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Question: Am I Wrong for Ending Things With Her?
As a 40-year-old man, I recently made the tough decision to end my relationship with my 44-year-old girlfriend. I can’t help but wonder if I made the right choice. Here are some key factors to consider when deciding if calling it quits was the right decision:
Age Difference:
– How did the age gap affect the relationship dynamics?
– Was the age difference a factor in the breakup decision?
Communication:
– Did you both have open and honest communication?
– Were there unresolved issues that led to the breakup?
Compatibility:
– Did you share similar values, goals, and interests?
– Were there fundamental differences that couldn’t be reconciled?
Ultimately, it’s important to reflect on the reasons behind the breakup and whether it was the best decision for both parties involved. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your own happiness and well-being.
What are your thoughts? Have you been in a similar situation? Feel free to share your experiences and insights in the comments below. Let’s support each other through these challenging times. #Relationships #BreakupSupport
You took your son to a medical appointment.
Self centred is her. There is no nurturing or compassion. You dodged a bullet.
You legit took your kid to a medical appointment and she’s bitchingg about a plan! For Christ sakes please move on 🙂
>Shes a sweet woman
You took your son to a medical appointment and got verbal abuse for it. She is not a sweet woman. You were completely right to break things off.
Don’t apologize to her. She’s obnoxious and self centered. You have responsibilities as a dad and she thinks she should come first then bend over backwards to appease her. If she acts like this early on she’s probably only going to get more obnoxious over time. Move on.
Wow. That’s a lot. I’m glad you left now because that behavior gets worse.
Note: None of those things are legitimate. That is just whining.
Jesus Christ dude that’s weird. I mean that’s fully just like she did not like you, I don’t understand why she was dating you. Stay gone, and try not to let this deeply fucking weird experience colour your next foray into dating
Wait…. you kept her informed of what was going on the whole time, and she was still irritated that you didn’t ask if she had eaten?
You told her you were going to eat with your son. By that time, she should know to get her dinner somewhere else. She’s a grown-ass 44 year old woman, she can manage to get her own food.
Then to barrage you with all that BS about you being obnoxious and self-centered? Not opening doors for her, not doting on her while she shopped, not standing beside her while she was paying for stuff? She wants a man-servant, not a partner.
Yeah, you dodged a bullet here. Only mistake you made was apologizing. You did nothing wrong.
You *hand* wrote her a letter? I don’t care if you typed it actually, that’s so sweet. Granted, to call it off – but that’s really sweet (I’m 37).
Dating over 30 is weird. Rather than having baggage, we are the baggage. You made a relationship work for 17 years. That’s no small feat, so don’t feel like you don’t deserve to be out there trying if that is what you want to do. It sounds like her issues were minor – I wouldn’t consider them legitimate but whatever, people are entitled to want what they want.
That said she sounds wicked young. Obviously your son will be a priority and you can’t control a stupid amount of wait time on an appointment. You made a plan assuming the appointment would take a reasonable amount of time. I think she’s the self centered one. If she thought you were a dope for standing in front of her on an escalator it’s simple for her to say, “I’d prefer you stand behind me because <insert reason I don’t understand here>” Anything she listed would have been easily addressed in the moment. No one wants someone who lets small stuff boil over into something bigger.
Sounds like she’s a head case tbf. You did the right thing calling it off, and I like how you did it respectfully. Telling you about how other men treated her well when they are an ex makes no sense. They couldn’t be that good if the relationship failed, or like you, they saw she’s a head case and dumped her.
You’d be wrong if you put up with that. Your son’s medical needs comes before any dates. She’s not sweet if she can throw a tantrum that bad about something outside of your control.
When I got back into the dating game around your age, I put up with this kind of shit too much at first. Later on it dawned on me that life was too short to deal with people who made my life harder than it need be. After that, dropping people like this became easier and I that lead me to a very kind and loving partner. I married her.
Yes. You did the right thing. And be doing it early on, you are keeping your life clear of drama and open for the right one to come along.
Op, you did the right thing, instead of speaking and communicating what she wanted she wants you to be a mind reader.
Otherwise I think you sound like a great date.
Sounds like there’s a legit reason she’s single at 44.
For advice to avoid women like her in the future, look for someone who’s interested in being a true partner. Not the center of your entire universe.
You got out of a marriage to deal with someone like her, I’ll pass.
Sounds like you got lucky and only had to deal with her for 2 months. Too many women don’t know their worth, but she’s the opposite. She clearly thinks that she is the most important person to exist, even above your own child.
Now with that out of the way, her complaints were about things so small and trivial but if we want to get technical, it’s most appropriate for a man to put himself closer to danger. Meaning that when you’re walking, you walk on the side closest to the road or where cars are passing. On an escalator if you are going up, you stand behind her, because that’s the direction she’s most likely to fall and get hurt. If the escalator is going down, you stand in front of her, for the same reason. I think the road thing is a good rule to follow, but an escalator seems like it’s just taking it too far lol. Also we are really past the days where a man needs to get out of the car and open the door, but if you are both walking to the car, it’s certainly polite to open the door for her. As far as not staying with her in a store. My husband does this to me and it drives me nuts (one of the very few things he does like this) but he will just walk off in front of me. If you at least tell her, “hey I’m going to check out the books” or whatever then that shouldn’t be a problem. As far as not standing with her while she’s paying, I would need a specific example but I’m imaging it like my husband does. I’m paying and by the time I put my wallet away he’s halfway out the door and on his way to the car. Drives me bonkers lol.
I could understand her side if she had communicated to you beforehand that these things bothered her and allowed you to correct your behaviour but she waited and then unloaded on you when she was upset about the cancelled meeting. That’s not cool and I’m glad you ended it. She sounds toxic.
You dodged the bullet. She sounds self-centered, needy, and a bit of a user.
A GOOD, kind person would be concerned about how your son was doing, offering to drop off dinner since you were at the doctor’s late, or giving you space to unwind and share your day.
You on the other hand, sound like a gem. And you deserve the same level of reciprocation and care that you have to offer others.
Can I set you up with some of my girlfriends? 😆
This woman is insane. You are much better off without having her in your life. It’s a good thing she showed you her true colours after two months rather than two years.
She just sh*t tested you. You passed.
Watch, in less than two weeks she’ll comeback asking if you want to retry this again.
Nah bullet dodged definitely
NTA. She’s 44 and still plays mind games. Get away from her.
I’m almost 44, and while I’m not single, I would not be complaining if my romantic interest didn’t ask me if I had eaten. I’m a grown ass woman capable of taking care of myself. There’s a reason she’s single. You did not deserve that. Also going forward with dating, maybe take it a bit slower. Also ask for feedback or suggestions for places to meet. I know a lot of women may not speak up initially because of societal bullshit, but it should be a give and take between both parties. I wish you the best and don’t be hard on yourself. Dating is not easy.
Dodged a bullet there buddy..! NTA
> apologising for my ‘obnoxious’ behavior
This is where you went wrong.
Other than that, you did nothing wrong. You dodged a bullet.
The level of entitlement for the modern women is wild
She is not a sweet woman that’s bs. She’s a ticking time bomb you dodged.
She was projecting. You made a wise decision.
She treated you like a toddler and put you in time out. Byeeeee!
It’s been two months. There’s no shame in breaking up with someone that early in the relationship when it’s obvious it’s not working.