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Is it wrong to lie about where I met my partner? 🤔 This is a common dilemma for many people who have met their significant others online, especially on platforms that are not typically associated with long-term relationships or traditional dating. Whether it’s a fetish website, a casual hookup app, or any other unconventional platform, the question of whether to be honest about the origins of your relationship can be a difficult one to navigate.
In this article, we’ll explore the pros and cons of lying about where you met your partner, as well as provide some tips for handling this potentially awkward situation with grace and honesty. We’ll also discuss the impact of societal attitudes towards online dating and offer some insight into how to approach this topic with your family, friends, and other acquaintances.
The Pros and Cons of Lying About Where You Met
There are certainly arguments to be made for both honesty and discretion when it comes to sharing the origins of your relationship. Here are some of the pros and cons to consider:
Pros of being honest:
– Authenticity and integrity in your relationship
– Avoiding the stress of maintaining a lie
– Challenging societal stigmas about unconventional meeting places
Cons of being honest:
– Potential judgment or scrutiny from others
– Uncomfortable conversations about personal details
– Risk of negative reactions or misconceptions
Tips for Handling Awkward Questions and Conversations
When faced with inquiries about how you and your partner met, it’s important to approach the situation with a level head and a prepared response. Here are some tips for handling these potentially awkward conversations with grace and honesty:
1. Be prepared with a vague but truthful response: If you’re uncomfortable sharing the specific details of your meeting place, consider crafting a general but honest response. For example, you could simply say “we met online” without divulging the specific platform.
2. Emphasize the connection, not the meeting place: When discussing your relationship with others, focus on the meaningful connection you have with your partner rather than the circumstances of your initial meeting. This can help shift the conversation away from potentially uncomfortable details.
3. Set boundaries with intrusive questions: If someone presses for more specific details about where you met, it’s okay to politely deflect the question or assert your boundaries. You can simply say that you prefer to keep the details of your meeting private and hope they will respect that.
Navigating Societal Attitudes Towards Online Dating
The stigma surrounding online dating, especially on unconventional platforms, is slowly shifting as more and more people meet their partners through digital means. However, there are still lingering misconceptions and judgments that can make it difficult to be open about where you met your partner. Here are some strategies for navigating societal attitudes towards meeting people online:
– Embrace the changing landscape of dating: Online dating and meeting people through digital platforms is becoming increasingly common and accepted. Remind yourself that your relationship is valid regardless of where you met.
– Surround yourself with supportive individuals: Seek out friends, family members, and other acquaintances who are open-minded and supportive. It’s important to have a network of people who will understand and respect your relationship regardless of its origins.
– Challenge stereotypes and stigmas: If you feel comfortable doing so, consider speaking out against misconceptions and stigmas about meeting people online. By sharing your positive experience, you can help change attitudes and perceptions.
Ultimately, the decision of whether to be honest about where you met your partner is a deeply personal one. It’s important to consider your own comfort level, as well as the potential impact on your relationship and interactions with others. Remember that your relationship is valid and meaningful regardless of its origins, and prioritize honesty and authenticity in your interactions with others.
In conclusion, while it may feel tempting to lie about where you met your partner in order to avoid judgment or discomfort, honesty and authenticity are important foundations for any relationship. By approaching awkward questions with grace and setting boundaries with intrusive inquiries, you can navigate this potentially tricky situation with integrity and confidence. Remember that societal attitudes towards online dating are evolving, and your relationship is valid regardless of where you met your partner.
nah keep that to yourself or just say online like tinder or something
I’d just say you met on tinder. And I don’t think it’s wrong. It’s none of their business.
Honestly, even if you met through church, it’s no one’s business. I don’t tend to give out that information at work and not even to most family or friends because I’m very private. I’d say you met through friends and move on.
You could try saying “oh we matched online, then [insert segway into first date]” It’s related enough to the initial question, and probably more interesting or relatable for them anyways, assuming they didn’t meet their partner online. Best of luck!
Edit: oh shit and to answer your initial question, I don’t think so. It’s a private, often stigmatized part of yourself. Up to you to decide, tho
“Where did you two meet?”
“We met on Nunya.”
“Nunya?,What’s that?”
“Nunya bizness!!”
It’s a sweet little lie you will only have to say once or twice. Just don’t make it too extravagant.
My son was conceived with a wookie in a van at a music festival in the hills behind Santa Barbara. Do I tell people this insanity? Yes I do. Does it leave them speechless? Yes it does. The goal is to shut them up, I lean towards shock and awe.
It’s ok to fib if your partner is cool with it too.
Of course, I would think saying “we met online” would be satisfying enough, and if they grill you further, I don’t think you should be ashamed to say “a hookup sight” so long as they understand that what you have together is genuine.
