#CareerAdvice #FindingYourPassion #LifeChoices
Have you ever noticed that whenever you talk to someone about their chosen career path, they seem to try to deter you from pursuing the same path? It’s like they want to keep their profession a secret club that nobody else is allowed to join. But why is that? 🤔
Well, the truth is, there are a number of reasons why people may discourage others from following in their footsteps. Let’s explore some of the reasons behind this behavior and how you can navigate through the noise to find your own path.
##The Misery Loves Company Mentality
###1. Burnout and Stress
Many people in demanding professions, such as the military, nursing, and trades, may feel overworked and stressed out. As a result, they may feel compelled to warn others against entering those fields in order to spare them from experiencing the same level of burnout and stress.
###2. Low Job Satisfaction
Some individuals may be dissatisfied with their careers and believe that by discouraging others from entering the same field, they are actually doing them a favor. They may believe that they are preventing others from making the same mistake they did.
###3. Fear of Competition
In some cases, people may discourage others from pursuing their profession out of fear of increased competition. They may worry that more people entering the field will lead to decreased job opportunities and lower wages.
##Finding Your Own Path
The reality is, everyone’s experience in a particular career field is unique. Just because someone else had a negative experience doesn’t mean that you will as well. It’s important to consider the following factors when making your career choices:
– Self-Reflection: Take the time to assess your own interests, skills, and values. What do you enjoy doing? What are you good at? What kind of work environment suits you best?
– Research: Look into different career options and gather as much information as possible. Speak to people in the field, research job prospects, and consider the potential for growth and advancement.
– Internships and Job Shadowing: Gain hands-on experience in the fields you’re considering. Internships and job shadowing opportunities can provide valuable insights into the day-to-day realities of a particular job.
###Seeking Guidance
If you’re feeling lost and unsure about your future career path, seeking guidance from a career counselor or mentor can be immensely helpful. A professional can help you identify your strengths and interests, explore different career options, and create a plan to achieve your goals.
##Embracing Uncertainty
It’s completely normal to feel scared and uncertain about the future, especially when it comes to making significant life choices. Remember, it’s okay to not have everything figured out right now. Take your time to explore different paths and don’t be afraid to change course if something doesn’t feel right.
##Conclusion
In conclusion, while it’s natural to seek advice from others, it’s important to remember that everyone’s experience is different. Don’t let the discouragement of others dictate your choices. Take the time to explore your interests, seek guidance, and don’t be afraid to carve out your own unique path. The key is to find something that brings you joy and fulfillment, regardless of what others may say. Good luck on your journey! 🌟
“Does everything suck this much”
Yes… Yes it does! lol.
I would take a nursing job over a trade anyway, but all of them you mentioned are heavily over worked. Trades just have horrible conditions, poisons and the most damage to your body. pay doesn’t reflect the work you do…. Military is never ending hours. Nursing is good conditions and pay but overworked.
But yeah.. everything sucks the longer you do it. Im 35 and still dont know what to do… My nanna at 90 said she went through her whole life not knowing what to do. You just do what you gotta do to make ends meet. Then you die…
Tbh I think a LOT of people just genuinely love to complain it’s VERY cathartic. People also really like to establish that they are the ones with a bad lot in life. It feels good to commiserate. Also I kind of look at all these online forums as places for venting and support rather than an objective assessment.
A lot of these paths are hard, sure, but idk every path is hard. Life is hard. Some people for them personally really hate what they do, and it’s not a match for them personally.
I’m a nurse and I 100% try to convince every single person I know who doesn’t have a good path to go this route. It’s not my passion in life or anything but it has lifted me out of poverty and given me a great work/life balance. I work 3 days a week and can comfortably pay all my bills, including having a stay at home spouse. I have so much flexibility in what further path I can go on. I have so many options for so many specialties if I get bored or what to try something new.
I loved my time in the military, but i was a peacetime volunteer, even if i was airborne infantry. Don’t go Infantry. Make the government train you on something valuable.
I liked my time in the trades. I learned a lot, met a lot of good people. worked with some real assholes.
None of it is always good or bad. i have had shit leaders and shit followers everywhere. most of life is about what you put into it. ignore the bullshit and stay on a path you choose, and behave accordingly to the moment in a show of character you choose.
