#NeedAdvice #FeelingLost #LifeIsntOverYet
Hey there, I hear you and I can totally empathize with how you’re feeling right now. It’s tough when it seems like everyone around you is moving forward and you’re stuck in a rut. But guess what? It’s never too late to turn things around and start creating the life you want for yourself. 🌟 Here are a few things to consider:
– You are only 21, which is still very young. You have so much time ahead of you to make positive changes in your life.
– It’s never too late to go back to school or learn a new skill. There are plenty of resources available online for free or at a low cost.
– Joining a local club or organization can help you meet new people and make friends who share similar interests.
– Physical fitness can have a huge impact on your mental health. Consider starting with small, manageable goals to improve your health and well-being.
– Seeking therapy or counseling can also be incredibly helpful in addressing social anxiety and other mental health challenges.
Remember, there is always hope and potential for growth. You deserve to live a fulfilling and meaningful life, and it’s never too late to start. Take small steps each day towards the life you want, and be kind to yourself in the process. You got this! 💪🌈
Your literally 21. If you want to enroll in college, do it! Your still young enough for the college experience
It’s only going to get worse. Don’t be optimistic is my only advice…
You can still do all you want to do despite being 21. Life’s just starting for you 🙂
lol i delivered pizza until i was 27, i graduated with an associates in engineering drafting at 27 and found a job at an engineering firm and now im 33 making 90k.
>Everyone I knew enjoyed their time in college or trades or the military and made the most of it.
If you were to do any of these things you wouldn’t even be close to the oldest person there. You’re 21 ffs.
Those who struggle early often become accomplished later in life. Why compare yourself with others? this is a weak stance. You might experience things they will miss in the future. Don’t be bitter about yourself. Instead, set a goal for your life, develop your character and be driven. Look forward to building a prosperous career. Many successful people were dropouts or lacked formal education, yet they lifted themselves up and created meaningful lives.
Change your attitude towards your life and become ambitious about your future. You can do it, just need to prepare yourself. Get busy developing yourself for the journey of achieving milestones ahead.
>Is it over for me???
>not even late 20s
Every. Thread.
Holy shit just stop. START NOW. Most people have not peaked at your age. All the shit you want to do? GO DO IT NOW. You’re not going to get it all done in a day. Start chipping away at it. Go to the gym or take a jog outside. Sign up for college today if that means something to you. All the stuff is still there waiting for you, you need to just go do it.
*Born born into poverty in year 1809. Mother died at age of 9 yrs. No formal education. Lack of support from father for education. Shifting of family. Married but lost wife early. Out of 4 sons only 01 lived to maturity. Some more events yearwise. 1832 – Lost job, Defeated for state legislature. 1833 – Failed in business, 1835 – Sweetheart died, 1836 -Had nervous breakdown, 1838 -Defeated for Speaker, 1843 -Defeated for nomination for Congress, 1848 -Lost renomination, 1849-Rejected for land officer, 1854 -Defeated for U.S. Senate, 1856 -Defeated for nomination for Vice President, 1858 -Again defeated for U.S. Senate.*
No prizes for guessing who the person is being mentioned above is. But if this man could become what he became. Y**our life has just started, there are miles to go. Your day will come, do not lose heart, just keep working. When opportunities come, take them do not hesitate.**
Your life has barely started at 21. I can tell you that for sure. And I went to college and partied and lived up my 20s to the fullest. And I can tell you 💯 none of that compares to the joys that lie ahead for you. If you want to experience that, do it! You’re still the perfect age for that. If you don’t, that doesn’t mean that nothing else amazing is going to happen to you.
It’s NEVER too late. You’re only 21!! I have underwear older than you. You’re still a young person who has the world at your feet. You just need the courage to go after what you want. Get out of your comfort zone. Every time you step out of your comfort zone…you grow as a person. Challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone at least once a day and work toward making yourself and your life better. What do you have to lose? Just by trying to make your life better…you’re already a winner!! Stop complaining and make short and long term goals and start working towards them. Start hanging out with people who are positive, passionate, and like-minded as you and you will start to see the world as they do. YOU GOT THIS!!!
