Are you wondering if it’s wrong for me to refuse to let my friend sell her concert ticket after she backed out of going with me? Should I have kept the ticket for myself instead of letting her profit off of it? #FriendshipDilemma #ConcertTicketIssue #AITA #BetrayedByFriend #ConcertExcitement #FinancialSituation.
## Background Story
– Wanted to attend a concert for years
– Got presale code and secured ticket
– Agreed to buy friend a ticket with her promising to pay back
– Friend no longer wants to go and plans to sell ticket for a profit
– Friend’s actions feel like betrayal
– Suspicions that friend’s intention was to resell ticket all along
## Your Input
– Opted to keep both tickets for yourself
– Explained the situation to friend and refunded money immediately
Do you think I’m justified in holding onto the concert ticket despite my friend wanting to sell it? #FriendshipDrama #TicketResaleControversy #EthicalDilemma.
NTA, go with a friend, and dump her.
NTA. She reimbursed your outlay of money for the plan that you two would go to the concert together. She didn’t want to follow through with the plan, and never had possession of the ticket, so you gave her the money back, and you’re free and clear to take another friend.
The agreement was she would go with you. So I don’t see you as the ass hole for wanting to enjoy the concert with someone you know rather than sitting by a stranger. NTA. you may not have a friend after but you are entitled to the ticket if you already gave the friend back the money. If it wasn’t for you and your pre-sale code, friend wouldn’t have a ticket to sell anyways.
NTA. Technically, you own both tickets and have the right to resell them.
Also was thinking that this might have been the plan all along and she just wanted to make money off of you.
NTA. She was using you and got caught out. Enjoy the concert with a real friend
NTA. Give her back her money and find someone you like to attend the concert with you.
NTA. What she’s proposing is a crappy thing to do to a friend. You control the ticket so luckily can just tell her no. She says it’s “hers” because she paid for it, but (1) that doesn’t seem to be clearly the case and (2) it’s still a crappy thing to do, regardless.
As to whether she is legally entitled to the ticket to do with what she pleases – we’re not here to give legal advice – but I’ll at least muse over what seem like some legal considerations. Some would say the second she paid in full, the ticket became “hers” to do with what she pleases. However, it’s really matter of what your “contract” was, which in this case there was not a written legal contract so it was spoken or implied. I think it’s arguable that since you got the pre-sale code and held both tickets together in your account and offered her access to the ticket at face value *to go with you –* the ticket is and was always yours, and it was implied that you maintained control over it and her payment gave her a “right” to use it *with you* – not to resell it from your account to whomever she pleases. In that case, it’s still your ticket and you can remove her right to use it by paying her back, which you’re doing. Ppl will say “nope, payment = ownership” but that’s not always the case. Imagine if it was a reimbursement to share a hotel room with you. Then it would be obvious she couldn’t resell her place to a stranger, you’d try to work it out as you have with the concert ticket.
Nope, NTA. Tickets are in your name, and you returned her money. You handled it exactly right. She’s a bad friend and she can kick rocks.
NTA
Your friend paid $X for the ticket and should get $X back if you give her ticket to someone else. If she wanted to buy the ticket as an investment, she should have bought it herself in the first place.
NTA. You paid for the tickets and waited months for your “friend” to pay you for the one they expressed interest in. The tickets are in your name, so just giving their money back sets everything even. They don’t get to make money off of your efforts. If they really want the ticket now you should charge the going market rate.
NTA. You still have 2 tickets and she gave you money to come with you, if she changes her mind then you can give her money back and use ticket however you want, the transaction was not finalized as you didn’t transfer her ticket to her but it’s still in your account.
Nta. Sounds like this was her plan. Sell it at a reasonable price to someone you like so you still get to enjoy your experience. You shouldn’t have to go alone because your friend is an AH
100% NTA
I have tickets for this show. I have two. I have plans to go with a friend.
If something happened and she couldn’t attend I would, without a doubt, be taking someone else of my choosing.
The fact your friend thinks it’s acceptable to make a profit out of ruining your plans and having you stood at the concert (generally emotional) on your own makes them TA and not you.
NTA, you would have chosen a different friend to go with if you knew that she was just wanting to get one to sell.
That said, she will likely look at this as you keeping the money she could have sold it for. Right or wrong, your friendship may not endure this. In that case though she was never really a friend in the beginning.
NTA, this friend sucks.
NTA. If you have a friend who is ready to come with you, you will have much more fun.
I don’t know in which country you are going and if tickets are transferrable or can even be resold officially, but if she thinks about selling it 10 times its value then it won’t be official resale (which supposedly not authorized in most European countries). If she scans anyone (like selling twice), it will fall down on you as you are the account owner.