And probably ask fewer peoples opinions, and make your own choices about the life in front of you.
I work in aviation, love it. Is it great for everyone? Definitely not.
But if you enjoy traveling, seeing new places, and working with fun equipment it’s pretty awesome….
People generally are more vocal about negative things. Negative emotions are more likely to motivate people. It’s the reason you are more likely to go out of your way and leave a bad review on a restaurant or something before you would go out of your way and leave a good review .
Odds are you are hearing all the people badmouthing because they are the loudest but I’m sure if you dig a bit you’ll find plenty of people who enjoy what they do but just aren’t being loud about it.
Yeah don’t depend on this for advice on what u should really do.
I’ve only been doing it for 2 months but I’ll go
OTR TRUCKING! TRY IT (if lifestyle permits)
My wife is a nurse. There are a lot of downsides. You’re overworked, overwhelmed, sometimes doing very nasty things, all this for long 12 hour shifts. But the positives overwhelmingly outweigh the negatives. She’s paid good. And she has more opportunities than 75% of other professions out there. She could decide one day she wants to live in New York or Florida, accept a contract there and they pay for her housing to work there for x amount of time.
Now you’d have to do two years of nursing school, and get another two years under your belt, but that’s it. Once you’re a nurse with some experience, you have one of the most marketable skills in the US.
Lol, so true.. everyone thinks their life would have been better if they had done something different I guess.
Everyone is jaded by their own experience. The truth is, no job where you work for someone else is truly fulfilling and everyone thinks they would be happier doing something else.
A pretty good job is aerospace builder. I’m 24 and I switched from machine building for the automotive industry to aerospace and it’s a huge difference. Cleaner, less stress on speed, more focus on quality, much better pay, and I travel if I want to. It’s a trade that requires machinist level precision but so worth it. Especially in the next decade, 90% of aerospace builders are gonna be retired. The perfect time to soak in all their knowledge and become very valuable. People in aerospace used to wear suits even though it’s a job where you’re grinding and stuff. Pretty soon if you become good in aerospace you’ll be able to demand 60+ an hour.
Because when you’re doing some shit everyday, the glamor wears off and you see the flaws with it. For the record, the military is a great choice if you have a PLAN. Nursing is a great choice if you have a PLAN. College is a great choice if you have a PLAN. The key theme of all the negativity is that if you go in with eyes open, you can avoid the pitfalls. Most people get stuck because they don’t have a plan when they jump headfirst into something. That usually makes the pain suck more.
Maybe the people who tend to answer their question focus on extremes. Such as the worst things about a job or the best things about a job. You’re not going to really hear that much about the normal mid-type stuff. And since most people have jobs and seem to do okay in them, the midst of is probably what’s really happening in most cases.
It’s important to listen to why people don’t like these fields and make decisions accordingly. I started in the trades and left because I had to wait up at 4-5am every day and travel to a job site or lube on the road. I initially went to school for X-ray but did another year of school for radiation therapy because every level X-ray jobs were all shitty hours. Now I’m in medical dosimetry and the pay and schedule are great but I don’t recommend it for anyone young because the job will likely be automated away as AI improves. I think I’ll have a job for the rest of my lifetime but I’m not so sure about the next generation.
I know a lot of nurses and in many cases the jobs have shitty hours and burnout is high. However there are specialties like mine where hours are mostly 9-5 Mon through Fri.
Many people just have shitty problem solving skills. A friend of mine was a nurse in neuro and it was very stressful instead of transitioning to another specialty he got out of nursing and went back to school for graphic design and advertising. He seemed happy but that isn’t an option everyone could have taken. Transitioning to another specialty is something that would have been easier. To each their own though.
For the same reason parents deter children from touching a hot stove.
Just goes to show you grass is never greener on the other side, but greener where you water it. In other words, every job sucks bc its a job make the most of it
Working just sucks dude. You gotta pick something and hopefully it’s not unbearable
Because it all sucks. I’ve worked in a factory, in the bush as a natural scientist, on an industrial construction site as an apprentice millwright, and now in an office programming. It all fucking sucks in its own way.
The only advice you should be listening to is going into something that makes you a shit ton of money so you can live like a vagrant for ten years while saving and then retire early on $40-50k a year while you fill your days reading books, painting, or napping on a beach somewhere.