I’m sorry, but is this some kind of trend that’s going on with younger people?
Because you identified the problems, you know what’s the problem. But the next question is. What are you going to do about it?
What will you do to make sure you’re in a better place next year? Because if you’re comparing yourself with other people, especially those who have YEARS of experience. Then you’re just cutting yourself short.
But I see this kind of topic over and over again. “20, life is over.” “19, life is over” like come on. Life is barely starting at that point.
Might get a lot of hate for it, but I feel that this has been discussed many times over.
Bro. I believe this is about 90% of 21 years I was in the same boat with everything started gyming at 24 got a great gf at 25 an started making 85k at 25. I’m 28 now. An listen to this part it any. I WOULD GIVE IT ALL BACK TO BE a shithead 21 year old just enjoy the journey please
“I’ve been an adult for a total of 4 years. I only have on average 60 years left, my life is practically over!”
I went to uni/college the same time as everyone else, at 18. By the end, I had friends who were younger than me. I had friends 30 years older than me. I had friends 50 years older than me. I had friends 10 years older than me. There is no metric to ‘winning at social life’. There is no time limit on college, or making friends, or changing or choosing careers.
Stop comparing yourself to everyone else, and start trying to love yourself first. Did you go outside today? Did you finish your laundry? Are you cooking yourself regular meals? These are all achievements, more than a lot of people can claim, and are all excellent for your mental health.
I can see from your history that you’re interested in electrical work. Keep. At. It. Even if you missed a cutoff, or what you wanted to do isn’t available anymore, keep searching. You don’t know what you can do until you try. And if that doesn’t suit you, look at short courses, or choose a degree. Anything to get you *moving forward.*
Are there card game stores nearby? They often have a lot of overlap with anime fans (speaking from experience as an anime fan) and when they host tournaments, it’s a great time to learn a new game and connect with some living people.
I’m also a hypocrite for saying this, but if you can, walk to a park nearby. Just sit on the ground or the bench and read on your phone. Bring a book or manga or whatever and read outside. It’s good for you and the walk there counts as exercise.
It’s not over until you give up on yourself. People aren’t going to deny you opportunities because you’re ’too old’ at TWENTY ONE. They might if you don’t scrape together some self confidence. Unfortunately, the only cure for low self confidence is to learn to APPRECIATE YOURSELF.
When you’re ready to make a proper post on this sub – this is a sub for career advice, after all, not mental health – we will be here and do the best we can to help. Just make sure to give us some proper background about yourself next time.
I’m in my 30’s y’all need to chill with this whole idea seriously that you need to be making six figures or whatever by the time y’all are 23 and stuff. I’m not sure why or where this is coming from but it’s really getting old. Six figures if even is more senior roles and don’t happen overnight.
Decide where you want to start even if it’s an associates or an apprenticeship . You’ll be better of than not having some kind of education or vocational training.
Dude, you are barely an adult. I don’t know why people feel like they need to have life figured out by the age of 25. When I was 21, I was in a similar situation to you but I also had criminal charges. I joined the military, did 8 years, got my bachelors degree about 6 years into it, and a masters degree shortly after (all degrees paid for by Uncle Sam). Now, I’m about to buy a home with my spouse and landed a very well paying job before the age of 30. You have plenty of fucking time. Time is going to pass regardless of how you spend it. In 4 years you can keep thinking you’re too old to start, and 4 years will pass. Or, you can find something to do, such as college or trade school, and in 4 years you could have a degree or be employed in a trade.
I had a guy who was in basic training with me that was 35 years old. He had a family and kids. He *still* decided it wasn’t too late for him to make the change he wanted. And he ended up being one of the best guys I knew in the military. (FYI, if he chooses to spend 20 years in the military, which he will, he’ll still retire before the general retirement age).
If you feel like you aren’t going anywhere, do something about it. Time isn’t going to wait for you.
I relate to this so much.
Best thing you can do is realize you will always feel like this and the only way to overcome it is by doing something. Literally anything and eventually you will gain traction in something and if you like it enough or are good enough, it will be your purpose.
