#TrustInRelationships #LongDistanceLove #CommunicationIsKey
If your fiancé is refusing to disclose where he lives and where he works, it’s understandable to feel concerned. Transparency and open communication are crucial in any relationship, especially when you are planning to spend your life with someone. While it’s important to trust your partner, it’s also important to ensure that there are no red flags that could potentially harm the relationship in the long run.
Here are some considerations to keep in mind as you navigate this situation:
1. **Trust your instincts**: If something doesn’t feel right, it’s important to address your concerns with your fiancé. Your gut feeling is often a reliable guide in relationships.
2. **Have an open and honest conversation**: Sit down with your fiancé and express your feelings about not knowing where he lives and works. Explain why it’s important for you to have this information and listen to his reasons for keeping it private.
3. **Consider his perspective**: While it’s natural to feel hurt and worried, try to understand where your fiancé is coming from. He may have legitimate reasons for wanting to keep certain aspects of his life private.
4. **Seek advice from trusted friends or family**: Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights into the situation. Talk to people who know you well and can offer unbiased advice.
5. **Evaluate the overall relationship**: Reflect on your fiancé’s behavior and how he treats you in other aspects of the relationship. Is he respectful, loving, and supportive? Does he make you happy and feel safe?
In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna teaches the importance of trust, honesty, and communication in relationships. Consider the following advice from the ancient text:
*”Among those who are wise, I am their very self; among those who maintain law and order, I am the law; among those who do the right things, I am the right action; and among those who follow the path of trust, I am also their trust.”*
Ultimately, your fiancé’s reluctance to share personal information could stem from a variety of reasons, and it’s crucial to address these concerns openly and honestly. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship, and it’s important to ensure that both partners feel secure and valued in the partnership.
If you feel that your fiancé’s behavior is causing you significant distress or if you’re not comfortable moving forward without this information, it may be helpful to seek couples counseling or advice from a relationship therapist. Remember, your feelings and concerns are valid, and it’s essential to prioritize your emotional well-being in any relationship.
Above all, trust yourself and your intuition. Your happiness and peace of mind are paramount in any relationship, and it’s important to address any issues that may be causing you distress. Communication, understanding, and mutual respect are key to building a strong and healthy relationship.
Er….don’t marry that guy, that’s really strange and dodgy
Yea you should be worried considering u r engaged to him and dont know basic information about him.
So many big red scary flags!! Do not marry hin, at this point hes basically a stranger
Huge red flag. He’s either cheating with you or something worse. Please don’t marry this guy before he explains why he’s done this. I’m honestly worried for you.
He’s a pimp
He’s married.
Yes. You should absolutely be worried. I can’t imagine any American man I know who has a true career hiding his address and income from his future wife. Seriously. Time to do a very deep dive on who and what he is.
Back in the day, I used to be a skip tracer. Want some websites where you can find all that information for yourself? A lot of stuff is a matter of public record here in the US…
Something’s very wrong here. Please reconsider the relationship.
He lives in his moms basement or he’s married and he works for McDonalds.
Come on, use your head here. There are many red flags to this situation…how do you not see that?
He’s not your fiancé, you’re not getting married.
How much money have you sent him?
This is like second date stuff
Nooooo honey. Hire a private investigator. He is married already.
And also this behavior is controlling.
Tell him no. Sorry
He has another family or a partner, and you are the side chick. I’m sorry.
That is very basic information you should know. He’s hiding something major (he’s married and lying about his job).
Very simply tell him you are canceling all plans (wedding/moving) and ending the relationship because he’s not being forthcoming.
I can’t even fathom dating someone this secretive let alone getting engaged or married to them.
Please wise up. This is not a good man, and if you marry him you will regret it. Don’t get lost in the sunk cost fallacy. Walk away now.
How could you be engaged to someone when they refuse to tell you the most basic information about them? How do you know anything he’s said is true when he’s hiding information that you’d normally find out within a few dates?
That’s sketchy af.
I’m guessing you also haven’t met any of his friends and family?
What about social media? Or does he conveniently not have social media either?
Did you try to do some reverse image search on his pictures?
He is either already married or he is broke, unemployed and living at home. If a friend came to you with this exact dilemma what would you say? Imagine whatelse his hiding from you? Kids? Debt?
“Assurances he’s not hiding something from you??!!??” Wow.
News flash: he is hiding everything. Other than his words and appearance, you apparently have zero factual information about this person.
Please, please, please walk away. This is so bad and wrong that even if he told you his address tomorrow, it is too late.
There is an extremely high likelihood that he is hiding so, so much, and you have shown him YOU WILL TOLERATE THIS. You are committing to a life of risk and uncertainty. And remember there is about a 99% chance he is showing you an act—it’s just too easy to keep up pretenses in LDRs that have little direct contact.
What is the very best case scenario? He truly does want to marry you but thinks you aren’t deserving of his personal information? He could be a passport bro-type, and that culture is pretty anti-women. He could also be a married, or a catfish. He could be a sex trafficker.
There is nothing good here. Block him and move on.
INFO: am I understanding that you’re planning to move in with him but don’t specially know where? That’s insane.
Let me guess… you’re not allowed to video call him out of the blue? He will set the time of the call, or be the one initiating?
Congrats. This is the most absurd question I’ve seen yet.
Possible upsides:none
Downside risks: every horrible thing you can’t imagine.
Run.