I don’t know how much you trust her, but apart from my direct family, I don’t think I would trust anyone enough to take this risk.
(Everything could go smoothly, but as she won’t be linked to the sale, you are taking all the risks).
I don’t know when you are going but I hope you will enjoy.
NTA…good thing it’s in your name. Just refund what she paid and go have fun with another friend.
Nta.
The two of you had a deal, and she has backed out of it. You have made her fiscally whole again by returning the money she paid, and what the future holds for you and those two tickets is totally for you to choose.
You did her big favor by fronting the money for the ticket And for her turn around and do this really makes me question her motivation as well.
She wants to use the loan you gave her 5 months to make money. She didn’t have either the presale code or the money at the time to get the ticket so without either of those things she would not have been able to get the tickets. NTA!
NTA.
Not only did you ensure there was a deal on the tickets, but you also did the work of getting the tickets. And more importantly, the plan was for you two to go TOGETHER. Any time something like this has happened in my life, my friends always ask “do you want to go with someone else or want me to sell the ticket” because most people wouldn’t want to go alone, and that’s regardless of who paid. It is just the polite thing to do.
And luckily, you control the tickets, so I think you did the right thing by just giving her the money back and keeping it. Take someone else and have a great time!
My judgement is the same regardless as to whether she did this intentionally or not. Even if it was a dire emergency, I wouldn’t let her sell the ticket, just give her the money back and take someone else.
NTA. I also have tickets for this tour, including for one show tickets for a couple of friends to go with me. I did all the work to be able to buy the tickets (which as anyone who has bought tickets for that tour knows, is no easy feat with email signups and presale only etc.) and I purchased the tickets with my funds. If either of my friend decided they didn’t want to go anymore, or couldn’t, I’d refund them the face value price that they reimbursed me for. I would not under any circumstances still give them the ticket so they could resell it to a random stranger I’d have to sit next to for some insane profit. If anyone is going to make an insane profit over a ticket I did all the work to buy, and bought originally, that’s no longer going to be used, it is going to be me, lol. And I wouldn’t be an AH for it and neither are you.
Whether you decide to bring another friend and gift them the ticket, or bring another friend who pays you for the ticket (whether face value or at an increased price you charge), or you resell the ticket to a stranger on the open market and make a huge profit, you are not the AH in any of those scenarios. As long as you refund the flaky friend the amount she paid you, you’re not an AH and you are morally/ethically in the right.
As an aside, if you are considering selling the ticket, I would love to be considered to purchase it for a resale price (higher than face value) – depending on the city/date. The artist has been my favorite FOREVER and it means so much to me to see her perform in person I will do crazy things to do so. ☺️
NTA, if you reimbursed her then you have done your job. Just so you think about this; there will be a complete stranger on your other side anyways. With that said; sell that other ticket yourself and pay for driver to take you and pick you up from the concert. It would be safer than you walking the parking lot alone.
NTA yeah it definitely sounds like she used you for money here
If tix in op’s name then friend hasn’t the right or ability to sell to anyone.
Nta, she’s mad u saw through her sneekyness
If she wanted to sell tickets she should have bought some to sell, not use you like a credit card. NTA, you bought two, if she doesn’t want it you are in control of who sits beside you and who buys it and for how much.
NTA. I ended up getting a ticket to the Eras tour at face value specifically because someone tried to pull this on a friend of mine.
She was like nope and offered it to me instead. I had that Venmo in her account like five minutes later, I wasn’t about to waste that chance
I’m just curious why do you think this was her plan all along? Do you have some sort of advantage that allows you to get one of these coveted presale codes?
By the way, you’re going to have a great time. Beyoncs is absolutely amazing!
Depending on where you live, selling a concert ticket for more than the advertised price is illegal. Even if it isn’t against the law, you’re still NTA.
NTA.
If something smells fishy to you, there’s probably fish. Even if she didn’t plan this all along, it’s messed up to try and force you to go alone for her profit. I don’t imagine she offered to share the profit for your trouble?
Also, predatory ticket resellers are TA anyways.
NTA. You bought the tickets, one for you and one for a guest that was supposed to be her.
If she doesn’t want to go now, she is only entitled to the money back that she gave you for the ticket to be your chosen guest and nothing more.
NTA…sell both tickets and send her a picture from your vacation.
NTA, that’s such a shitty thing to do to a friend. Also, can she even sell it if it’s not in her name? Whenever I’ve bought/sold tickets they’re quite particular about the name on the ticket and preventing people from selling tickets over the original price that was paid for them.