#CareerAfterKids #WorkingMoms #CareerGrowthAfterChildren
Hey there, Mama-to-be! 🌟 Let’s talk about that lingering question in your mind: “Am I doomed after having kids?” Spoiler alert: absolutely not! Here’s a little insight to ease your worries and set you on the right track:
– It’s common to hear stories of people feeling stuck in their careers after having children, but remember that everyone’s journey is unique. You have the power to pave your own path! 💪
– Balancing career aspirations with parenting responsibilities can be a challenge, but it’s definitely doable with the right mindset and strategies in place.
– Here are some tips to help you navigate your career journey post-kids:
– Prioritize and time-manage effectively to balance work, study, and family life.
– Utilize resources like online courses, networking events, and mentorship opportunities to boost your skills and knowledge.
– Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself in the workplace – speak up about your career goals and seek out opportunities for growth and advancement.
Remember, it’s all about finding that balance and staying determined to reach your goals. You’ve got this, Mama! 🌷 #EmpoweredMoms #CareerGrowth #FutureSuccess
The main issue is that once you have kids, they MUST be the priority over you. So you can’t just quit a job because you’re uncomfortable or need a break, you MUST keep your child’s best interest in mind. making risky moves is no longer acceptable.
Do You have a good support system that You can relay on?
No, you’re not doomed, it’s just things that came easy before will be a little more tasking, especially in their first few years of life.
But then, you can continue your career afterwards, it’ll just take a longer time thank before, and ensure you have a great support system.
You’re not specifying if you have a partner but if so, it very much depends on the two of you – have you talked about who will be the main breadwinner, how much your partner is planning to have parental leave / stay home with sick kids / stay home with them in the evening when you have to go out to network or take care of them if you have to travel for work? You both have a great shot at a good work-life balance if you both are respectful of each other’s career needs.
Here is the thing:
It’s over
Nah, just your sleep schedule, social life, and ability to watch a movie without interruption. 😴🎬🤪
Not doomed. You are going to have to work harder. You have kids that are now relying on you. If life is not where you want to be, you have to change it. You have to make a sacrifice. Just because someone got stuck doesn’t mean you will. You have as good of a chance as anyone else. Do not listen to people who say you can not or make a comparison of their failures. I would ignore naysayers.
Congratulations on the kid!
Just home school the child. By the time they’re 8, you’ll have a live-in assistant & they’ll be able to have that 10 years of experience @ 21. It’s honestly a win-win
On your next job, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU HAVE KIDS. Get an au pair.
You have a chance, and you can do anything your mind too, but it would realistically take you douple the work if you did not have a child because your attention is now devided, you just need to come to terms with that and it will all wor our eventually
You need the right company. My company does paid parental leave, not maternity leave. Upon return from leave, the person is trained on any systems they might have missed, updated policies that have changed, etc. We have taken to calling it “Leave Onboarding.” We also have a robust women’s development program led by our female COO.
I also realize my company isn’t the norm. The company even pays a one time benefit up to $25,000 for employees to pursue IVF or adoption, and adoptions are treated the same way as births: parental leave followed by leave on-boarding upon return.
But in general, it shouldn’t be an impediment. Good luck.
You take sacrifice somewhere, your career can stall due to having kids but if you’re all focused on career then you can’t be an all there parent, if that’s what you want to do. You just have to accept that having a child can be a setback, especially if you weren’t prepared financially and in the place in your career you wanted to be in beforehand.
Technically illegal. In reality it happens.
You cannot honestly think that every mother ever has suffered in her career after having a baby.
It changes you, but can definitely be for the better. My kids lit a fire under me to be more successful than ever before. It is true that I had more things to consider when wanting to change jobs, but it made me more careful and introspective.
I also acknowledge that my husband was extremely supportive, which unfortunately doesn’t always happen. He stalled his career to be a SAHD so that I could make some pretty risky moves in order to have significant pay raises. We also sacrificed a LOT financially by dropping down to one income, which isn’t always possible and wouldn’t have been necessary had childcare not been so expensive OR if we had family nearby to provide free babysitting.
Probably not.