Also if it helps put things in perspective when you’re 40, you still have 25 working years left to go
I hate it when ppl that are 21 say this. I’m 37 and in this situation. It’s much worse. 21 is literally nothing.
I was a colossal fuckup until at least 30. No lie. I was a skinny loser without a life plan. I had a useless degree and was trapped in student loan hell. I didn’t know what to do.
I did the best I could. I made a plan, because as humans it is what we can do. If it is social anxiety then the best thing you can do is confront it (exposure therapy) and do the things that scare you. Get loans and scholarships to get a degree. Make sure it is a degree that has a clear path towards a job. I used my degree to get a teaching job and it was the best decision I ever made. Teaching saved my finances and cured me of my social anxiety.
Develop an exercise habit and plan a healthy diet. I never played sports in school but I started running and then I started weight training. You can do these things. 30 minutes of exercise a day isn’t a lot. Doing meal prep for the week takes just a couple of hours and saves tons of money.
As you build wins and get your life on track, you’ll mature into a more positive and engaging personality. And then you can meet other people and develop relationships. And finding a loving partner is the best thing in the world. Make that your goal.
You got this, buddy. You can do this. You are capable.
These posts are getting old and I am so tired of retelling my story all the time that the OP doesn’t probably even read.… I got my first “real” job at the age of 26 and now I’m 30 and still have no girlfriend. I was sure I’d have a family by that time, but don’t even have a girlfriend and nobody wants to meet me. I also have no friends and my job is all I’ve got. I can’t wait to go back to work tomorrow. Is my life over though? Probably not.
The reason most men (or people in general) feel suicidal is because they have a good reason too.
Your overwhelmed with regret at this momment. Regret. Wishing you did this and that during school, or went to this social event instead of staying inside, or invested some time into a healthy life instead of whatever it was you did instead.
And these are all valid points to want to commit, are they not? I mean, I don’t want to sugar coat it, but you’re right, the chances that you will achieve the life style, respect, and integrity you once thought you would have are basically reduced to ashes.
However, is this good enough of a reason to commit? No, not all all.
Let’s look at the positives:
Since your only 22, your below median age (24) that people across the globe claim to start there fitness journey. Weather your overwight or underweight, these are the prime years to began looseing weight and gain muscle. Is that not enticing? You could achive a healthy and attractive body before your 25 if you start taking things seriously.
As you begin to get in better shape, confidence will naturally come, and you as a person will command more respect. Women will begin to see you as less of a weird person once your fit, no matter how ugly,short, deformed or whatever you veiw yourself to be, leading to relesionships.
Is it too late to get an education? There is plenty of methods and programs that can provide you will a 4 year degree, allowing you to take a major. Most people start collage 18/19, and 22 isnt very far off as your may think.
I dont personally know you, but seeing somone in this situation like I once was is heartbreaking. There is so much joy in life that is being overshadowed by your crippling mental health.
Get fit, get an education, get out of your comfort zone. It’s going to years upon years of uncomfortableness, anxiety, fear and self-doubt, but one day will make it. You’ll have an education, you’ll be confident in your appearance, your form freindships and maybe even find a girlfreind, you’ll have a decent car, a decent house, any pets you want you can have, you’ll be valuable to others and to society.
But none of this will ever be achieved if you don’t take action. Realistically, if you make it to 25+ in this same situation,you will never amount to muchof anything in life. No bank is going to trust you with their money, no program is going to accept a 25 year old, no woman will want you, and noone will respect you.
Your on a stopwatch as you read this, so belive in yourself and do what you always knew you could do.
This cant be real
36 here. Took me 6 years to get my associates degree. My mom died, had 2 more kids, wife cheated, divorced. But got my degree in electrical engineering technology and got a job as an associate engineer.
Get your 2 year degree would be one of my many recommendations. You’re not too late. Get going on something now though.
If people like you, then they will give you opportunity. It’s all about your like-ability.
21 IS NOT old. All of these things are quickly fixable.
One thing at a time. Start with the job. Some jobs that will help with working out are landscaping and dog walking or delivering packages or Uber eats and the like , which allow you to work on your own.
If this step is too much, you might need anti-depressants and therapy