RelationshipAdvice: Dealing with an Abusive Partner 💔
Hey there, it’s important to prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. In a situation like this, where you’ve been physically assaulted by someone you’re seeing, it’s crucial to approach it with caution and seek support.
Assessing the Situation
First and foremost, it’s essential to recognize that violence is never acceptable in any relationship. Regardless of the circumstances or excuses provided, physical harm is a red flag. It’s great that you’ve decided to meet him in a public place, where you’ll have people around. This shows that you’re taking steps to protect yourself.
Seeking Support
Consider reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, or a support hotline for guidance and emotional support. Talking to someone can provide you with perspective and help you navigate this challenging situation.
Safety Plan
It’s imperative to have a safety plan in place in case the situation escalates. Make sure someone knows where you are, have access to a way to call for help if needed, and have a safe space to go to if required.
Communicating Boundaries
During your meeting, clearly communicate your boundaries and expectations. Express how his actions have made you feel and make it clear that violence in any form is unacceptable. If he becomes aggressive or tries to manipulate you, don’t hesitate to walk away and seek help.
Self-Care and Healing
Remember to prioritize self-care during this time. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor to process your emotions and experiences. Healing from emotional and physical abuse takes time, so be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process.
Moving Forward
Ultimately, the decision to continue or end the relationship is entirely yours. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety and well-being above all else. It’s never too late to seek help and make positive changes in your life.
Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and love. Don’t hesitate to reach out for support and guidance as you navigate this challenging situation. You are strong, and you have the power to make decisions that are best for you. 💪🌟
Stay safe and take care of yourself. You are not alone. 💖
If you are in immediate danger, please call emergency services or a local domestic violence hotline. Your safety is the top priority.
Dear all amazing people,
I went to the kitchen to cook something and I simply lost track of how many comments are here. Thank you a lot!! Sometimes a stranger can be better than a friend in these kind of situations. I did get a few more texts from him. Luckily he doesn’t try to call me. I was honest with him, did not play any mind games. I told him I think he is dangerous for me and I don’t want to meet him.
He started telling me how stressful the job is, how a long flight affects him and how extremely tired he is. I didn’t even try to tell him being tired doesn’t make one violent. Maybe irritated yes, easily upset, yes. But not violent. I told him how my cheek hurts and how difficult for me is to eat. His response was “oh c mon, it was a mistake from my side, but I barely felt on on my hand. It’s not possible you really have this pain”. I say I don’t care what he thinks. But if he really is so tired and stressed he should seek professional help or will end up in jail. He didn’t take it well and asked me if I try to play smart with him. I didn’t enter his game this time either. I told him he has anger issues and I have no idea whether is job related or not. None of my business. But a psychologist is the person he needs to see, not me if he cannot control himself.
He said then, that I have no idea how many other women want him (which I do think it can be true, as I was one of them and I don’t fall easy for men, plus his job is a slightly atypical one which may attract women). I said fine. Try to not break their jaw, bye.
He didn’t see the message yet.
The fact that you are even thinking about giving this abuser the time of day after this incident says a lot about your lack of self respect.
Just run. He will do it again. And it will get worse.
So he’s good looking but he is violent .
How is this a genuine question?
If one of your friends told you this what would you tell them today. Do let him anywhere near you .
What more is there to say? He slapped you so hard you were knocked to the floor is excuse was he was tired? You owe him nothing
Unless you enjoy being slapped around, you should probably take this as the sign to run. If you are into getting your head kicked in, consider seeing this person long term.
You are not the first, and you won’t be the last. Please report him for the sake of other future victims. This guy needs to learn a lesson
If you didn’t make a police report then I don’t even feel sorry for you. What do you mean should you meet with him? Yes, go meet with a guy who abused you. Good idea. JFC have some self worth and make a police report and report this to his airline because he’s probably done this before.
You need to file him and leave him.
No
Please don’t go!!!
Don’t meet with him again. It doesn’t matter what he thinks – he is a nasty, small, mean little man who is not worth a dime. Trying to explain your job situation to him is pointless – he will still look down on you, and then you’ll feel bad all over again.
Chalk it up to life experience, OP.
men who hit women are often not the type to accept criticism. you’ll make more progress yelling at a brick wall i think…. not worth the stress IMO
He doesn’t feel bad for hitting you as he is using excuses to justify his abusive behavior. Have some self respect and don’t even meet up with him. Cut him off. Any chance you give him will let him know he can get away with things and next time you may have a broken bone or worse.
This sounds dangerous and not worth it. This guy is an abuser with an ego, he’s a straight up predator. I would keep my distance.
There is no reason to meet with him that will benefit you. Odds are he wants to try to gaslight/manipulate you into continuing to see him. The fact that he acted offended when you told him you wanted to meet in public and tried to talk you out of it is also a big red flag. You don’t owe him anything.
I literally *can not* deal with the stupidity on here sometimes.
This man belittles you. He yells at you. HE SLAPPED YOU TO THE GROUND. And then after you stood up for yourself, he hit you again? Did I read that right?? And now you’re asking if you should see him tomorrow.
Jesus fucking Christ. **No you don’t see him** You don’t see him in public and you sure as hell don’t see him in private. You think you have something to prove by trying to convince him that you *”like your job”* and telling him that he’s a jerk?
Stop acting like you have something to prove to this abusive asshole. If you really want to prove your worth, then you tell him that you have *self respect* and there’s nothing left to discuss between the two of you. You will not be seeing him, and it’s over effective immediately. Hang up the phone. If he tries to call you back or text you. Ignore. If he won’t stop then let him know that you are filing a police report for ASSAULT because that’s exactly what he did.
No no no. Please don’t meet up with him again. Start away from him. Please
No
Tell him that he ought to seek professional help via text and don’t meet him
Run. When people show who they are the first time you should believe em’. He already told what he thinks of you.
OP: Why the everloving F would you even meet this excuse for a human being again?!
You should not meet with him ever again, under any circumstances. He hit you.
I bet he is planning to punish you a hell of a lot worse for trying to leave him. It’s been 4 mos and he already hit you. Don’t walk away, RUN AWAY omg
I’m so scared for you! I’m really glad you’re meeting him in a public place, but I worry he’ll convince you to go somewhere else after you meet. I’m scared that you’ll believe his apology and how “sorry” he will claim to be. I’m sad that you want to spend even 1 second talking to a man that slapped you. He doesn’t deserve any of your time or your thoughts. Even one meeting is an opportunity for him to manipulate you into being with him. I really hope you can cut him out of your life like a cancer, and not give him another second of your time.
Nope. Do not put yourself in danger.
I’m sure he knows he’s a dick. I’d skip this. He’s lucky you didn’t get his ass arrested