#trustfundbaby #workplacebullying #professionalism #respectatwork
Okay, let’s address the elephant in the room – being called a trust fund baby when you’re not can be downright frustrating and hurtful in a professional setting. It’s natural to feel confused, disrespected, and even a little angry when your boss belittles you in front of others. So, how should you handle this delicate situation? Let’s break it down.
Strike 1: A Misunderstood Trip
It all started innocently enough, with a simple conversation about your recent trip. Your boss’s assumption that your parents foot the bill for everything just because you have free flights is not only incorrect but also uncalled for. It’s important to address this misconception calmly and confidently, setting the record straight without escalating the tension.
Strike 2: The Trust Fund Baby Label
Being labeled as a trust fund baby by your colleague in front of the owner of the company must have been humiliating and infuriating. Remember, you don’t have to justify your financial situation to anyone. Stay composed and consider having a private conversation with your boss to clarify the misunderstanding.
Strike 3: Dairy Queen Debacle
The comment about your “entitlement” based on not having visited a particular restaurant is simply absurd. Don’t let such remarks rattle you. Your worth and value as an employee are not determined by where you choose to dine.
Strike 4: Intimacy over Snobbery
Preferring smaller accommodations over chain hotels does not make you a snob. Your personal preferences should not be a cause for judgment or ridicule. Your boss’s comments seem to stem from a place of misunderstanding or perhaps even jealousy.
What’s Next?
It’s clear that the situation at work is affecting you more than you initially thought. It’s important to address your concerns with your boss in a professional and diplomatic manner. Express how the comments have made you feel and seek clarity on why these assumptions are being made. Remember, your worth is not defined by baseless labels or misconceptions.
Final Thoughts
Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and professionalism in the workplace. If the behavior persists or escalates, consider seeking guidance from HR or a higher authority within the company. Don’t let unwarranted comments shake your confidence or impact your work performance.
Stay strong, stay true to yourself, and don’t let anyone’s misguided perceptions define who you are. You are more than just a label – you are a valuable member of the team deserving of recognition and respect.
What is the job, and how hard would it be to get a new one? I could never work with an boss/owner like that, and would look forward to when I can turn in my resignation.
Have you ever corrected your boss, or could your indifference be taken as admission by your boss? It sounds like she is either jealous of you, or is not in a very good financial situation and is taking it out on you.
Well, I suppose you could go the opposite route from your boss and refer to her as gutter trash. But I would think it would be a high probability of you not working there anymore. 😁
She taking liberties for no reason, and it seems to me that she is projecting some of her own insecurities on you. Wonder if the CEO is a trust fund kid herself?
You’re a snob if you want to stay at Airbnb or a motel over a chain hotel? An Airbnb could just be someone’s shitty apartment. Lmfao what are they talking about? In addition to everything else you mentioned my lord this person has absolutely massive insecurity.
You either have to deal with it or start looking. These comments are coming from the owner of the company. You literally have no one to complain to.
Get out of there asap. Nothing good will come from working for someone like this.
That sounds very annoying and I’d try to find a new job if I were you. Tough market right now but at least try. Also, try not to speak anything when the owner is around.
The owner is an idiot.
Someone feels jealous…
As soon as you find a new job, put in an hr complaint. When it obviously goes south put in your resignation and leave like the queen/king you are
Quit.
You don’t want to work for someone that makes excuses to justify not paying you what you are worth.
Look for a new job. I see no growth for you because this boss already thinks that you’re set for life when you aren’t.
Take your last check and never return. With their behavior, they don’t deserve a 2 week notice.
Please start looking for a new job. There will be no happy future at your role. Your boss has such a weird attitude.
You sound young. All of the comments saying quit are giving you bad advice. Are you getting comments because you are “opinionated”? Maybe they are just joking casually. If you feel uncomfortable, then tell your boss privately. However, your progress in the company will stagnate. These are not comments on your race, gender, sexual preference, religion, or other
This is beyond the pale, terrible rudeness. And if you think about the translation, she’s basically saying that they don’t pay you enough to have a change of clothes, fly anywhere, or visit a restaurant above Dairy Queen.
You could try “that’s not true at all, why do you think that?”
Jealous. I could not work for someone like that. Next time she asks anything personal flip it back on her
Ugh. Run. I had a similar situation in a company; but it was because the owner (who I worked closely with because he made himself head of the sales department) learned who my husband was. Suddenly everything became about me being a trophy wife or kept woman. It was really annoying. Example: My iPad (which I used daily to present to clients) had gotten old and wasn’t holding a charge anymore asked if we could add a replacement to the budget. His response was to tell me to go buy a personal one and bring it to work with me, because “you can afford it, the company can’t right now”. When I told him I didn’t think our clients (financial institutions) would want their confidential information on my personal device he laughed and backtracked and said he was just joking. But it was always something like this. Anytime anything was needed it was joked that I “could afford it”.
One day enough was enough. I got offered a promotion (because running the sales department started to not be fun for the owner and I was already doing all of the back end admin for the department), which came with a LOT more responsibilities, travel, and time. When we got to the compensation part, it was laughable; I would be making less than the team I would be managing and it would be a less than 10% raise. I countered and gave the very sound reasons mentioned above. He looked me in the face and said “I know you don’t need this raise, so I’m going to save the budget and give x and y bigger raises on their annual review since they have families to support and are the only income in their house”.
I quit. I realized I would never be valued at my actual level because he had some preconceived notion that I didn’t need it; which had turned into me not deserving it. It sucked because if you removed him from the situation; the job was great. I liked my team, I loved my clients, and I was fascinated with the products and services we offered.
Your boss is exhibiting prime cunt behavior. Start looking for a new role, clearly her issues are interfering with your wellbeing.
When she inevitably says something again, make it clear to her you are not comfortable and tell her she needs to stop. You could get HR involved but they always favor the CEO. Just good to have a paper trail.
lol I’ve never been to Dairy Queen but I do have experience with ppl thinking/joking and lowkey bullying me for thinking I’m rich because I…know how to thrift and look nice?? The best way to deal with this is by not over explaining. Don’t try to explain your life, make sure you keep work and private life separate. Don’t engage in any of those conversations and you should hear less and less about it. Ideally you would’ve done that from the beginning, for example you can take pto but you shouldn’t have to explain where you’re going!
It’s bad. It’s only going to get worse. She’s jealous of you & she can’t keep her mouth shut. Start looking for something else.
The owner of the company has no idea how to find good prices. They’re clueless. I’d probably just say something like: I’m not rich, just efficient with my spending.
Also, travel is not that expensive if you plan it out far enough in advance.
These people have an ugly chip on their shoulder. I would not share an iota of personal information with them.
I understand your concern here. That said, you’ve never been to DQ?!?!