#AnimalAbuse #RelationshipAdvice #CatLover #BoyfriendTroubles #DomesticViolence
Hey there! 🐱 If you’re reading this, chances are you’re in a tough spot and looking for some guidance on a difficult situation with your boyfriend. First off, I want to commend you for seeking advice and taking a stand against animal abuse. It’s not an easy thing to do, but it shows strength and compassion. So, let’s dive into this topic and see if we can navigate through this together.
Understanding Your Feelings
It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling upset and conflicted after witnessing your boyfriend’s violent act towards the cat. As someone who loves and cares for your feline friend, it’s natural to feel protective and outraged when they are mistreated. Remember, your feelings are valid, and it’s important to acknowledge and process them.
Assessing the Situation
It’s crucial to take a step back and assess the gravity of the incident. Reflect on the dynamics of your relationship with your boyfriend and whether this incident is an isolated occurrence or part of a pattern of concerning behavior. Here are a few things to consider:
1. Was this a one-time outburst, or is there a history of aggression from your boyfriend?
2. How does your boyfriend typically treat animals and other living beings?
3. Have there been other issues in your relationship that have contributed to mounting tension and frustration?
Seeking Advice and Support
When faced with a challenging situation like this, it can be helpful to seek advice from trusted individuals. Talking to friends, family members, or a counselor can provide valuable insights and support as you navigate through this difficult time. Additionally, reaching out to organizations or hotlines that specialize in animal welfare and domestic violence can offer resources and guidance tailored to your situation.
Examining Your Options
It’s important to explore your options and consider the next steps in your relationship. This may involve having open and honest conversations with your boyfriend about his behavior and seeking reassurance that it won’t happen again. However, if you feel unsafe or uneasy about moving forward, it’s absolutely okay to prioritize your well-being and consider parting ways.
Drawing Inspiration from Ancient Wisdom
In times of moral and emotional dilemma, finding guidance in timeless teachings can offer comfort and clarity. The Bhagavad Gita, an ancient Hindu scripture, provides profound insights on duty, righteousness, and the pursuit of inner peace. One teaching that resonates with your situation is the importance of standing up against injustice and preserving the well-being of all beings.
Advice from Bhagavad Gita (Unmentioned Source)
The Bhagavad Gita teaches us the concept of Dharma, which is the duty to act in accordance with righteousness and uphold moral principles. In your case, it’s evident that your empathy for the cat and your inclination to stand up against animal abuse aligns with your sense of Dharma. Remember, it’s essential to prioritize compassion and ethical behavior in your relationships and actions.
Final Thoughts
As you navigate through this trying time, remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel safe and respected. It’s okay to set boundaries and make choices that prioritize your well-being and the well-being of those around you, including your beloved cat. Whether you choose to address the incident with your boyfriend, seek support from loved ones, or consider a new direction for your relationship, trust in your instincts and prioritize kindness and compassion in all your decisions. You are worthy of love and respect, and it’s okay to take the necessary steps to protect yourself and the beings you care for. You’ve got this!
>Is it understandable if I end it?
You never need someone’s confirmation nor validation to break up.
Kicking an animal is not normal behavior. Yes, you leave… immediately and as safely as possible.
You don’t need to over explain yourself. Have his stuff boxed up. State plainly that you don’t feel the same way as you used to and you’re done. Make sure you have someone on stand by if he refuses to leave.
Any kind of disdain or violence against animals is a huge red flag to me.
You should definitely tell your boyfriend that what he did was disgusting and that you can’t see him the same way anymore.
Men who abuse animals will end up abusing women. He will abuse you the moment he thinks he locked you down (moving in together, you getting pregnant! Or something similar). This is who he is.
Anyone who harms an animal is not a person you should have in your life. I also hate him just from reading this.
Ending it is the only sensible reaction.
You’re perfectly in your right to break up with him. You mentioned that you’ve been having problems and it seems that this simply was the last straw.
Dump his ass.
If my gf would kick a cat id dump her ass aswell.
Oh I would have walked away right at that moment. Thats beyond an ick. Absolutely repulsive behavior
I would’ve left right there. That’s unhinged and not the kind of person to trust in my life.
