#CheatingFiance #CaughtCheating #RelationshipAdvice
Hashtag: #CheatingFiance
Emojis: 💔😢🔍
### I 21 F caught my 21 M fiancé Cheating a month before our wedding
Are you currently going through the heartbreaking experience of finding out that your fiancé has been cheating on you? You’re not alone. Discovering infidelity can shake the foundations of even the strongest relationships. Here are some steps you can take to navigate through this difficult time and make the best decision for yourself and your future.
#### Step 1: Process Your Emotions
1. Allow yourself to feel the range of emotions that come with discovering your partner’s betrayal – anger, sadness, confusion, and shock.
2. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member for emotional support. Talking about your feelings can help you gain clarity and perspective on the situation.
#### Step 2: Gather Information
1. Take some time to gather concrete evidence of your partner’s infidelity. Keep records of suspicious behavior, such as phone calls, messages, or financial transactions.
2. Consider talking to a professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can help you navigate through your emotions and provide guidance on how to move forward.
#### Step 3: Have a Conversation with Your Fiancé
1. When you feel ready, sit down with your partner and have an open and honest conversation about what you have discovered.
2. Express your feelings and concerns without blaming or accusing. Listen to your partner’s perspective and give them the opportunity to explain their actions.
#### Step 4: Evaluate Your Relationship and Future
1. Consider whether this incident is a deal-breaker for you. Think about whether you can rebuild trust in the relationship and move forward together.
2. Reflect on your own needs and priorities. Are you willing to work through this betrayal, or do you feel that it’s best to part ways?
#### Step 5: Seek Guidance from The Bhagavad Gita
1. In times of turmoil and uncertainty, seeking wisdom from ancient texts can provide valuable insights. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us about the importance of upholding righteousness and following the path that aligns with our true values.
2. Reflect on the teachings of The Bhagavad Gita and consider how they can guide you in making the best decision for your personal growth and well-being.
In conclusion, discovering that your fiancé has been cheating on you is a devastating experience that requires time, understanding, and self-reflection. Remember to prioritize your own emotional well-being and make decisions that align with your values and self-respect. Trust that with patience and introspection, you will find the strength to navigate through this difficult situation and emerge stronger on the other side.
100% call it off. He will continue to cheat. He’s not sorry, he didn’t feel guilt and confess, you had to catch him. Call any family and friends you can and get them to help you move out.
Well now you know what’s gonna happen if you marry him. Divorce would be a pain. Where should you go from here? To get your independence.
He isn’t marriage material
It is a 100% guarantee that if you marry this man he will keep doing this to you. He will never be faithful and whatever happiness you feel on your wedding day will be short lived. And whatever hardship you think you might have to endure braking off a month before the wedding date, will be 1,000 times easier than ending a marriage.
It will not be long from now that you will be back her, pregnant, having been freshly diagnosed with an STI such as chlamydia that your “Husband” got from a sex workers mouth, hurt and confused about what to do.
I know you love him but love isn’t enough.
It will hurt but not for long.
Just. End. It. Now!
Girly, please don’t do this to yourself. Don’t marry a man who cheats on you with escorts and treats you like this. You deserve more. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and is loyal to you. Getting married isn’t going to make him be loyal and it’s not going to fix what he’s done. Walk away.
Break up. No reason to be getting married at 21
Call it off and tell everyone why.. and then decide whether you can forgive him
But I wouldn’t.. just start by telling him your canceling the wedding and he can call his mom then and there and tell her exactly why or you will
Definite grounds for calling it off and cutting him off completely. Get your stuff in order and leave. Your fiancé is sleazy. It’s not too late to NOT ruin your life.
Ummmmm call off the wedding?
Was your other plan to reward his cheating with no consequences?
You haven’t gotten married yet and you found out that he was with an escort. You don’t know if he has cheated on you before. But I can assure you that he will cheat on you again if you continue with him. Never marry a cheater.You will regret it all your life.
Go straight to the store and by a big stack of ‘the wedding is off because he cheated, we will be returning all the gifts cards, and mail them to everyone
Then call every vendor and get back what you can, and loose what you must.
Become independent so you are not trapped in a bad situation,
You are currently in a bad situation.
Run!!!
You should go to the clinic and get an STD panel run.
Then you should go stay with a friend/family member.
Then you should start calling and cancelling all reservations related to the wedding and telling everyone it’s off.
I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt here: you’re in shock that this has happened and it’s hard to tell which way is up. For now, trust us that your future self will thank you for walking away from this doomed and one-sided relationship now. He’s not going to change, it’s only going to get messier and more painful to leave after you’re married or have more time invested.
