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Has your world been turned upside down by discovering your husband’s secret sexting with his ex girlfriend? 📱💔 It’s a devastating blow to any marriage, especially when you have been through so much together. With two kids and a history of health challenges, finding out about this betrayal can feel like a punch to the gut. But you’re not alone in this struggle.
Here are some steps you can take to navigate this difficult situation and hopefully find a path forward:
1. **Take Time to Process Your Emotions**: Allow yourself to feel all the emotions that come with this discovery – hurt, anger, betrayal, sadness. It’s important to acknowledge and process these feelings before making any decisions.
2. **Open Up Communication**: Sit down with your husband and have an open and honest conversation about what happened. Express how his actions have hurt you and discuss what led to this betrayal. Effective communication is key to understanding each other’s perspectives.
3. **Seek Counseling**: Consider seeking the help of a professional counselor or therapist to navigate through this betrayal and rebuild trust in your relationship. Counseling can provide a safe space to address underlying issues and work towards healing.
4. **Focus on Self-Care**: In times of crisis, it’s important to prioritize self-care. Take time for yourself, engage in activities that bring you joy, and practice self-love. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and care.
5. **Evaluate Your Relationship**: Reflect on the state of your marriage and whether it’s meeting your emotional needs. Consider if the relationship is still fulfilling and if both partners are committed to working on rebuilding trust.
6. **Consider Forgiveness**: Forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help heal wounds and move forward. It doesn’t mean excusing the behavior, but rather letting go of the resentment and anger that can weigh you down.
7. **Keep a Positive Outlook**: Despite the challenges you are facing, try to maintain a positive outlook on the future. Believe that better days are ahead and that with effort and commitment, your marriage can overcome this obstacle.
In times of turmoil and confusion, it can be helpful to turn to ancient wisdom for guidance. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us about the importance of detaching ourselves from the outcomes of our actions and focusing on the present moment. By practicing detachment and living in the present, you can find inner peace and clarity in your decision-making process.
Remember, you have the strength and resilience to navigate through this storm in your marriage. Stay strong, communicate openly, and prioritize the well-being of yourself and your children. Trust that with time and effort, you can rebuild trust and find love and happiness in your relationship once again. #staystrong #rebuildtrust #loveconquersall
OP, there is no relationship without trust. He keeps a password on his phone and keeps close tabs on it. He’s 100% still cheating on you. If not, what is there to hide? Do you kids a favor and leave. You don’t want them growing up thinking this is what a healthy marriage is. You can co-parent the kids, but for the sake of yourself and your kids, leave the lying cheater.
Let me say this loud and clear as the child parents who should have divorced 10+ years before they FINALLY did…. DO NOT STAY IN THIS MARRIAGE FOR THE KIDS.
We see the fake. We see the horrible, unhealthy relationship. We see the tension and we know there is no love. DO NOT USE THE KIDS AS AN EXCUSE to stay in a shitty marriage.
What would divorce look like for your children? Would your son still be able to get appropriate care? I feel so sad that you feel trapped with someone who does not love you.
Greatest advice I ever heard in my life. ” Don’t get attached to something you couldn’t walk out on in 30 seconds.”
So what are you asking?
You are going through an awful time. I can imagine having to deal with a shit husband on top of the health issues with your son. My heart goes out to you.
You need counseling. Individual and marital. If you really want this to work you need to actually work through it not push it under the rug.
It sounds like your husband wants to rug sweep and you can’t rug sweep this kind of thing away. It will eat you alive. Personally, I would be gone. It doesn’t sound like you like or love your husband anymore. Sounds like you’re with him for your sons. Take some time and think about how you want the next 5, 10, 15, 20 years of your life to look like. Don’t let him imagine this away. What he did was terrible and he needs to work to rebuild your trust.
This is not a happy home. You are not doing your kids any favors. This is a toxic environment at this point. Your Gianna’s is abusing you. He’s having an emotional affair and that isn’t going to end. He has feelings for his ex. It does not matter that she cheated on him. He wants her back now. Show your kids what self-respect is and divorce him. You do not need to take full custody if he’s a good father to his kids. They will still have their dad in their life, but you need to take care of yourself and don’t allow this treatment. If you absolutely don’t want to leave, you both must go to marriage counseling and individual counseling. He needs to completely cut off his ex, allow an open phone and computer policy. He cannot delete or hide anything including emails, messages, photos. He needs to put in 💯 effort into rebuilding trust. If he’s not going to do this, this marriage is doomed. He’s going to resent you for keeping him from communicating with his ex. Resentment is like a weed. If it’s not removed from the roots, it’ll just keep growing until it consumes and destroys everything around it. Unless he’s all in, this won’t work. Your kids will see it and likely blame themselves. They don’t do well in a toxic home. Don’t compare your marriage to your sister’s. It’s not the same marriage but it can be just as bad.
You’re never going to have any peace as long as you’re with him. Trust is broken and he doesn’t care to rebuild it. You deserve better.
If your marriage is going to be a marriage, you need couples counseling. You need to be blunt about all of the above and the differences between how he treated you compared to her. He needs to be all in or all out.
How can we help you, OP?