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So, picture this: You’re trying to do the right thing, sending money to support your ex and your kids, only to find out she’s spending it on illegal activities and neglecting your children and pets. You try to address the situation, but she only asks for more money and refuses to change her ways.
Just when you think things can’t get any crazier, you come home to find a court summons for spousal and child support the day before you were planning on contacting CPS to get your kids out of that environment. Talk about bad timing!
Now, you’re left wondering what to do next. Should you go to court with all your evidence in hand to prove your case? How can you protect your children from this chaotic situation?
If you’ve been through something similar or have any advice to offer, please share in the comments below. Let’s help a fellow parent out!
Family law attorney. Yesterday. You are unfortunately in a situation where you want to protect and provide for your children, but are being bled dry by her for ‘expenses’. Get a lawyer, go to court, force her to show receipts.
You should have taken legal action for a court enforced custody agreement. Get your lawyer immediately in view of taking full custody.
An attorney will help you navigate through all of this. Yet I’d ask for a drug test for her. Doesn’t sound like you live where recreational cannabis is legal.
Stop showing your cards. By telling her the steps you are taking, you are giving her a chance to correct it before the proper authorities are involved and potentially coach your kids. Collect every shred of evidence you have, photos, videos, etc. and give them to an attorney. Ask your attorney to preemptively request a guardian ad litem.
U taking pix? Keep records.
You need to ask for a postponement at this hearing and get an attorney. Usually most courts want a parenting plan filed with or prior to child support. Did she file a temp parenting plan giving her custody and then serve by mail and get an order in by default? Are you taking the kids overnight at all? If you’re not it’s going to look bad to a judge. Does she have a job?
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Get a lawyer and get an agreement hammered out.
Do not contact cps. Go through the court system, and get an attorney.
Cps will not help you, it will hurt you.
Get a lawyer. Listen to the lawyer (which is likely to include not posting stuff like this to social media).
CPS doesn’t give custody from one parent to another. Hire an attorney.
The family court judge who will decide where your kids live, and all the CPS workers, have seen kids living in conditions 100x worse than your wife’s house. Imagine meth and fentanyl, not pot. 30 animals, not 3. Feces and urine and worse all over the house, not outside.
One household’s neglect is another household’s lazy housekeeping. And, absent child abuse, a former SAH parent who works part-time is more likely to get physical custody of the kids than a parent working 2 jobs.
Get a lawyer.
And here is where you find out that marriage has turned into nothing more then a financial safety net for women! Unfortunately you will soon find out all your options are very limited and you will not get a fair deal no matter how much you spend!
So far all you’ve listed is dogs shitting outside, and your seperated wife is asking you to continue to provide financial support(as you likely are required to anyway). You claim you have 50/50 but keep the kids zero overnights and your parents are watching/transporting them? Get a lawyer. I don’t think you understand what it is exactly you have going here for custody and support. What are your incomes? This will be a better way to determine what support will be and if you are over paying. Are you including paying on the marital home in your calculations because unless its in her name only its still your full or partial responsibility until the divorce judgement?
I don’t know about your dv claim. You sat on it for 3 months, and by your own admission, you were trespassing (post separation and recording in her home) and antagonizing her(refusing to leave and continuing to record). Did you have bruising? Was the attack relentless? Did you corner her?
No court is going to allow you to dictate how she spends the money.