#RelationshipAdvice #InstagramDrama #CommunicationIsKey
Hey there, buddy! It sounds like you’re in a bit of a sticky situation with your girlfriend’s Instagram posts. Let’s dive into some insights and advice to help you navigate through this.
## Understanding Your Feelings
First off, it’s completely normal to feel uncomfortable when your partner posts revealing photos on social media, especially if it’s affecting your relationship. It’s important to acknowledge and validate your feelings before moving forward.
### Self-Reflection
Take some time to reflect on why exactly these posts are making you feel uneasy. Is it because you’re worried about other guys commenting on her photos? Or maybe you feel like her posts are disrespectful to your relationship? Understanding the root of your discomfort will help you address it better.
### Communication is Key
Have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about how her posts are making you feel. Express your concerns in a calm and respectful manner, and listen to her perspective as well. Effective communication is crucial in resolving conflicts and strengthening your relationship.
## Setting Boundaries
It’s important to establish boundaries that both of you are comfortable with when it comes to social media behavior. Here are some tips on setting healthy boundaries:
1. Clearly define what is acceptable and unacceptable in terms of posting photos on Instagram.
2. Discuss how you both feel about engaging with opposite-sex friends on social media.
3. Consider compromising on certain aspects to find a middle ground that works for both of you.
## Trust and Insecurities
Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and it’s essential to trust your partner unless given a valid reason not to. However, insecurities can sometimes cloud our judgment and cause unnecessary stress.
### Dealing with Insecurities
If you find yourself struggling with insecurities, it’s important to address them proactively. Focus on building your self-confidence and trust in your girlfriend. Remember, everyone has their own insecurities, and it’s okay to work on them together.
### Bhagavad Gita Wisdom
In times of doubt and confusion, the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita can offer valuable insights. Remember to focus on your actions and intentions, rather than being attached to the outcomes. Trust the process and have faith in yourself and your relationship.
## Moving Forward
Ultimately, finding a balance between respecting your partner’s freedom and maintaining your comfort level is key. It’s essential to prioritize open communication, mutual respect, and understanding in your relationship.
### Final Thoughts
Remember, relationships are a journey of growth and learning. Embrace challenges as opportunities to strengthen your bond with your girlfriend. Trust in your love and commitment to each other, and you’ll navigate through any obstacles together.
I hope these insights and advice help you navigate through your current dilemma. Remember, you’re not alone, and there’s always support and guidance available. Wishing you all the best in your relationship journey! 🌟 #RelationshipGoals #LoveAndUnderstanding
You need to dump her.
It is perfectly ok for her to upload pictures. As is her right. It is perfectly ok for you to feel uncomfortable about them, set up a boundary and clearly tell her how you feel.
Now, even after deleting such pictures and being conscious of your boundaries, she goes ahead and keeps posting those pictures, then it clearly means that for her, your boundaries mean shit.
You are simply incompatible, you need to find a GF that does not shows her ass on the internet, she needs to find a BF that does not care that her GF is out there showing her ass and getting bombarded with messages on the internet.
Break up now, before this situation worsens and worsens. As it will inevitably do. You both deserve someone that is a better fit for your personal morals and boundaries.
It’s a waste of energy to worry about that. Just enjoy your time together or else move on.
I don’t think you two are compatible. One of you need to sacrifice something here, either you deal with your jealousy or she stops posting ass.
Ask how she would feel about you liking pictures of other women posting similar “thirst trap” photos. She might be okay with that, and you’re simply incompatible, but she might also be a hypocrite.
Here’s the thing you always need to remember.
You either trust her or you don’t. It’s really that easy.
If you trust her, then trust her. If you don’t, then why are you with her?
What you don’t have a right to do is tell her what to wear, or what is acceptable to you to post or not post. Nor does she have the right to tell you these same things.
You’re both 18, neither one of you has any clue how to be in a relationship. It a lot of trial and error.
I know you think this girl is “the one”
But, the odds aren’t on your side that she will be.
Just enjoy the ride and learn as you go.
she’s valid in how she feels
you’re valid in how you feel
one of you has to make the sacrifice here for the betterment of your relationship, if neither of you want to do that it’s probably better to go seperate ways
edit: spelling correction
Break up with her. You’re not compatible.
You don’t get to tell her what she can do or post. If it makes you uncomfortable, remove yourself from the situation.
She’s not wrong for being who she is and you’re not wrong for being who you are. You are not compatible and that’s ok. You’re both 18 so stop trying to force something that isn’t working.
You have to decide for yourself what you think is acceptable and what are deal breakers. On the surface it seems you are not going to be comfortable with a woman who wants to flaunt her bikini body on social media. So maybe you should look for a more modest woman who doesn’t do that.
