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Hey there! 🌟 Let’s talk about the situation you’re facing with your husband. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time and feeling disappointed by his lack of support during your important operation. Here are some insights and actionable steps to consider moving forward:
### Understanding Your Emotions
It’s completely valid to feel upset and disappointed in this situation. Your feelings are important, and it’s okay to express them to your husband. Communication is key in any relationship, so try to have an open and honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling.
### Assessing the Situation
Reflect on your husband’s behavior and try to understand his perspective. It’s possible that he may have had other commitments or reasons for not being present during your operation. However, it’s essential to express your feelings and discuss how his actions have impacted you.
### Building Trust and Support
Trust is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. If you’re struggling to rely on your husband for support, it’s crucial to address this issue together. Consider couples therapy as a way to improve communication and rebuild trust in your marriage.
### Moving Forward
As you navigate through this challenging situation, remember to prioritize self-care and your well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can provide comfort and understanding during this time.
### Seeking Professional Guidance
If you find it challenging to communicate with your husband or resolve the issue on your own, consider seeking professional guidance from a therapist or counselor. They can offer valuable insights and tools to help strengthen your relationship.
Remember, it’s okay to set boundaries and take care of yourself first. Your feelings are valid, and it’s essential to address them in a healthy and constructive manner. Keep the lines of communication open with your husband and work together towards building a stronger and more supportive relationship. 🌺
Hope this helps, and best of luck on your journey towards healing and growth!
What are the chances that his lack of support is because of the nature of the surgery? Men tend to see **BOOOOOBS** and valuing the size without realizing that there’s more to it for the women who have to carry them around day after day.
My bet is that his not being in town is his passive aggressive response to smaller breasts.
He didn’t forget, he just didn’t care. Your mom was taking care of you, so why should he bother?
I don’t know if you have children or not but does your husband even like you? It seems insane that a person who is supposed to love you would abandon you during and after major surgery. Without so much as a phone call over several days! I would hire a PI to see if he is having an affair. I’m so sorry that you are alone after your surgery. I would honestly reconsider my relationship.
your husband sexualises you and your breasts. he cant handle the fact that you’re autonomous and made the decision to reduce your boobs. i cant speak too much on him as i dont know him but its a very weird reaction. very concerning. whether he was happy about it or not, he should’ve been by your side every step of the way.
So, who drove you home from your surgery?
Jesus a reduction is a big surgery that you should have support at home after. This is truly odd thing to do with somebody you love…..unless you maybe dont love them any more. There would be some serious conversations over this for me. This is potential breaker.
I wonder if he didn’t forget at all, but did it on purpose do he didn’t have to worry about caring for you during your healing period from a very serious operation. It’s unimaginable insensitive to pull something like this.
Are you kidding me? Your husband didn’t speak to you for DAYS after you had SURGERY? He had to be “reminded” by your mother?
I honestly don’t think he forget, OP. I think the trip was intentional, I think ignoring you was intentional. He didn’t forget, he was punishing you.
He used to say he’d pay for you to get this, to help you. Yet he didn’t do that, right? Why? He didn’t want you to get the surgery. All of this is just screaming he didn’t want you to get a breast reduction.
I think you should be a lot more than disappointed. I think you should be furious and questioning the character of your husband.
I can’t speak for you, but this would be a deal breaker for me.
I can’t even imagine my husband being so thoughtless and uncaring.
This is a big deal that your husband wasn’t present for a medical procedure like this that requires pretty significant recovery. Was he not on board with the reduction (not that it’s his body, but it would explain his behavior)?
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My husband has been with me for each surgery. Even one where I was in a rehabilitation hospital- half- crazed, bedridden and lost hope( not a fun person to be around). I can’t imagine him or any loving husband who would not be by your side or cut the hometown boy trip short! I think you need to go to counseling. Find yourself! I don’t think this is the man you envision as a definition of a loving husband. You deserve so much better. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m sorry, you had a MEDICAL PROCEDURE and he FORGOT about it? Is he well? Like, sir your wife wend under and you FORGOT about it? Bro needs “Come to Jesus” convo, because this is pure shait on his part. Like breast reduction is a serious procedure and shait loads of things can go wrong during. I would be VERY and I mean VERY disappointed with him and I would also be VERY VOCAL about that disappointment. Also I would go through his phone and social media – for good measure.
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Why did he schedule a trip the week of your surgery? Why wasn’t he keeping in touch every day? I agree with the other responses that assume thoughtlessness is his normal state.
This kind of behavior doesn’t just pop up out of nowhere. Chances are, he’s been like this for a while, maybe even years, and you let it slide. So, now he thinks it’s fine. You have to ask for what you want and communicate your needs and expectations. If he does something inconsiderate or dismissive of your feelings, you cannot let it slide. People often do that because they want to keep the peace or not rock the boat. But, what happens is your needs go unmet, and you end up married to a guy who isn’t there when you need him and doesn’t prioritize you.