#UnderageIntercourse #TeenageDating #RelationshipAdvice
π An 18 year old girl tried to have intercourse with me (I am 16). What should I do? π€
As a 16-year-old, it’s normal to feel confused and uncertain about how to handle such a situation. It’s important to remember that you have the right to make your own choices when it comes to your body and your boundaries. In this article, we’ll discuss some important points to consider and provide guidance on how to navigate this delicate situation.
Understanding the legal implications
When it comes to the law, the age of consent varies by state and country. In many places, the legal age of consent is 16, but it’s crucial to research and understand the specific laws in your area. Engaging in any sexual activity with someone who is above the legal age of consent while you are below it could lead to legal implications for both parties involved.
Consider the power dynamics
It’s important to acknowledge that there may be a power imbalance in this situation due to the age difference. An 18-year-old may have more life experience and maturity compared to a 16-year-old. It’s essential to consider whether you feel comfortable and ready to engage in any sort of intimate relationship at this stage in your life.
Seeking guidance from trusted adults
If you’re feeling unsure about how to handle this situation, it’s a good idea to confide in a trusted adult. This could be a parent, guardian, teacher, or counselor who can provide you with the support and guidance you need to make informed decisions. Having a supportive and understanding adult in your corner can make a significant difference in navigating complex relationship dynamics.
Understanding your own feelings
Take the time to process your feelings about what happened. It’s okay to feel confused, anxious, or even pressured. Remember that your emotions are valid, and it’s important to give yourself the space to reflect on what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not.
Setting boundaries
Regardless of the age of the person involved, it’s crucial to establish and communicate your boundaries clearly. If someone is pressuring you or making you uncomfortable, it’s okay to assert your boundaries and remove yourself from the situation. Your well-being and comfort should always be a top priority.
Reflecting on the situation
It’s natural to question whether you should have done something differently in hindsight. However, it’s important to recognize that the responsibility for any inappropriate behavior lies with the individual who initiated it. You are not at fault for someone else’s actions, and it’s essential to prioritize your emotional well-being as you process what happened.
Moving forward
As you navigate this experience, remember that it’s okay to take your time in understanding and processing your emotions. Seek support from trusted individuals and focus on prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being as you move forward.
In conclusion, it’s essential to prioritize your own well-being and comfort in situations like these. Remember that you have the right to make your own choices and establish your own boundaries. Seeking guidance from trusted adults and processing your feelings are crucial steps in navigating complex relationship dynamics. You are not alone, and it’s okay to seek support as you navigate this experience.
You shouldn’t have done anything with her, you did the right thing bro
Fumble
You did good lad.
hopefully i never get in a situation like that thanks for sharing
What? No one tried having intercourse with you. She rubbed your hand. Donβt overthink it dude
If the roles was reversed cuh, you’d be serving 20 to life in the slamma π
You did the right thing
You did the right thing man, good on you. You are a good human being.
LMAO “iNtErCoUrSe” bro its jus sex! dont be afraid of the word SEXXXX
You definitely did the right thing. If you did the deed with her and she regretted it in the morning, you could have been charged with statutory rape
yeah that was definitely playing it safe since she was drunk
Smash always smash
I woulda hit that shit bro
A. Lucky bastard (I get no attention from women of any age except for my mum’s friends)
B. No, you did the right thing lad, keep going like that. It’s not consent if they won’t remember it in the morning.
bro you fumbled hard
If you need to ask this question then the answer is absolutely not. Laws vary state to state but in most it IS legal to have intercourse with somebody 16and 18 as long as the 18 year old isn’t on what is considered a position of authority. Like a teacher or cop or counselor etc. so don’t worry about that. But the fact that you didn’t feel comfortable is all the justification you EVER need to turn down any attention from anybody regardless of age. I can’t say that strongly enough if you are 16 18 or 40 if it doesn’t feel comfortable and right never feel bad for walking away.
people here be acting as if 16 and 18 are in different dimensions
you did good, definitely dont ever have sex with a severely intoxicated person even if you are drunk too. never a good idea.
People got to understand girls can be weird and go to far and that some boys just donβt wanna have sex
Nah you did the right thing, drunk people canβt consent, probably should have checked if she was alright tho, alcohol tend to bring the worst out of people if they get into a bad mental space while under the influence
All jokes aside, this might have been for the better that you didnβt take her up on that offer and realized something was wrong quickly. Regardless of who is found at fault, it would still have been tricky legally. Of course this is coming from someone who probably would have let it happen as I am not very smart, but kudos to you for doing what, ultimately, might have been the best thing to do
Wish that happened to me when I was that age.
Well depends on where you live (i’m guessing America) in Sweden age of consent is 15. If you liked her back or found her attractive I would say go for it. It could be seen as grooming on her part but 2 years ain’t a big difference. Age of consent laws are really only there to protect younger people from old creeps that tryna take advantage of u.
She did not try anything of the sort, you are delusional
You shouldβve yelled out βNO I DONT WANT FREE CANDYββ¦THAT wouldβve been the right thing to doπ
Aight good that you didn’t have intercourse but are you allowed to drink???
Am I missing something? She rubbed your hand and you thought she was going to have sex with you?
Sad situation, you made the right choice
Yeah, maybe thatβs why underage drinking is bad
Bro that’s attempted rape. You should tell someone ASAP
The law probably says no. However you two are the same age category so it’s nothing to worry about as far as inappropriate
18 year old here: no. Absolutely she shouldn’t have done it.
First, rubbing your hand and saying she likes you is not the same as “tried having intercourse”. Someone can like you and desire all kinds of physical touch but not intercourse.
Second, anyone under the influence of alcohol or drugs is NOT CAPABLE OF CONSENTING and you did the right thing by not taking the physical action any further. **Even if she said yes you should take it as a no if she is not sober.**
The only thing you could have perhaps done slightly better is to get her to safety so that she doesn’t get assaulted by other guys in her vulnerable state. One way to help do this is to locate the host, her closest or most mature/responsible friend, or family member at the party and let them know that she may have drank a little too much and may need some company and protection. And if she has no trusted friends left at the party, call her home and have family come pick her up. But you did well anyway. Congrats.
BRO A SENIOR IS INTO YOU?! WHAAAT NO WAY.