Move on g
Did she post like this prior to the relationship? If yes then you knew what you signed up for. Women don’t change just because you want it. If she did it before the relationship expect it in the relationship. Can’t handle it break up and find a girl who doesn’t.
Unpopular opinion: posting flirtatious/teasing pictures in a relationship isn’t respectful, especially if the poster knows it will illicit comments and attention from others.
I’m not saying she shouldn’t be able to post pictures of herself. But ass pics seem far for someone in a relationship. Also, I would be so uncomfortable if thirsty men were commenting on my posts having a boyfriend, so I’d at least have the decency to turn the comments off or block those men. Her not doing that makes me think she enjoys eliciting the attention from men that aren’t her bf.
I think the only thing to do here is assert your boundary. If she doesn’t stop posting for attention, then you’re gone. She can choose whether she wants to post seductive pictures or have you as a boyfriend.
Catch 22, you got a baddie. Show her off. Be the loudest guy in her comments telling her how beautiful she is. Make sure everyone knows she’s your girl and you’re proud of it. All those guys are jealous of you.
If it’s a trust issue then that’s something you need to discuss with her. A good partner should reassure you. if she starts calling you insecure blah blah blah red flag 🚩. But at the same time you need to look at yourself and ask why you don’t trust her. Has she given you any reason to? Is it a gut feeling.
Maybe it’s a compatibility issue. You might be interested in a more modest traditional women. Which is hard to find these days. Everyone seeks attention and validation, from people online. Like the guys are saying enjoy the ride don’t take it to heart. Have fun. And learn what you can and know when to run.
If this is a dealbreaker for you, that’s ok. Move on.
The two of you aren’t compatible. It’s her body, and she has every right to post it in the manner that suits her. You have every right to not feel comfortable, but you don’t have any right to dictate what she does with her body.
For this reason, you’re not compatible. If you value modesty, go find someone that is modest. You can not force her to change and shouldn’t want her to change for you. That is not what love is.
You are allowed to have boundaries, but enforcing them sometimes means stepping away. If that’s how you feel, then leave the relationship, but don’t stay because you want to try and make her see your point of view or make her feel you’re right. You’ll just end up slut shaming her for the many reasons you found her attractive in the first place. She, nor any womxn, will ever be “yours.” Partners compliment us, but they don’t belong to us.
I suggest finding you somebody that aligns with how you feel about this and will take your comfort into consideration. Set her free, bro.
People here will tell you that you shouldn’t feel anything coz it’s her body (true). Well, she’s also your girlfriend and you should feel that you can communicate with her about anything affecting you
Not the person for you if it bothers you and she does it anyway. Incompatible.
Dude she was like this pre relationship, she’s going to be like that in the relationship. Don’t change her, either accept of leave
It’s ok for you to be uncomfortable with it. She wants what she wants which is also fine. Perhaps it’s time to acknowledge you’re not a compatible couple. You’re only 18, no need to be trying to force something that doesn’t work or make you happy.
You knew ahead of time of this part of her lifestyle, she is an exhibitionist. Either you learn to accept this part of her life,(including the extra attention) or you move on to someone who’s values better aligned with yours
This post keeps coming up so think it’s a bot
Your feelings are valid. Also, her feelings are valid. Also, you are only 18 and there are other people to date. Move on.
My husband has a killer body and works hard for it. He loves to show off. (Yes sometimes annoying “chest day/leg day topless photos showing an 8 pack lol) And I equally love it lol. Girls looking and admiring is a flex for me. But we are married. Have YEARS of built trust. Many experiences where he’s proven himself trustworthy and loyal. If this type of behavior isn’t for you, there is someone out there who will love it. And there’s someone out there who you will feel more comfortable with.
Why did you get with her if you knew she was doing that. I’m sure when you met her and she was single, she was posting those type of pictures.
It’s your call where your line is brother. Don’t stay with someone who’s going to make you unhappy or insecure because her boundaries are different than yours.
A wise man once told me, “if you want a baddie, you need to be able to handle baddie energy” and that stuck with me. (It was a drunk dude at a bar)
Short and to th point response.
Yall are young, and more than likely, it won’t change.
Talk to her about it, move on from her or llive with it
if youre already trying to control someone to fit your own needs thats a sign of incompatibility, perhaps you should both move on
Bruh she obviously don’t care what u say and don’t respect you and why would you date a girl who is naked online?
You’re too young for this kind of drama. This won’t last. Let her go and be happy.
