Should I cut off my verbally abusive boyfriend after he kicked me out of a hotel room? #abuse #relationshipadvice
Wondering if you made the right decision to end things with your partner after a troubling incident? Let’s delve into this situation to help you find some clarity on what to do next.
The Incident:
– Verbally abusive behavior from boyfriend
– Getting kicked out of a hotel room
Your Decision:
– Cutting him off from your life
Signs of Abuse:
– Verbal abuse is a form of emotional abuse
– Consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist
Moving Forward:
– Focus on self-care and healing
– Surround yourself with a support system
Remember, your safety and well-being should always come first. Trust your instincts and prioritize your happiness. #selfcare #mentalhealth.
You did the right thing. I am however wondering why you would even consider reading his emails though. What would you ever want to know what he has to say. Are you not done with him?
Lose*. Break up with him
Holy shit fuck, OP. That sounds horrifying, and I’m terribly sorry to hear you went through that. No person deserves to be treated the way he hurt you.
>I am done, I said it that night in the hotel room and my mind is made.
Okay.
>Now, am I unreasonable to cut him out my my life since he never before showed signs of abuse
You can leave a relationship for any reason, OP. Even if he never acted like this before, if you don’t feel like you can trust him not to act this way again, you don’t have to go back to him.
>My little one is quite attached to him and it breaks my heart I made a bad decision
I can understand where you’re coming from, but I’m also worried about the possibility that he’ll act like this again in front of your little one. Or worse, physically harm your child the way he hurt you.
Are there people in your life who you know and trust to talk to about this? Because having social support from people who share your values and interests could help you gain some perspective, and help you figure out next steps.
Please send his emails to junk. Cause that’s what he is. He not only verbally abused you. He was physically abusive with you when he shoved you back. Use your support system and cut all ties with that toxic man for your and your littles safety.
He is not a safe space for you & your child.
Tell him to leave you alone. The blocking & then reaching out to people in teens it’s one thing. In adults, it’s the kind of immaturity you don’t need.
& you shouldn’t have refunded him for the ticket!
Always cut off someone when their mask slips and they show you who they truly are.
>I have blocked him everywhere but he e-mailed me and ever since he is. Saying all the right things of how we can emerge stronger from all this.
Hoovering, plain and simple. Stick to your guns and have nothing to do with him ever again.
Block his emails.
Yes, don’t go back!
Please read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft.
https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
CUT AND RUN RUN RUN….NOW. block him from everywhere and don’t look back.
Protect your child.
You don’t need a boyfriend but your child needs a safe home.
Leave him behind. He’s no good. It will not get better. Take care of you and your daughter. Best to you.
Never ever accept emotional and verbal abuse. You don’t deserve it.
Move on. Never look back. Keep moving forward
You did the right thing. He showed you exactly who he is. Believe him.
JFC keep him blocked. He went insane and showed you his true self. The boyfriend that you thought you had… was an act.
Widows are particularly vulnerable to predators. If you had a good husband, it’s easy to assume that all men will be good to you. It’s more difficult for you to identify their red flags due to their tricks.
Of course you are right.
Remaining sends him the message you’ll accept anything. Move on. Alone is better than abused.
A good man would never do that even once. No matter what. That’s not what someone who loves you would do.
He did it because that is part of who he is. It is what he is capable of and willing to do to you.
Would your child still adore him if they witnessed that? Are you comfortable with your child thinking that someone who loves you (someone who loves them) can act like that?
Think back to that hotel room. Place yourself in that room with him and remember how terrified you were. That’s who he really is.
NTA, before you even consider taking him back, please remember that this came very close to him physically abusing you. If you allow him in your life, he will one day end up hitting you and/or your child. Please do not take him back, do not talk to him. If you need to get a restraining order, do so