Call it off. You’re too young to get married, your bf is scummy, it’s just all round a bad idea.
Don’t get married if he does this before he will do it during
Even if you didn’t find out about this my advice would be to not get married at 21.
Break up, move on, you are coming to the age most people date.
I also found my fiance cheating a month before we got married – it sucks now, but finding out now will truly be the best thing, as long as you actually leave and don’t take him back.
This is what your marriage will look like. Lies, cheating, and lots of STD tests. Call it off.
You’re 21 and he’s banging hookers.
Girl…
You know what you need to do. Come on now.
$200 that’s a low end one too.. not saying paying for high end makes it any better tho. He’s just sleeping with the bottom of the barrel escorts for $200 is what I’m saying.
Call it off..
Get tested. Lap dances aren’t $200. If he said a massage + HE for $200 I could see that for sure.
I know calling it off may be embarrassing, but have some self respect. He has a wedding coming up for crying out loud and this is how he’s behaving? Had you not caught him he’d of kept doing it.
Call it off, girl. It’s just gonna get worse when you’re married. I know it’s hard and you feel like you need him in your life but you dont. There are soooooo many out there who will treat you better. Lean on to your family and friends. Be grateful that you caught this early.
Ew no. Get rid of that thing.
Probably why getting married at 21 is not the greatest idea
There is no way he is just getting lap dances and got oral sex once from escorts!
Why would you even consider staying with him? He’s a cheater who is bad with money lol
I hope you work and can afford to leave. If you don’t, please find someone family/friend who will take you in while you get back on your feet. Don’t stay with him because of money.
It will never be worth what it does to you
Cheater
Break it off and work on your codependency. That’s a terrible reason to marry someone at your age.
This is a taste of what you’ll get from him. Forever. I’d get tested for STDs if I were you.
As a dude, this is just gross. Why even commit if this is what you’re gonna do?
STD tests stat.
A BJ once?
He thinks you’re stupid. Don’t be.
You’re 21. Why the fuck are you even getting married?
Break up and get your deposits back.
Call it off and go to a doctor to get an STI test. I’m gonna assume you want to have kids with “scumbag” He instead has been playing a game of hope I don’t get an std and give the girl who probably cleans his house and makes his meals a disease that can make her infertile or bankrupt bc I wanted a different piece of ass.
He won’t stop but he will be better at hiding it from you.
You’re 21 young and life has so many beautiful things to offer you. You will become either A. Become smaller and smaller version of yourself thinking if I do X he will still love me or you will become a (understandable) bitter paranoid shrew who tries to control all aspects of his life cuz he has shown he can’t be trusted to stay faithful to you.
If no one in your life has said this to you listen carefully- you deserve better than this and you will be stronger and happier when the right (faithful and honest) man comes into your life and treats you the way you deserve
Girl do not marry this boy! If he was willing to cheat, hide it, and STILL marry you… imagine what he’d continue to do while married. Absolutely not
My husband doesn’t even want to go to a strip club even if I go with him….. he’s just about to turn 24.
Please call off your wedding. This behavior isn’t going to change just because yall get married. He’s going to continue to do it.
Call it off. No reason to be getting married at 21 anyway but this definitely isn’t it! You deserve much better.
I will never understand why people want to get married so early, 21 is such a vulnerable stage in life. Nothing is decided yet and so much things are changing around you. You might like your partner now, but in reality you have no idea of what kind of adult they will become, and whether you are going to like this new version of them. If it’s the right person, what is it to wait a couple more years?
I’m sorry but it is a good thing you found out before the wedding what kind of trash he really is. Absolutely do cancel that wedding, you deserve better !
Take your time to enjoy life OP, make experiences (and no, I don’t mean having naked fun with just anyone lol 🙃), find out more about yourself and what you want.
I’m just here like wow ur getting married at 21.
I can tell you from experience that cheaters usually don’t stop cheating. They just get better at hiding it. Every time they get caught is a lesson to be learned. Not on how to be a better human, but in what mistakes to not make again.
I’m not saying that all cheaters will always continue to cheat. But the ones that stop cheating are the exception, not the rule.
End it now. Yeah, it’s going to hurt. It’s going to hurt a hell of a lot more to get a divorce, and even more so if you would have children. He’s shown you who he is. Believe the actions, not the words. Get an STI test, as well. The likelihood that what he’s told you (because you caught him) is the full truth is slim. I wish you well in life. This too shall pass.
No more wedding.
He only confessed because he got caught. A relationship based on lies and deception will eventually fall apart.
Thank your lucky stars this came out now and not married with 2 kids. I wouldn’t go through with it. The truth hurts but this is a relationship ender for sure.
Take the trash to curb