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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel like you have to purposely make yourself unattractive for your best friend’s boyfriend? It can be a tricky and uncomfortable position to be in, especially when you care deeply about your friend and want to maintain a healthy relationship with her. In this article, we will explore some tips and advice on how to navigate this sensitive situation while still respecting your friendship and yourself.
## Understanding the dynamics
It’s important to first understand the dynamics at play in this situation. Your best friend’s boyfriend may find you attractive, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he is interested in pursuing anything beyond a friendship with you. It’s also crucial to recognize that your friend may be feeling insecure or threatened by the attention her boyfriend may give you, even if it’s innocent.
## Communication is key
One of the best ways to address this situation is through open and honest communication with your best friend. Here are some tips on how to approach the conversation:
1. Express your concerns: Let your friend know that you value your friendship and would never do anything to jeopardize it. Assure her that you have no romantic feelings towards her boyfriend and that your intention is to support her.
2. Reassure her: Remind your friend of all the wonderful qualities she possesses and why her boyfriend is lucky to have her. Make sure she feels secure in your friendship and trust.
3. Set boundaries: If your friend continues to feel uncomfortable, discuss setting boundaries that make both of you feel respected and secure in your friendship. This could include limiting one-on-one time with her boyfriend or being more conscious of how you present yourself when he is around.
4. Listen actively: Be prepared to listen to your friend’s concerns and insecurities without getting defensive. Validate her feelings and offer support in finding a solution that works for both of you.
## Embrace your own attractiveness
While it’s important to respect your friend’s feelings, it’s also crucial to embrace your own attractiveness and self-worth. Here are some tips on how to feel confident in yourself without compromising your friendship:
– Dress for yourself: Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself, regardless of who may be around. You deserve to feel confident and comfortable in your own skin.
– Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Self-love and self-care are essential components of feeling confident and attractive.
– Focus on your strengths: Celebrate your unique qualities, talents, and achievements. Remember that your worth is not defined by your physical appearance.
## Conclusion
Navigating the dynamics of attractiveness within friendships can be challenging, especially when a best friend’s boyfriend is involved. It’s important to prioritize open communication, empathy, and respect in addressing any concerns or insecurities that may arise. By focusing on building a strong foundation of trust and understanding with your friend, you can navigate this situation with grace and integrity while still embracing your own attractiveness. Remember, true friendship is built on love, trust, and mutual respect.
You sound like a cool person, tbh. It’s very nice of you to do so, but you shouldn’t feel obligated to change in your own apartment, especially when she is bringing him over unannounced.
You should have a threesome
She’s not capable of being your friend, she’s too insecure I would slowly stop being her friend she’s what I call a frenemy. You’ve experienced it before and sadly it never ends thats why I’m my own best friend
First and foremost, it’s your apartment…that one is completely on her. Second, you already sound like a really good friend by caring about her feelings. That being said, you have to still be yourself…and as long as your not dressing with the idea of “attracting his attention”, then you all groovey. That’s the only situation I can think of that would be fucked up to do. But you still gotta do ya thing girl.
Do it. Friendship requires sacrifice.
This reeks of humble/backdoor (literally) bragging
they prob won’t last i’d keep wearing make up and booty shorts that’s just me. she doesn’t own him, you, or the apartment. free country and all that
Has she voiced any concerns about him potentially liking you? If she haven’t explicitly said something, you shouldn’t try to fix a situation that haven’t happened yet, worst case scenario is that you create a problem that wasn’t there to begin with.
Sure you might have experienced similar situations in the past, but that is your own past trauma and I would be careful to apply that to her current relationship situation.
Screw that. She needs to step her game up.
why are you asking us? talk to your friend, and if she is your actual friend then you guys can talk it over without any hard feelings
This isn’t healthy – you can’t purposely try to alter your appearance and behaviour to be “more ugly” for the sake of your friend. This will take a toll on you. Just be yourself.
You shouldn’t change how you do you in your own place. Insecurity is her problem, she should trust you both better than that.
Edit: I say this as someone who has been cheated on and isn’t really over it. If you can’t trust you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
Pretty problems. I bet this girl is hawt
I don’t see anything wrong with you toning down what you’re wearing when you know he is coming around with her, but you changing your make up and doing any of this ALL the time even when he is not around is catering a bit too much to your friend. You are allowed to be yourself regardless of who she is dating. The fact that you even WANT to do something to make her more comfortable says loads about you being a good friend. Don’t let her insecurities make you feel like you are doing something wrong when you are in fact being considerate of her and her feelings.
Could this possibly be all in your head? You personally think you’re better looking than her and assume she thinks the same. Maybe the fact you’re going so extra to make yourself look bad makes your friend even more insecure.
I’m not saying this is wrong by the way… like… love yourself and all that. Just a genuine suggestion.
She compliments you in front of him and she had dream of you and him having sex?
Girl, she wants you to fuck her bf, while she watch
That’s kinda on her. Honestly she sounds insecure, so the first thing you could do is to reassure her that you don’t like her bf and he doesn’t like you.
Also you should tell her that you’d appreciate if she tells you even with 10/15 minutes before that she’s on her way to your apartment, maybe put it in a way that you’d like to be more presentable and you don’t feel too comfortable especially if she brings someone you don’t know too much.
Her dreams aren’t things you made; I’d be understanding if she acts a little bit weird, but still you did nothing!
Spit in her face while blasting GG Allin and enjoy your life away from trash people like her.
Ya, don’t shower & floss yer teeth infont of em. 👌
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3 ways to solve this
Don’t let anyone change you (plus it’s your apartment).
No girl, you do you. That’s your apartment and she brought him over without you knowing. Show that booty loud and proud 🍑. The least she can do is communicate with you respectfully and honestly
You aren’t responsible for her insecurities. She needs to work in her own self. Changing how you dress only lends strength to her insecurity.
That’s on her, don’t let her insecurities make you uncomfortable in your own apartment. Hopefully, she can get over it so you two can still be friends.
That seems like a silly thing to do
No, just dress how you want