Two things:
1. It’s perfectly ok to post whatever, we need diversity and all humans can’t be the same.
2. I couldn’t date someone that wants to attract attention with their body because of my morals (I’m not a guy, but this shouldn’t matter)
You need to find your morals&values, put them on paper and eventually talk with your partner about theirs (if they don’t want/say they don’t have time, no problem! It means they don’t care about this enough to put valuable work into -in which case I’d break up because we deserve partners that do from time to time what’s important to us too). You can compare after and see the level of compatibility from that side. Talk it out, find compromises that don’t make you resent each other, etc, it’s very solvable IF doing it right (although at a small compatibility lvl, in my opinion, it’s not worth it).
You also have the fact that you already told her it’s making you uncomfortable. It’s great that you communicated, she HEARD YOU. They really hear the first time. The ball is in her court now and you’ll see her communication/actions after that and it will be clear what it’s more important for her at this moment.
We can’t force people to do what we want, but we can compare generally how close it is to what we want. If they meet the expectation and standards, it’s great, it will probably last even with disagreements now and then. If they don’t, it’s gonna be a constant struggle and resentment is bound to infiltrate the relationship. If she shows you she took a decision, ball is in your court. Choose well for you ❤️
Find someone else. She’s 18 with a lot of growing up to do. Chances that she’s the one are slim to none.
This is a you problem and not a her problem. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong necessarily but taking and posting sexy pictures is par for the course these days. If you don’t like it find someone that is compatible with you.
You can’t tell her what she can and can’t post. What you can do is communicate to her your own concerns and decide for yourself if it’s worth moving on from her for. I’m not a fan of trying to dictate to partners about social media pictures but there are a couple of things to be aware of and talk to her about:
1. It sounds like she craves validation based on her appearance. We all like to get some positive vibes from friends and family but she needs to answer what she hopes to accomplish by purposely having guys who are not you hitting on her, because you know and she knows that’s what those posts are geared to make happen. At minimum if she is going to post photos like that, she should not tolerate any comments about her body or attempts to message her. Doesn’t matter that she knows or knew the people commenting. Nobody should be making thirsty comments about your gf and if they do she needs to shut it down immediately. She can either delete those comments, tell them to stop or ignore them but she should never interact with guys making comments about her body.
2. If she respects your relationship and wants to set a healthy barrier around it from other guys, having photos with you in her profile where she makes it clear she is taken is an absolute must imo. Being in a relationship that is fully absent from your social media is a HUGE red flag. If she has excuses why she doesn’t want photos of the two of you together on her SM then I would rethink strongly. It’s one thing I’d you do t have SM but if you do and you’re active then it should reflect your life.
I mean you’re young and I’m sure she’s real pretty, but you have to come to the realization that she, in the not too distant future, is just going to just be some girl you used to be with. Don’t get attached and accept that this is temporary, make sure you never finish inside her and enjoy the ride while it lasts. You’re 18, there is nothing wrong with that. She’s 18 and is going through her validation seeking time in her life, and likely her ho phase. If you happen to meet someone who sparks a deeper connection, then leave for greener pastures.
Don’t be with someone you feel you need to change
“there are dudes in her comments section”. So? It depends on what they’re saying. If they’re just saying “nice pic” then so what? If they’re saying disgusting things to her she should block them.
I mean, you can’t really expect a woman to switch up the way she’s behaved before being with you unless it was explicitly agreed upon. If it’s a deal-breaker for you, either talk to her or break up if she doesn’t agree. Not much to say beyond that
Female here (22), I think that a conversation between you and your girlfriend about boundries is really important; just to express your feelings about her posting her body, Or to make a comprimise; say she could still post her bikini pics (I mean if you have a bod why not show it off) but a compromise for you could be that she turns off the comments. Definetly do not try and control her, she will want to do the opposite (its psychology) and if you try and change her she will secretly resent you. So if you can handle a baddie, then let her post what she wants; but have confidence and remember she chose YOU. The more you show trust and support the more she’ll love and appreciate you. hope this helps a little!
She probably worked really hard for that body and is proud of it and wants to show it off. There’s nothing wrong with that. If you don’t like it you don’t have to date her.
Bro you want a hot girl she’s gonna do hot girl shit.. take it or leave it
Bro. This is called paying taxes. You’re not the only person who thinks your girl is hot. And people make comments. And she likes to show off cuz she like attention. So here is the deal. You’re overreacting big time. And she will 100 percent leave you if you keep up this total lack of confidence in your self and your relationship. She wants a confident man not some jealous looser who gets mad at her for doing things 18 yr old girls do. Get over it. She will keep doing it with or without you. No one wants to be told they can’t do something they want. Trying to control a woman is like trying to hold a swarm of bees with your bare hands. Your gunna get hurt.
If you’re uncomfortable, have expressed it, and she continues to do it…
Then your only move is breakup. Not punitive, not angry, just go.
You’re young and have plenty of time and social life to find someone whose values are similar and who will consider your concerns.
She’s allowed to post herself how she wants.
You’re allowed to choose what relationships you want to be in.