I’d say to communicate with this lovely new partner on this and see if you two can come to an agreed upon “story” for how you met… 🤷🏻♀️
Just say you met on an online dating website. Keep it as vague as possible.
You met them online. Poof problem solved.
i was my girlfriends #1 onlyfans subscriber and thats how we met. I tell people the truth and they think its fine. Its really up to you nothing wrong with lying tho
This is where the 2 of you sit down & agree which sites you met on.
I’ve not told one person we met on collarspace in 13 years!!
Some things are better left a mystery.
Lie if you want. Just get your partner to agree how you met. Personally, I think the truth always comes out and it’s a conversation starter so just be open and honest.
Nah, you are okay with not telling them.
Get with your partner and agree on something, so in case the question comes up more in the future!
What’s this app called? For research purposes of course.
You met through some work friends
Have some fun – tell them you met in jail (but not prison)
First thing First. When your telling a lie anyone involved in said lie. Should know this lie. Pretty much talk to you’re wife. Tell her how you feel about it. And the both of you figure out what to say. One it’s covering your ass. Two you don’t wanna surprise you’re wife and could make her feel you’re a shamed of her.
Could say the place you first met in real life, off the net. (Unless it was a dungeon or the like, LoL)
But if you met after the introduction online, somewhere for coffee r drinks, dinner, etc. Could say there?
Edit; I forgot to say awesome and bless ya’s! Not easy to meet someone who is a kindred spirit!
Those who met in 12 step programs have a similar problem. They say through mutual friends. (“Bill”)
Just say facebook. I know how you feel. Hahahhahaa
What’s the fetish dating web site? All I know is fetlife and it’s sketchy.
It’s nobody’s business how you met if telling the truth makes you uncomfortable. And you can just say you met on a dating site and be vague. Like there’s a hundred dating sites. If pressed just say you were on a bunch of them. Could’ve been okcupid or hinge etc
Met them at the store, you pick which one, and went for coffee. The rest is history.
Everybody has their kinks and stuff. If you don’t want them to know just don’t tell them.
You don’t owe anybody shit tell them whatever the fuck you want (but if you really want to be open with people for your own sake then just tell them you met on a dating site the fact that it is a fetish site is pretty much irrelevant it’s a place to network, casual encounters, and potential relationships just like any “dating site”)
“I met online! Oh, which app…you know, I don’t even remember – I was on a couple at the time”
whats the fet? just curious
What was the FWB site?! Asking for a friend
You don’t even need to lie, just keep it generic until you find something specific you’re comfortable sharing.
“Oh, we met online then we linked through (Facebook/Myspace/LinkedIn/Club Penguin/etc.) and had a great time in person at (generic first date information).”
The important thing is to keep the conversation flowing from the generic ‘Online’ to the specific non-kink platforms you two actually used to communicate.
Feeld?
Just say you met them on a dating platform.
Like 9 out of 10 people in a miserable relationship, which is draggin on way to long either way, will find this “funny” already and wont ask any further.
If they ask, you wrote, you met up, you liked each other and you dated.
Just say it without saying it. If I met someone a girl at a bukkake party I’d tell everyone we met at a home cumming.
no i met mine at my friends funeral while he was on a date with my other friend. don’t even ask. “we met through friends” is all i ever say
Don’t insist upon yourself. It’s never a good look. I prefer The Canadian Way. “Well we met! Oh we met in person! Oh here in Toronto!” If a rude guest presses the subject, “Why I do declare, I don’t know what you mean!” Putting your foot down is sometimes a last resort. Deflect and change the subject. Typically saying what city you met in and your first date night location works. We met at Whole Foods. If they press you for more information, describe the first actual date. Don’t fall into the traps of a nosey dinner party guest. If they press hard, “I’m sure I don’t know what you mean,” then attend to other guests at the party.
Plenty of Fish, J-Date, one of those, who can remember? We’re fantastic though, thanks for asking!
So there I was, waiting my turn….
Just say you met online it’s not lying it’s just a vague response
When I was online dating — this was back in the late 90s when it was still somewhat taboo — I was matched with one woman who had a plan for this.
Her profile stated that her ideal first date would include crafting a story we could tell our families about how we met, so we didn’t have to cop to the truth.
You could make that a creative date night activity with this person. Might be fun.
“We met online”
You have no obligation to be 100% honest with people about stuff like that.
Honesty is usually the best policy, but sometimes people get really hung up on little details like that. Take it from me, a guy who used to work at a warehouse for a porn company.
If you just say you met them online, you technically are still being honest.
Just tell them exactly where and how you two met and once you’re finished, just stare directly into their eyes and don’t blink. This will establish dominance.