets to be divided as in a divorce. Otherwise, it would absolutely bother me.
I’m fine with this. My bf still follows an old fwb from back in the day on social media. He told me about their past immediately and honestly, looking at her profile, she looks cool as hell lmao (travels a ton and has cool hobbies etc). I can see why anybody would follow her stuff.
I trust my partner and know nothing is going on so atp any past fwb just counts as any other random person on social media lol
I’ve never dated/had sex, but I don’t see why I’d care who they follow
I wouldn’t have any issues with it whatsoever. People from our past have value in our lives, and a partner that’s so insecure that they need me to cut out all contact with people who have helped make me who i am today is no partner I’m going to put any energy into.
Love me. Love others. Love yourself.
Love is good.
I mean, I am friends with/follow two of my ex’s on socials. This is not just FWB, these are people I dated. I know he is friends on FB with at least one woman he dated before me. I’m ok with it. I don’t really have insecurities about our relationship in that regard.
People can be friends with people they have slept with before and not sleep with them again. I don’t mind.
I am not okay with it. I don’t share.
My rule for men is basically do not talk to them or stay in contact if they touched you or you touched them. You can choose her or me but it’s not gonna be both of us.
Not it chief
Sure. I don’t think a follow really means much. I rarely unfollow anyone unless they’re being unbearably annoying. I feel like most people don’t give much thought to their following list.
I’m not threatened by my partner following people on social media, because it doesn’t affect my relationship or my trust in my partner.
I don’t really care but I also don’t really wanna know the details of each and every person the person I’m dating follows. It’s just unnecessary stress IMHO. In my 30 years on earth, cheaters ‘gon cheat whether they follow each other or not ( I had a bf cheat on me who didn’t use social media at all ).
I have the 1 fwb I’ve ever had on insta still but have them muted so I don’t see their posts/stories.
I wouldn’t really be comfortable with it. I found out a guy I was starting to date still subbed to his exes onlyfans, and it really bothered me. I made him unsubscribe and sub to mine instead.
It depends on my man really, if he’s posting me a lot and showing me off and so past her and almost just wants to flex on the women of his past with me I’m ok with it
But if I feel like the guy I’m dating is kind of sleezy (I’ve dated a weirdo like this before) where I felt like he was trying to portray being single on his social media and likes their pictures before they even post it and replies to their stories etc etc
It’s giving beg, then absolutely not hell no
There has to be a big level of trust for me to be okay with that
Don’t care about this shite at all lol
So long as there was no overlap or reason for me to be insecure, like if he hit her up. Don’t care at all.
Pretty sure the guy I was in love w for like seven years followed almost all his. The guy I’m talking to now still talks with them. The first is good looking but extremely funny and a good dude. The second is like, giga chad supreme with banging bod and speaks three languages. Dummy fine, great job. If he wanted to smash them, he would
If it’s before me I truly don’t care
id be quite upset, id ask him to unfollow her, and then check if he actually did.
I had to do a similar thing, when my boyfriend was following OF models. Sucks, but its what you should do.
I wouldn’t have a problem with it…its nothing to do with our relationship.
If your partner is gonna cheat, they’re gonna cheat. Who they follow, whether they follow them, whether you police that – it makes no difference.
I follow several people I’ve hooked up with or was in a relationship with. It’s in the past, it’s over, I don’t get why it would be an issue.
I’m only okay with friendships with exes if the ex was a former spouse and they have children together. Otherwise an ex is an ex why the hell are you still talking to them?
I wouldn’t be okay with it. I can understand about exes (still not as comfortable) but not fwbs. There is no reason to follow the person.
Would not like this at all
I dont care
That would be very uncomfortable for me
I don’t really care.
Now if a former FWB constantly reaches out and actively disrespects our relationship, that’s a different story. But being connected on social media isn’t all that meaningful in my books.
If it’s just a friendship then I don’t care. I trust my fiance implicitly and know he’s still friends with one of his exes. I’m actually friends with her and her SO. I’m not friends with any of my exes because one is dead and the rest are horrible men. One keeps making alt accounts on social media to try to get me to hook up with him despite us not being together since high-school and that’s been 10 years this month.
Hell naw
*They would have to block them.*