Are you wondering if I was wrong for confronting my best friend in front of our friend group about her hurtful behavior towards me? #FriendshipDrama #BestFriends #PeerPressure
## The Situation:
– My friend Madeline has been making hurtful comments about me in front of our friends.
– She tried to pressure me into taking drugs at a party and publicly embarrassed me when I refused.
– I distanced myself from her for 2 months but she continued to criticize me in front of everyone.
## The Confrontation:
– Fed up with her behavior, I finally stood up to her at school and called her out on everything.
– I expressed my feelings honestly, pointing out her destructive behavior and its impact on both of us.
– Now, our friend group seems to be against me for speaking up.
## The Question:
– Was I wrong for standing up to my friend, or was I justified in voicing my opinion?
– Have you ever had to confront a friend for their hurtful behavior? Tell me your thoughts!
Let’s discuss! #FriendshipDrama #Confrontation #VoiceYourOpinion
NTA. That whole group sucks, and your friend along with them. Find new friends.
NTA
you were justified
NTA
You know there is a bonus to being a black sheep. You don’t follow like the rest of the flock. There not your friends you need new friends
Ugh. This person isn’t your friend.
NTA. find new friends who appreciate you for you, no ones perfect but even a goldfish would be a better friend for you than any of this group.
NTA. I had a friend a bit like that. It knocked my confidence for a while but after freeing myself of them I felt so much better.
NTA- sounds like your friend may be going through something that has absolutely nothing to do with you and sees you living your life peacefully and I’m assuming somewhat happily and became jealous which is why she’s dragging you down. You are more than right for standing up for yourself, you would absolutely be in the right for never speaking to her or your friend group again as they also seem kinda shitty. You also wouldn’t be in the wrong if you pulled her aside alone one day and asked if she was okay, or what was going on that was making her want to make all these decisions that will negatively impact her future. Perhaps she’s going through a mental health crisis and this is the only way she knows how to ask for help… personally, that’s exactly what I did minus the verbal abuse of my friends, had a single one of them asked me if I was okay, what was going on, if I needed help etc, it may have saved me from a lot of trouble.
Your friend is going to have to face the consequences of her actions sooner or later, both the being a shitty friend as well as the skipping school and doing drugs. She will eventually look at the people around her realize they are all inappropriately older men that just wanna stick their dicks in something young and “fresh” and as for drugs, I know from experience that it’s not if you get caught, but when.
Nta that group is just using you as the “token loser” they can pick on to make themselves feel better. Make new friends outside of your school, thatcgirl is not your best friend. I know it may be tough, but you are obviously more mature than they are and it must be exhaustive to dumb-down to be part of that group anyway. Start volunteering in areas you are interested in and make new friends with more like minded people. Your personal style is your style, if others criticize its usually because they are too chicken shit to express themselves.
NTA, maybe something bad is going on in your ex friends life, but that doesn’t mean that you have to suffer by her or any other ones hands.
If she is actively bullying you and no one of your friend group is doing anything against it, then you have the right to call them all out.
NTA and it was really releaving be satisfying reading this somehow. Cathartic.
I am so freaking proud of you for standing up for yourself!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
NTA. She isn’t your friend. You deserve much better.
NTA. I‘m proud of you for standing up for yourself in front of the whole group!
NTA, and you are so brave. You stood up for yourself, that’s not easy OP.
NTA. She deserved that telling off and if your mutual friend-group have just been sitting by and letting her tear you apart, they deserve some of it too.
Congratulations, you were walking with the losers and now you’re not. You’re free to succeed. NTA.
Op word it like a champ. I’m proud of you.
Nta btw
I’m proud of you for sticking up for yourself.
The lot of them suck. They weren’t your friends.
NTA – Your friend is throwing her life away gradually, step by step. It’s not easy to make new friends in high school but if you have another group of friends, you should hang out with them more, the people your hanging out with sound like they don’t have anything in common with you. They want to drink, look pretty and focus on boys, stick to your path, many people would have just taken the drugs to be cool. You’ll be in Uni soon and trust me there will be so many new people around, that you won’t even remember her.
NTA and honestly proud of you for standing up for yourself like that. It’s fucking hard to speak up for yourself especially to people who’s opinion you value or that you are close with. You absolutely deserve better and it’s awesome that you made that clear to them.
NTA
Completely NTA (they are all AH) and you’re right. The whole group is trash and I would seek out new friends who will treat you better. Let them continue to drive themselves off a cliff with their behavior. It might be hard at the beginning but in a few years, you’ll be glad that you stayed away from them
NTA. You were right to call her out. I would also consider telling on her about the drug use. She isn’t going to speak to you again anyway, you might as well help her be a better person for her future friends.
NTA, you should not feel bad that the whole group hates you, because fuck that whole table.
NTA this was very enlightening to me tho . I’m 19nb and I’m kinda like you, most of my friends have problems and do some sort of substance (most weed, or drink) but I’m the only one who doesn’t use substances. I say this enlightened me bc I didn’t even know peer pressure like this was even real. For me I’d say “oh I’ve never done that” my friend, who’d be let’s say smoking weed or smthing, would go “do you want to try?” I’d say “no” and then we move on from the topic. These are friends bc they’re not there to push my boundaries and make me do things I don’t want to do. Your friends aren’t friends and if they cared about you in any capacity they wouldn’t push you towards the bad life decisions they’re making
NTA – it takes guts at your young age to do that and I hope you find a new friend group. This sounds like BS when you are 16 but I literally have one close friend from that age and even that friendship has been closer at times and more distant at others because life changes. This feels gross in the first 5 minutes, maybe 5 weeks, less in 5 month and in 5 years they won’t mean anything to you anymore. That is how you judge the severity of it all. The way that girl is talking about you screams of deep anger, insecurity and jealousy. You go do you in this world, you will be better off.
NTA. I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with this. I had a similar experience as a tween, except it was my entire class. They would insult me about my skin color (I’m dark skinned), and my hair ( it’s always been longer than most of my counterparts). One day at lunch, I’d had enough, so I told the entire table off and told them I wouldn’t be sitting with them for the rest of the year. That put everyone on notice that I had a shiny new spine, and not to fuck with me anymore. It worked, and more importantly, I learned to defend myself against bullies and assholes.
I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself. You deserve to have actual friends. You don’t deserve to be around people who feel entitled to making you miserable. That is why they are calling you an asshole. They got a taste of their own medicine, except you only delivered a dose of truth.