If you don’t want that, then do something that you can reasonably expect to start your own business in and make a living that way. You can fire a client but you can’t fire a boss.
The crab bucket mentality (fishermen put crabs in a bucket with no lid. If on tries to escape others with grab it back down)
If you’re made aware of the downsides and still have enough passion / interest to go for it, that’s a good sign.
People complain. No matter what. No matter how good we make it, they will find something that they don’t like, and tell you all about it. It’s just human nature.
It’s probably why things keep improving, if we never complained we’d still be in the forests like this is fine. Why bulid a house that’s a lot of work. This is fine. But it wasn’t fine, and we keep doing that… who knows when we’ll finally get “there” and have nothing left to complain about. I doubt it’ll ever happen. Even if there’s a heaven and it’s perfect, people will likely be like, this is too perfect, I don’t like it, can I go back?
I strongly believe this is because any new industry or current one but the point is tech for example started declining the moment it peaked like every other career. There is a short window for these things but those on the inside can generally tell when they peak is and are trying to get across a similar message. Find something new, something we can’t tell you because it’s new. Sure there will always need to be some level of accountants but computers have been lowering that threshold more and more every year but before it was a problem no one had an accountant etc.
Well the military sucks and nursing is pretty stressful especially since the pandemic. Still there are people who love being in the military and people who love being nurses.
It’s actually pretty fun working in the trades but it destroys your body over time so I wouldn’t recommend it unless you have a really tough injury resistant body.
Anyways every profession is gonna have people who love and hate it. It’s more about finding the one that is compatible with you.
Why do you say “everyone” Like you’ve never heard someone recommends something before 🤦🏻♂️ get off the internet and talk to people
There’s sucky parts to any job. (no job is perfect). As many people have jokingly quipped:.. “If it was “Fun”,. they wouldn’t call it “Work”.
The trick is:
* Looking for ways to automate or reduce the “stuff you don’t like” (because if you don’t like it,. probably your coworkers don’t like it either)
* Remember there’s ‘stuff you can control” and “stuff you can’t control”.. there’s no use worrying about the “stuff you can’t control”.
Job-satisfaction varies from job to job. Someone standing on an assembly-line doing the same repetitive task for 8 hours a day.. is probably going to feel pretty worthless. Take that same person and put them into a job say “Helping kids in after-school programs”.. and there’s a lot more potential there for satisfaction and growth and “a feeling of fulfillment”.
There’s plenty of jobs out there. I’m honestly not sure where people get this weird idea from that “the only option is to work for soulless corporations”. That’s absolutely NOT the “only option”.
The trades are good. Will be better as more and more people don’t like using their hands
I would say stay away from something if the return on investment is bad because inflation will always be there
Can the military be profitable, yes, as long as you stay out of trouble and last until retirement or honorable discharge. Some people get injured and probably feel that what that sacrificed wasn’t worth it.
Is college beneficial, yes, but some schools are overpriced. People are more concerned about the experience and partying than gaining marketable skills. Now, they are stuck with lots of debt because they were sold a dream that they didn’t particularly want.
Do what you want but whatever you choose stay away from the pitfalls as best as you can. If you go to college choose a degree that is marketable and go to a cheap instate school. You can get a trade like in HVAC, plumbing, electrical. You can get a job doing assembly work
If it makes you feel better I love what I do and would recommend it to anyone. I work in Data Centers.
At times even the people that are doing what they love are frustrated with aspects of their job. I sell premium mangoes in the summer as a hobby I have 45 trees and love it. But when I talk with the professional mango growers that have 450 to 1000 trees they love it but at time are frustrated with aspects of the career. I think also when you do something for yourself it’s more rewarding.
I will use nursing as an example it is usually a time consuming 4 + year degree if you get in immediately but the majority of people quit within 1-3 years wasting all that effort and money. It is perfectly normal to get physically attacked or have people threaten you try to degrade or be set up for failure. Some people can handle it come can not. Over time it also takes a huge toll on many people bodies too. It has some percs but people need to go in with open eyes if they want to last. I was warned by hundreds of nurses before I graduated too. I moved to a place where they paid and treated nurses much better so it wasn’t all in vain.