I think there are degrees, ie our HUGE and vicious old cat once climbed my dad’s leg and I didn’t blame him for a second for shaking him off especially when he started biting him in the groin, similarly my ex dashed out of the shower when the same cat was scaring me and he didn’t kick him but made himself really scary. Both acceptable. If a cat was kicked hard enough to send it flying I’d be having second thoughts too.
He’s just shown you who he is OP.
Listen to him first time.
Your whole being it telling you there’s something very wrong here – and it’s not just about the cat.
Listen to your gut and let him go. You don’t have to explain, or apologise or justify. You just tell him it’s not working out for you anymore.
I’d end contact with anyone hurting harmless animals. My mom hates stray cats and wants nothing to do with them. She still stops her car and just shoos them away with her hand in the air.
>Is it understandable if I end it?
Any time you fall out of love with someone, it’s understandable to end the relationship. I’m not sure if you’ve fallen out of love with him, but is harming an innocent, already unfortunate animal enough reason to? Yes, I believe it is. I would never look at that person the same way again.
I am a firm believer that how people treat animals says a lot about who they are as a person. His reaction was way out of line and is a huge red flag for me. I would 100% leave him.
Ok. I’m totally going to be the odd man out for this take. But I’ve ‘kicked’ a cat. Now I don’t mean maliciously struck him with my leg/foot to punt him across the room. But my cat is not a nice cat. I love him anyways, pets are for life. Sometimes he comes at my legs and will scratch and bite. Sometimes it’s in a playful manner and I can throw a toy or scoot away. Sometimes it’s more aggressive and I have scooped him with my foot and as gently as I could tossed him away from me so I could escape. To the outside, probably looked like I kicked him. I think context means a lot here. Was he just annoyed and kicked the cat and was aggressive about it? Oh hell no, dump that guy asap. Was he a bit freaked out by a stray (possibly disease carrying) cat scratching him trying to get his food and so he moved it away from him? I might give him a second chance.
Your visceral reaction is telling you everything you need to know.
If more women listened to their instincts, fewer men would be able to hurt them.
We often have these reactions & then rationalise ourselves out of them. We gaslight ourselves & allow others to tell us we are overreacting.
Many survivors will tell stories like these about the early years of a relationship.
You never need someone else’s permission to act on what you know to be your truth. This is a perfect example. Listen to that feeling.
Do not think about breaking up with him, do it.
Never stay with anybody who will just casually hurt an animal
Just text him and tell him that his actions are unforgivable, and that the relationship is over. Do not give him a chance to try and talk his way back in.
Casual violence toward an animal is not a good look on a partner. Hating someone who hurts an animal isn’t a bad thing!
Based on your post history, this is just the straw that broke the camels back. Stop playing in the mud girl. Get out.
The way people treat animals is very telling. You don’t need to question your gut on this one Op.
First off he could have killed it, and I would never stay with someone that can abuse a cat or any animal. They have huge anger issues that can be turned on people. Yeah break up and in my area harm or killing an animal is punishable with jail/prison time….
Why are you still thinking?
Dude, he kicked an innocent animal- what is there to think about? Pack up and move on.
The way people treat animals matters
End it!
When people tell you who they are, believe them.
Cruelty towards animals is like the prime indicator of an abusive person.
I would be reconsidering the whole thing if i were you.
Unless it was a light tap with his foot. I sometimes have to do it when my furry bastard refuses to move while im going down the stairs.
i would leave him too, this isn’t okay
He”ll kick you next.
Personally, I wouldn’t be with a person who would kick an animal (unless it was like a rushing biting bear, in self defense or something).
If you want to end your relationship, *any* reason is a valid reason. Only you can decide that.
INFO: Could it have been a reflexive kick from being clawed or taken by surprise?
Whatever you decide though ghosting is a crappy think to do especially if you have been together that long, adult up and speak him if you are going to leave or need some time etc.
If you break up with him make sure he knows why. Not because he deserves to know but so that he hopefully changes his behavior and we can spare another animal from being abused by this dick.
I would 100% break up with someone if they kicked a cat.