You definitely have a chance and I implore you not to give up. It’s ruthless prioritization and super careful time allocation but I’ve been a working mom for a year now and just got promoted. It’s an extremely steep learning curve but if your career is important to you it’s very much possible
i kept a miserable job for the first year of my son’s life and now I am a full time student because I deserve to enjoy my career and i want to prove to my kid that its never too late
Not doomed, but things will be challenging for a bit. Im in the same boat as you actually, I’m a first time parent with an almost 2 year old with a shitty job. it’s been a very stressful 2 years but I put most of the blame on my job. I just created a resume for the first time and going to send it out. I’m not getting my hopes up as I know the market is bad right now but I want my child to know anything is possible when you try. Good luck!
I lead a marketing department as a single mom of a 2 year old!! I climbed the ladder while pregnant, freshly going through a divorce post-partum, and with a cross country move.
Pregnancy is not a career killer…being a mom expands your skills!!
Keep pushing! Plenty of moms rock their careers after kids.
Look at ways to improve your skills online…no need to go to physically go to school these days…
Most women I know have chosen roles that allow them to prioritize flexibility, time off, a workable schedule, a short commute etc. This often means that they’ve stayed in roles that are less challenging, lower level, or otherwise not ideal from a career perspective. I think it’s fair to be prepared for that, especially if you’re in a demanding field.
my mom finished her nursing degree pregnant with my sister, taking me to her classes. i loved her college days and read her books, or my fantasy books, pay attention to the lectures, tried to keep up with the assignments and lessons on the board writing doing as much as i could cuz it was COOL AF. yet i couldn’t go to the hardcore labs…the best afternoons, weekends and summer we’ve spent. sometimes im my mom’s friend and she’s mine.
one time a teacher of hers recommended me to read harry potter, i was reading brisingr. i watched the movies but my book had dragons in it BUT THANKS I’LL TRY!! never did lmao
i remember being my best self to not embarass her or get grossed out at the topics being discussed. stuff was nuts but damn i loved it, thought how tf can i get my credits lol. school became boring after.
with love everything’s possible. she had two jobs where i would stay with her in the mornings visiting patients and afternoons in the office or weekends. again, it was pretty cool. always on my best manners. your kids are a reflection of you. i admired my mom cuz ik carrying a baby was heavy, PHYSICALLY INSANE. the miracle of life. she’s strong af.
Yes, you are. It takes a village to raise a child. Without help and/or a hands-on loving caring husband it is super hard. Keeping a fulltime job, let alone having a career, is a challenge..you will be emotionally and physically exhausted. The society expects you to raise your child like a stay-at-home mom and work like you have no kids simultaneously. 🙁
Not doomed, but it is a lifestyle AND mindset shift… being selfless and considering your child’s wellbeing as well as your own while being mindful to take care of everything else. However, people are different. For me, I now have a 13 year old and I find that I keep in mind I am a parent to her first- there to guide and support. I also make it a point to take care of myself and my family as a whole. All this to say, I don’t feel doomed. I can say there are more positive experiences than negatives. And we try to treat each negative experience as a learning experience.
I (21 F) recently just had twins in January and I’m on my way to earn my bachelors degree in December. The only support system that I have is my husband (21M). We also both work full time jobs ( I take day shift and he works nights so I have the twins at night and he has them during the day). It’s not easy but with support, anything is possible.
I got pregnant at 19 while still in college studying for a computer science degree. My second was born right after I graduated.
I won’t lie – those early years were extremely hard and I had a really, really hard time even getting my foot in the door. I thought that I was never going to succeed.
However, I’m in my late 30s now and my oldest is getting ready to go to college himself. I did eventually find a good company and have been able to grow. Many of my peers are now taking mid-career breaks to have children, while I was able to focus early on in life on children and my career later.
Neither is bad or wrong, but I’m grateful that my life is playing out the way it did and that I now have time to focus.
You’re not doomed. It may be bumpy at first. And yes, priorities can change and that’s okay, too!
This hasn’t been my experience. I have a five month old and I’m leaving a good, high paying job for a totally remote, higher paying job with a better title. I still nurse, cloth diaper, and have 3-4 hours every evening with her. I have become more efficient during the day so that I’m not bringing work home with me and I’m able to fully be hers when I’m off the clock.
I truly think a big part of this is having a partner who carries half the load. I couldn’t do this all on my own.
So many people go back to school when raising kids. If that’s an option for you, often you get great financial aid benefits.
No, it’s not “Doomed”. May not grow as fast as you’d like, but you can move jobs after having kids. Trying to do so while pregnant is pretty much impossible, but after you return to work, go ahead and job hop.
I’m a mom and have job hopped multiple times over the past 10 years.
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